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Unread 02-19-2004, 05:40 PM
my doctor broke my heart

Well, I finally got to talk to my doctor... She really broke my heart... She informed me that she would no longer prescribe anything for pain as and I qoute " You are addicted". "You are in a great deal of pain but I just gave you a script last week." That is all I give my ladies who have a hyst. You shouldn't need anymore."
Well, I am so sorry that 30, 5mg didn't last me anymore than 7 days. But I tried to stretch them. I just don't know what to do. Has anyone else had these problems or is it just my luck.
I am so broken hearted I thought she really cared for me but now I feel so betrayed. And with surgery coming up I don' t know what to do.
Please help sisters...
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Unread 02-19-2004, 06:48 PM
my doctor broke my heart

Oh (((((sweetie))))) I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this Unfortunately, it is not unusual for doctors to react in this manner. There seems to be a whole lot of misconceptions as to what chronic pain sufferers have to go through and how to treat those of us who have to deal with this on-going pain.

Please, try and find another doctor, hopefully one who specializes in pain management. Pain Management specialists are not about prescribing meds, they are about both finding the cause of the pain, trying to find a solution and ensuring that their patients have as much relief from pain as is possible.

Sending lots of healing s your way and ing that you get relief, very soon.
Unread 02-19-2004, 06:54 PM
my doctor broke my heart

Oh DaBearzzz, that is so awful I am so sorry to hear that. Nobody has the right to tell anyone how much pain they have got, only you know. I agree with Dany, go and find another Dr to give you the pain relief you need. If you are facing further surgery then obviously things are not routine after your TAH. I hope you find some support soon,

Best wishes, Blossom
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Unread 02-19-2004, 11:22 PM
I am so sorry you are going through this!

Gyn's are not specialists in chronic pain! Please call and set up an appointment with a pain management specialist. They have all kinds of ideas about combinations of drugs and other types of pain management therapies (relaxation, acupuncture, biofeedback, etc) that may be useful to you. I believe, too, that since they deal with people in chronic pain they understand the ramifications to the patient (usually, anyway) of undertreating pain -- which includes more severe pain for a longer duration than if the pain were adequately treated in the first place.

Please let us know how you are doing.

With love,
Unread 02-20-2004, 06:08 AM

Hi, I went to a pain clinic for Fybromyalgia. The dr. there (who was wonderful by the way) told me that some dr'.s don't see a person with feelings and pain connected to the body part they are "repairing". It's sad but true, some dr.'s just don't want to hear about your pain. So, if at all possible go to a pain clinic it really works and I still draw on it when I need it. Sometimes we have to take care of ourselves, if you are hurting seek help eleswhere. Give yourself the gift of tender loving care. Be Well
Unread 02-20-2004, 10:06 AM

I agree with the other (((sisters))) need to seek the help of someone else, perhaps a PM specialist.

BTW, that doctor missed the 'diagnosis' of don't take it to heart. You display NONE of the signs of she really wasn't talking about something that has occured with you, but problaby expressing her fears of contibuting to a patients possible future addiction. It was wrong of her to treat you this way....and my GYN did the same thing a few years ago. He refused to help me with pain. He said endo didn't cause enough pain for me to need anything stronger than tylenol! Ha! I wanted to kick his butt and make him wish he had something stronger than tylenol!

And to answer your question hun, this doesn't mean your doctor doesn't care about you. The drug issue is something she seems very sensitive about...and she's problably had some problem in the past that makes her react so strongly about it. She hasn't stopped caring, you're just seeing one of the imperfections in her ability to treat patients. Every doctor has them, and unfortunately her imperfections are clashing with a strong need of yours.

Be sure to get the help you need hun. The longer you live in pain the harder it is to get it under control. You DESERVE good pain management...and all of us sisters here are officially telling you that we care about you and the pain you are experiencing and we want to see you get the help you deserve!

Hugs and Healing,

Unread 02-20-2004, 06:42 PM

Very Well said Fussybird, Thank You!
Unread 02-20-2004, 09:00 PM
my doctor broke my heart

I am so so sorry you had to deal with that. I was told the same thing and I worked for my DOctor as her assistant and she did my surgeries and saw how bad I had endo. Needless to say I quit working for her and going to her. I just recently told my PCP about my pain and I got the same story. you are addicted and I will only give you 5 tynol#3. Isaid then refer me to a specialist who has an obsesion for endo. He refered me to his friend. Well that friend the gyn oncologist called my PCP and told him he will be giving me pain med until my lupron take effect. He told my PCP there is no doubt that I have this dreadful disease and that he will keep me pain free until my surgery in six months. Please find a new dr sometime they just dont know how to handle people with endo. See a Gyn oncologist if there is one where you live. They seem to know what they are talking about. Good luck
Unread 02-20-2004, 10:39 PM
my doctor broke my heart

It does sound as if your dr has had pt's in the past misuse her and the rx's for pain and that has made her hypervigilant with the way that she prescribes pain medication. That however does not take away your pain, nor does that make you an addict. You may be able to talk to her one on one and let her know how you stretched out the pain medication that you were on, let her know that you want to work with her also, that you can understand where she is coming from and that you appreciate her concern for your wellbeing. You didn't say what you were on, but you could suggest that you would be willing to try a different form of pain medication management. If you show a willingness, she may be more open to working with you.

I work very closely with my dr. (gyn as well as primary) because I have a past history of addiction to narcotics and benzo's, so I can understand where both of you are coming from. Now that I choose to take medications in the manner in which they were intended, I see why dr's are hesitant to continue prescribing meds that have the potential to be addicting.

If it doesn't work out with her, do find someone who will work with you.
Unread 02-21-2004, 02:18 PM
my doctor broke my heart

Ditto Ditto Ditto

I'm another one who says, get yourself to a pain management clinic ASAP! Also, if your insurance gives you any hogwash about not paying you can contest it and get them to pay. Are you keeping a pain journal? Nothing like written records to reinforce your point to anyone, Docs and Insurance cos alike.
Even those who love us get a deaf ear to our constant cries of pain, but a written record of your pain, day in and day out has power that your spoken voice may not.

Just some food for though.

I wish you well.

Let us all know how you are feeling.

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