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Unread 11-21-2000, 03:26 PM
I'm in shock

I am in shock. I am scheduled to have surgery on December 5th. It's been years getting to this point. I have spent three months scheduling my life around this major event. I went to my doctor yesterday and found their office shut down - out of business - bankruptcy-ville. No one will answer the phones or tell me anything. My insurance company tells me pleasantly that I have been moved to a new Doctor's office 30 miles away and that they are looking into transitioning me to another specialist. No talk about who, when or where. My office doesn't want to get involved. No one will call me back. Basically, this is a business problem between my insurance, the doctor's office, and my office - my medical concerns seem to just be unimportant.

I don't know how to pull myself together. It's taken major effort on my part to get myself to this point and now I feel overwhelmed. I don't want to go through all of this again with a new doctor, but I don't want to just let someone new step in and perform major surgery on me without feeling comfortable with that new doctor. I'm a mess - I can't think about anything else and emotionally I'm just going nuts. My DH doesn't understand what the problem is - it's inconvenient but I just need to reschedule. I figured at the least, some of you would understand and tell me I wasn't crazy.
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Unread 11-21-2000, 03:49 PM
I'm in shock

Elsa, OMG!!!! I am absolutely speechless on your behalf.

In my case, it was only 5 months from the time I was told I needed this surgery until it actually happened. But the entire 5 months, I was a mess of quivering nerves who cried if somebody even looked at me wrong.

I really don't know what to say to you to make you feel any better. I have to agree that I wouldn't have wanted to have this surgery with some unknown doctor. I needed to have trust, a rapport and faith with my doctor.

To have this happen to you at this short date is so unfair and it would seem that everyone around you wants to treat it like it's no big deal. But IT IS A BIG DEAL.

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you but I don't. I just wanted to send you a hug and let you know that somebody out here in cyberspace is reaching out to you with care, concern and a squeeze.
Unread 11-21-2000, 08:31 PM
Mean doctor

My mouth is hanging open!!! I can't belive what you are going through ! I am so sorry

I don't know what to tell you . I can try to offer support though. I understand your feelings "FLOORED". I know this probaly won't help but I am going to try. Try very hard to look at this as a blesing. Maybe the doctor has been in trouble before.It could be billing or with patients. I belive though , even though it is a huge pain in the rear; you have been spared. Better to wait, than have a bad experience ya know? Again, I am very sorry that you have been treated this way. If you need to chat or talk let me know [email protected] I live in the San Diego area if you live near this area I can help you find a new doctor if you like.
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Unread 11-21-2000, 08:41 PM
YOU'RE NOT CRAZY! Go ahead and yell!!!

WOW! Talk about having the rug ripped out from under you!

I think I have to agree that this is probably a blessing in disguise, so the best you can do is move forward. I would find out about the new doc. He might be very understanding and move things along for you. But, you won't know till you get there. I believe that things will work out as they should, so hang in there kiddo! Yep, it's the pitts. It's a low blow! But, mostly is a big fat inconvenience!

I wish I could do something to make it better, but all I can do is tell you that you're not crazy and this does suck! I think I can safely say that we're all here for you regardless of the setback.

Chin up! Stiff upper lip and all that rot. ( I live with a Brit, can you tell? )
Unread 11-22-2000, 12:09 AM
I'm in shock

You just go right ahead a scream, cry, throw objects (use the things ya don't like). You have every right to be angry and hurt.
I'm so sorry your having to deal with this.
Good luck on finding a new Doctor, My prayer for you is that he is skilled, sympathetic, and has the patience for insurance companies.
your fellow lady in waiting
Unread 11-22-2000, 01:24 AM
I'm in shock

You have every right to be upset. The whole time I'm sitting here wondering how many patients (of this Dr.) are in the same boat as you.
I would not go to a Dr. that the insurance company has "hand picked". I would get out the phone book and start looking for another Dr. yourself Talk to friends, relatives, your family doctor, etc. see who they would recommend.
I understand your feeling about having someone who you don't know do major surgery. That's why I am saying pick the Dr. yourself. I will tell you however (I don't know that this will make you feel any better) being a "veteran of surgery", alot of times, when you need other kinds of surgery you end up getting scheduled with a general surgeon you see only once before your surgery. You have no repore with the person whatsoever, you just have to trust that whoever (usually primary care physician) referred you, trusts the surgeon they are sending you to.
I know the whole situation is overwhelming but you have come so far to come to your decision and preparing for this surgery. Don't let this obstacle hinder your going through with your hyster. Just start "shopping" for a new ob/gyn.
Unread 11-22-2000, 08:13 AM
I'm in shock

Elsa - Oh my gosh is right!!! Call your primary care physician and get referral to another specialist...or was it your primary physician that closed up??? I agree, I wouldn't let insurance co. pick one out...I would however, get a list of names from them of specialists they cover and then do your own research.

I'd call the hospital you were scheduled at also and talk to someone there. Did surgery slot get cancelled etc.

Never heard of a dr. going bankrupt before and just everything being shut down...don't know if I'd wanted that one operating on me anyway

{{{HUGS}}} You'll get through this.
Unread 11-22-2000, 08:34 AM
I'm in shock

First a big hug for you and my prayers. MY tvh is on the 4th of Dec. and I would probaly lose it if something like would happen . It is such an emotional time right now . Keep looking for a new Ob/Gyn dr. and best of luck to you
Unread 11-22-2000, 09:08 AM
I'm in shock

Elsa? How goes it? Please do keep us posted.

You know.. I've thought so much about what you're going through. I think I would blow a gasket. I can't help but also think that this is another reason why the rest of us should be sooooo thankful. They say things can always be worse, and you're experience has now slapped us in the face to prove it. I feel so badly for you.

Have you got a list of other docs that your insurance will cover? I know it can often be a real pain in the fanny to get in to see a specialist when you're a "new" patient, but I have found over the last month that kindness and diligence can pay off. If you manage to get a sympathetic nurse or scheduling person on the phone they can usually sqeeze you in. I've even offered to camp out in an office all day just in the hope that an opening should appear. There's always someone who forgets their appointment.

I will be hoping and praying for the best, but DO keep us posted and try not to worry too much.
Unread 11-22-2000, 10:42 AM
I'm in shock

Bless you all for your words of encouragement. I really needed them. Monday was a very bad time for me. I'm getting better, mostly because you adjust to anything if you have to.

Some clarification - my doctor didn't go bankrupt. The office she was a member of did. All the doctors were just shut out. My doctor is wonderful and I still hope (however small) that this will work itself out. My insurance is now trying to contact her to see if she is opening her service somewhere else and still wants to do my surgery (as well as any others she has scheduled). This is both good and bad. This means that I might still be able to have surgery as scheduled but I won't know until next week - days before the surgery is scheduled. This means I can't undo any plans and have to go forward as if it will happen. It may only get cancelled a day or two before.

I'm still going crazy but I guess I'm getting used to the craziness. I'm trying to stay busy. And I'm spending lots of time on the phone each day trying to find out what's happening. Again, thank you all for your thoughts - it really helps.

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