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Unread 06-25-2004, 11:21 AM

First, thank you all for this forum. A couple of weeks ago, I was enjoying reading and posting about my upcoming TAH for fibroids (still scheduled for 7-13). Now it seems I may be dealing with something a bit more serious, and I'm terrified.

A few months ago, I noticed a freckle on my hip. Very dark, smaller than a pencil eraser, very unlike my numerous other sunspot-type things, which have been declared benign time and time again. It was so small and looked so normal that I didn't give it a thought. About 10 days ago, I noticed that it's changed quite a bit. It's not perfectly round, the border is a little uneven, and there's one spot that is very, very black. The outer edge appears to be red and perhaps a little inflamed.

I made an appointment with the dermatologist for this coming Tuesday. Last night, at my son's baseball game, I cornered a dermatology nurse acquaintance of mine and asked her to look at it. Her response: "It may be, but I wouldn't bet the farm on it."

Her "it may be" was enough to freak me out. I beat thyroid cancer five years ago, but I know that melanoma -- especially if it has spread -- is so much more serious. I'm 41, my kids are teenagers, and I'm just not feeling like dealing with more cancer!

My gut feeling is that it's melanoma, but I am so, so hoping we are catching it early enough. (It's still smaller than a pencil eraser -- about 5 mm.)

Has anyone out there experienced melanoma or "dysplastic" moles? I would love to hear from you.

Best wishes to all of you, and thanks for listening.

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Unread 06-25-2004, 01:33 PM

Hi Lisa I never had melanoma but I had 2 basal cells removed. My friend had melanoma and is doing fine right now . She caught it early. So dont freak out yet until you here from the dermatologist. At least you found it. I have to be always on the look out for this. I hope you hear good news. And I know the waiting is the hardest . I am probably the worst person for anything to happen to me . My friends are telling me Im going nuts. But good luck and I will be praying for all on this site. I do believe in prayer. Oh I am 40 too and all you think about is your children when things are not going good . But that is a sign of a good mom.
Unread 06-25-2004, 04:27 PM

Hi there!
I have tons of moles, in all shapes and sizes, colors, you name it. I have some that are bicolor, some with irregular borders, some big, some small. Some have been itchy, some get dry and peel from time to time. I have it ALL, babe! I'm always sure she's just going to excise my entire back when I go to the derm, but she never takes the ones that fit that "classic" description of melanoma. There must be something else they look for in addition to those characteristics.

She has taken several moles off and they have all come back fine. SO - I just don't even TRY to guess which ones are a problem and which ones aren't - I just keep going in and letting her have a look.

I hope this helped you out. Take it easy!
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Unread 06-25-2004, 04:35 PM

Just to tell you don't lose too much sleep this weekend. Like the previous reply I would say much the same thing. I'm amazed by my husband's many moles which have had to be checked many a time. Two days ago I managed to get him to go to the dermatologist with one that really freaked me out - it had suddenly grown, irregular, changed to a very dark black etc etc and although it was removed by the dermatologist mainly for cosmetic reasons and although it was sent for biopsy the derm said he was actually very unconcerned by it. Similarly with others. And then one that really didn't look like anything to me that was removed a couple of years ago was a potential nasty. So what I'm trying to say is that even ones that fit the health education we are taught, changing shape, colour, size etc Am just trying to tell you not to worry at this point because I have worried so much about my dh's and they have always been fine in spite of apparent worrying chages. Best of luck and don't worry! Debs xx
Unread 06-25-2004, 06:32 PM

I responded to your PM - and hope you got it - my moles that have been removed are what they call dysplastic nevi. They have been fine though - and like the others the ones I freak bout are normally of no concern to the dermatologist and those I wouldn't give a second thought to are removed. I have noticed recently - and I don'tknow if turning 40 did it - or my TAH, but a lot of my moles that were flat now are getting a little bumpy. My dermatologist wasn't concerned - but I am still a little paranoid. Cancerheard most likely.
Unread 06-25-2004, 08:17 PM

Hi Lisa,

I too have had a few things removed and thankfully all was ok.
I used to have a mole on my face by my lip. I had it removed a few years ago only because it was bothering me on and off. It was itching, getting red around the edges and sometimes bled. Well it was benign so hopefully yours is also.

Unread 06-25-2004, 08:58 PM
Thank you

Thank you all for taking the time to respond. I'm having Cancer Head big-time tonight -- DSO just brought up the fact that perhaps I'm freaking out because I'm about to turn the age (42) that my mom was when she passed away from vulvar cancer. (To any of you who have vulvar cancer -- please don't be alarmed. This happened in 1967, and my mother had refused to go to the doctor for two years after noticing symptoms. Chances are she could have been treated successfully.)

At any rate ... I appreciate all the kind words. I just want this ****ed mole to go away. Best wishes to all of you and I'll let you know how it turns out.
Unread 06-26-2004, 06:31 AM

Dear Lisa -

I wanted to respond to your concerns. My DH had melanoma removed back in 1985 when he was in his 20's! It was caught in time, however had he waited another six months or so, he would have been in, as the doc put it, "big trouble" (he had a very large and irregular mole for a long time that I had a funny feeling about). He has many, many moles, and goes to a "mole specialist" every 4 - 6 months for monitoring...and is doing GREAT!

Melanoma, while is a very serious form of cancer does give us a visual warning. I've also been told that it tends to grow along the surface long before it grows down deep. Do not panic, it's probably not cancer, but you're doing the right thing by getting it checked.

Unread 06-26-2004, 11:09 AM

I had a dysplastic nevi removed in 2001. The doctor was leaning toward melanoma when he looked at it and i was terrified. He did a liver function panel and chest xrays before the biopsy even came back. All i could think about was my girls who were 5 and 9 at the time. I was in a new relationship and wasnt sure if he would stay around if i was sick. I was so scared and lonely waiting for the report to come back. Thank God it was a dysplastic nevus with clear margins. No melanoma! I certainly can identify with your fears. Now i have cervical cancer scares to worry about now. In the past year iv'e known four people to be diagnosed with cancer. It continues to scare me. I just try to leave it in Gods hands. Take care and i hope things turn out fine for you.
Unread 06-26-2004, 11:30 AM

I'm pretty sure that my dad (now 86 and going strong) had a facial lesion that his surgeon was suspicious of--he spoke of a diplastic nevus, if I recall correctly, but kept on saying that it just looked an awful lot like melanoma, esp since it was a recurrent lesion.

Well it turned out to be basal cell, like his dozen other skin cancers (I'm not kidding). So as our wise Ellen always says, don't waste a good panic.


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