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Unread 06-05-2004, 09:33 PM
Help! Save my marriage!

I have plunged into hormone hell in the last 6 weeks. I have been on compunded estradiol/progesterone capsules, but I was still anxious and depressed, so my naturopathic ANP had me change to the Vivelle dot. I am still experiencing the same anxiety and depression. I take Wellbutrin but it doesn't seem to be working anymore.

My poor husband is at wits' end. He has been patient and tolerant for months now, but I can tell it is getting really hard for him. Does anyone have any advice that can help save my marriage?
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Unread 06-05-2004, 09:54 PM
Help! Save my marriage!

I am going through this same thing at this time. So I know what you are talking about...

I am on vivelle-dot 0.07, have been since sept 03. But my Dr has me on Zoloft...

I have been looking at post here, and have been reading up on Estratest in HS and FS. It is a estrogen/testosterone capsuel.
I tryed testoterone this past winter, and it helped.

I plan on talking to my Dr about this Estratest this next week.

This my plans, I hope you find something to help you.

Unread 06-05-2004, 09:58 PM
Help! Save my marriage!


I'm sorry you're having problems getting balanced. I've read your last posts concerning hormone matters and what I notice is that you've made a couple of changes in a very short span of time. It takes time for our bodies to adjust to changes in our hormones. Making changes too often makes getting balanced harder.

If I've read your posts correctly, you've been on the Vivelle dot for just a few days. Don't we all wish it could work fast and make all the symptoms go away?! Sadly, it just doesn't happen like that.

Where did you decide to stick your patch - front or back? Have you called your doctor about the Wellbutrin not working as well?

DH is just going to have to bear with you. This isn't fun, I know, but it sure can get better!

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Unread 06-06-2004, 12:06 AM
Help! Save my marriage!

For what it is worth, I had to take my Vivelle patch off, and this is the second time I have tried it, for pretty much the reasons you described. I was emtional and unpredictable on it. It took care of my night sweats and other physical menopausal symptoms but the tradeoff was too much. I couldn't stand myself, much less expect my husband to tolerate me! It made me feel like "the pedal was always pushed to the medal." I felt tense, hyper and emotional on it. I did try Estratest and absolutely felt the best I have felt since entering this hormone jungle, but the side effects were too much for me. The oily skin, acne and facial hair made me decide to stop. I did try the HS but still experienced the listed side effects.

Keep looking for what will work for you. I know I am.

Signed, Frustrated but hopeful
Unread 06-06-2004, 02:30 AM
Balance madness

Hi all,
I have also been in the hormone battle. I am currently taking Estadiol twice a day, but was still feeling anxious like nails on a chalk board. So my doctor perscribed lorazapam once a day at night to ease my anxiety. I was still haveing the severe hot flashes so I began taking vitamin E and that helped alot. I am still haveing my own summers though!!!!! This whole combination has helped my husband get through my moody days,,, I am still having trouble feeling sexy though any advice for that situation? my counters now look like a medicine cabinet...

Hopeful balance prayers
Unread 06-06-2004, 09:32 AM
Help! Save my marriage!

Hi Julia...Sorry to hear about your battles. I had a TAH 2/03 and am still working on the hormone issues. It takes time. I've noticed that what worked for me at the very beginning changes effects as time goes on. I've been on Premarin 1.25 and Estratest HS, both 1 a day for about 2 months now. At first I felt much better. But now I'm slowing going down hill again, so to speak. The one thing I regreat not doing prior to my TAH was to get a reading of my hormone levels. Prior to sugery I must of had a high estrogen level and also a high testerone level. I was VERY sexually active with my DH prior. What I didn't know then was those facial hairs/wiskers hairs and very oily skin was my testerone's acting. So I know now that I had a high level prior to surgery because I no longer have the oily skin or the whisker hairs but I am taking Estratest HS which has testerone in it. So apparently the HS strength is not enough for me. After my does of Premarin was increase from .625 to the 1.25 my night sweats and my itchy skin, especially my scalp dissapeared but still no libido. I can perform but no urge what so ever. Now after 2 mo my skin is starting to itch again, night sweets are comming back. So what this tells me is that after 2 months the Premarin and Estratest HS has leveled out and the dose is not going to be enough for me I belive. I'm going to ride it out for a few more weeks and am starting a supplement called DIM that is suppose to balance out our hormones and see if this helps. If not, it's back to the Doc to change doses. So you see, it's different for each of us and it takes time for the drugs or whatever u may be taking to get into our systems, level out and see if we can maintain wellbeing on that paticular dose. I think it's what the sisters call twicking. Patience is what I have had to learn. You can't just jump from one hormone to another, (unless your having Major problems with a paticular one). It takes some time. A friend of mine told me it took her a yr to get adjusted and that was 10 yrs ago and she still feels great in all areas. It just finding what works best for you.

Also wanted to tell you, my experience with Wellburtin was not good in the sexual dept. Took it prior to my TAH along with a few other kinds of antidepressants and each one of them took away my sexual desire. Could not even reach an orgasam on any of them. So I just stay away from all antidepressants. Sexual side effects is a side effect of most of them.

Sorry so long...just wanted to let you know, it takes time. I hope things work out for you soon as I do for me.
hugs Kim
Unread 06-06-2004, 12:58 PM
Help! Save my marriage!

Thanks everyone for the replies. I am only starting week 2 of the Vivelle dot and have an appt. with the Dr. on Thursday to see what we can do next. Wellbutrin has been working for me for 2 years with no side effects so I don't think the depression has anything to do with that. I am crying at anything and feel like the entire world is against me.

I noticed that I have hot flashes right around the time I change my patch, too. I decided to put it on my backside to see if there was any difference. In the meantime I am meditating and exercising and that seems to help more than anything. Thanks again for the support and caring.
Unread 06-06-2004, 10:14 PM
Help! Save my marriage!

Oh my gosh I was just reading Kim's reply and now I understand where all of this itchy skin is from. I have had the worst time with dry skin and especially my scalp it has been just awful. I've gotten to the point where I take benadryl sometimes to help with the itching. I'm waiting for my results of my hormones and maybe I'll have to try that DIM too.
Unread 06-07-2004, 11:06 AM
Help! Save my marriage!

I experienced the same "hell" when I started hormones at the age of 17 (I had gone through menopause at 13 yrs old). What I found to be the problem was the dosage. I slowly cut down until I was taking 1/2 of the lowest dose available (of Estinyl). That worked for many years and now after undergoing a TAH in Jan 01, I am just starting on bioidentical hormones. I am slowly tapering off of the synthetic, but I seem to feel better already (less stressed and anxious).

I hope this helps.......definately look at the dosage, I think its better to start low and then move up rather than the other way.

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