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Unread 04-05-2004, 01:14 PM
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I talked to dr today. It seems it wasn't the dr who forgot to call in the script it was the nurse. She said she was is such a hurry to get out of the office on friday that it slipped her mind. She asked me to please not call the dr, adding that she called it in first thing this morning. Well I glad that it is easy for her to simply forget and have a great weekend but I spent mine in tremendous amounts of pain. All she could say was she was sorry. I don't know what to do. I really don't want to get her into trouble but it also effects the dr when he thinks it was refilled on Friday so know my refills are all messed up. I just want to scream
Besides today I feel like i am having menstral cramps again IMPOSSIBLE I don't have the equipment. I am terrified that the adhesions are back. Can they come back so quickly?
DH and I are still fighting I feel like he is never going to understand where I am coming from. He just wants me to move on and get over it. Easy for him to say.
I know he loves me and is just worried but he really hurts my feelings when he says things like you are wasting your life, and mine to. He says he feels like he is drowning. He is doing all the house work all the work for the kids and yard work.... Which I try to do as much of the house work as I can and he does not get home till 7 or 8 so how is he taking care of the kids. They are usually in bed. Anyway I know this is long so I will go.
Thank you for listening;
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Unread 04-05-2004, 01:48 PM
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Dear ((Jeni))

I am glad you have your meds now. Shame on that nurse!!

I don't know if you have considered seeking out the help of a counselor who specializes in helping people with chronic medical issues or pain. It helped me ALOT when I went several years ago. Perhaps if you found someone like that, you could bring DH along too (depending on what the counselor says) ... your pain really affects the entire family and maybe that would help him too.

Unread 04-05-2004, 01:50 PM
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hang in there sweetie!!! i can totally relate to the nurse issue. took me forever to get to see my dr because a nurse that has never been part of my care would only tell me on the phone, the doctor has told you to go to a urologist, your symptoms are those of a thyroid problem. well after getting an appt with a new doctor a uro/gyn they requested I go ahead and have an ultrasound done before my appt. glad i did. found a 6cm endometrioma. i am so upset with this nurse its not even funny, for over 2 1/2 months she did not give my messages to my doctor and was telling me to do things i didn't need to do. My doctor was furious. I have to go back to their office on Friday and it will take all that I have to not punch her in the eye.

I am glad that you finally got your meds though, that must be a relief and how can she ask that you not call your doc??????????

I hope things get better for you and that your dh understands more where you are at. It is hard for them, they can't fix it and don't know what to do. I feel the same way with my dbf and this past weekend he finally told me how he feels. He is just so sorry that he can't make it better for me and that is all he wants is for me to have no more pain, if he could he would take it on himself. They mean well just have a hard time.....

we are here for you though as we are all going through things and can relate first hand!!!

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Unread 04-05-2004, 02:16 PM
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I would have a talk with your dr. about the nurse. She was negligent about your health and it should be addressed with your dr. I am sure she is nice enough but she was careless as well.
Unread 04-05-2004, 02:27 PM
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In my opinion, its not your place to protect the nurse from your doctor. Its not fair to the doctor or to his other patients. Think for a minute, if she is otherwise a caring wonderful nurse/employee then what is the big deal? Everyone makes mistakes. Its completely inappropriate for her to ask you to cover for her mistake.

If I were that nurse, I would go to the doctor and admit my mistake and applogize. Hiding something like this is inexcusable and you should not aid and abet her in this deception. I am not a nurse, but I do have a job and I take my lumps with my boss and she should, too.

Now you take care of you, call your doctor, and make sure the doc knows what happened. Let the chips fall where they may.
Unread 04-05-2004, 03:16 PM
To put the cherry on the cake

I am not sure what the nurse told the dr. but the script was for 12 pills well like how long is that suppose to last if I am to take if every four hours. I swear sometimes they just want you to spend a fortune. I was so upset when I picked it up but of course by the time I got home the dr was gone home for the day. So I have to call tomorrow. I can't wait till I start pain mangt. But I was under the assumption he was going to take care of me till then. Who knows. Guess I will just have to make these stretch.
Oh what a wonderful life we live. At least we have Easter to look forward to. I am going to see my grandparents. They are so excited. I haven't seen them in about six months. We call them Memaw and Paw. My kids are in heaven while we are there Paw spoils them rotten of course. And Memaw bakes like crazy. But my favorite is the Ham.
I hope you all have a great Easter.
Thank you all for letting me vent and cry I am feeling better.
Unread 04-05-2004, 06:09 PM
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It sounds to me like your doc just doesn't want to deal with your pain and is blaming the nurse - or receptionist more likely - I doubt she's got a nursing degree

One of the problems here is that for some docs who aren't used todealing with pain, pain = narcotics and they freek out. Not that narcotics are not important components of pain management -they are! but they are only part of the picture.

For some that picture includes non-steroidals (I can't believe your doc hasn't prescribed them!), agents that work on nerve pain, steroids, and yes, psychotherapy to help you "get one with it" EVEN when you ARE in pain.

I am so sorry your doc is being lousy - to you and his poor "nurse"

Unread 04-05-2004, 08:26 PM
I am going to try and call tomorrow

I am going to try and call tomorrow to talk to the dr about just helping me control the pain until I can get into the pain clinic. I know he doesn't like prescribing the narcoctics but until they find something else that works thath is all I have. So I need him to understand that. Hopefully he will, he has been so far. As long as I can talk to him not his nurse. I guess if that doesn't work I will call my gp and talk to her. I don't know what that good that will do. She isn't used to dealing with chronic pain at all. Hopefully my referral will not take that long. Yeah right. With Tricare it will probably take a month or longer.
Someone had posted a letter from a chronic pain sufferer a while back if you still have it will you give me the link to it. I would love to have my dh read it maybe it would maybe help him understand a little better what I am going through. I know it is hard for him but I feel like he is really losing his patience with me. He is starting to take it out on the kids.
I just need some advice maybe once we start pain mngt we will all feel better about this. Do they include your dh in the therapy? Or do I need to look for a different counselor?
Thanks in advance
Unread 04-05-2004, 10:19 PM
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Sounds like you are having a terrible time. I can really relate. I depended so much on my gyn to help me handle my pain and issues dealing with the pain. One day I wrote him a long letter explaining how I felt. Of course, that letter went in my file, so be- careful what you say if you decide to write one. But it helped him understand where I was coming from. That lasted for a few more weeks of pain management. Then one day he told me it was out of his expertise. I was so angry. I had been having a lot of urinary issues and so was seeing a urologist, he wanted me to see a neurologist, but my gyn didn't want me to. Well, when my gyn dismissed me I went straight back to my urologist and asked for the referral to the neurologist. Now I am taking medicines for the nerve pain and medicines to calm my left sided pelvic pain. I am also seeing a psychiatrist who is covering the meds for depression and my energy levels and what other issues come up. My point is that when you don't get the results you need or want from one doctor, then it is imperative that you go to another. There are more options out there for you. Now, a comment on the nurse. The way she reacted, it sounds as if it wasn't the first time she messed up and that she was trying to cover her butt. If that is not the case then the doctor's response to her should not be severe. I have worked for a number of doctor's and they want to be informed of mistakes made by their staff because it directly affects their practice.
I am glad that you and your children are looking forward to your visit with your grandparents. You will surely get some much needed pampering and love there. You hang in there. It takes a lot of time to get all of these issues straightened out.

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