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Unread 08-03-2004, 08:46 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

Lavender43 sent me this in a PM and asked me to post it, as she didn't want to re-type it. She's had a real rough go of it, but it's incredible to me how strong she is!

Hi there at long last...... Well its been awhile since I have been on here cause I have had lots of trouble....I think I told you that I had a "pee bag" when I came home, and that my opperation was very difficult much more than they expected due to past opperations and adhesions from previous opperations.

Well I was only home for 7 days and I was back in hospital. I woke up on the Wednesday morning not knowing my childrenns names and doing really silly things like flushing my pad down the toilet and putting dirty undies in my drawer......My 8 year old rang 000 which is our emergency number for the ambulance and I can remember him standing there saying that Mummys doesnt't know our names and she is doing silly things welll something like that and his eyes were welled up in tears.

My 12 year old stood with me beside my bed to make sure I was ok. He was also upset by was trying not to show it. The ambulance came and rang my hubby to come home from work and I was taken off to hospital.

All sorts of tests were done as I coulnd't really tell them that I had had a hysterectomy recently cause I just couln't get the words out. I knew but the words woulnd't come out. They had thorugh I had had a stroke.

After all the head scans etc were done and blood tests I was then taken up to Maternity ward by this time my hubby was able to fill them in a bit of my history. Coulnd't even remember his name. It was just awful.....

As soon as I got up to the ward I was able to get out that I had some strange discharge from the vagina not knowing that it was poo....The mid wife picked up on it immideatly and a doctor was brought straight in to examine me and was told that I had a hole between the bowl and the vagina.......What does this mean????? You can imagine how I felt......

Well I was then taken to another hospital to have surgary not knowing when this was goint to happen but was taken straight away and was put on antibotics and penacilin by IV every 2 hours. As soon as they kicked in I rememberd everything....What relief this was.

Ayway then the next thing was to have an ultra sound to see where the hole was exactly and how big it was. Two days later they operated to put a stoma on so that I could have an tempory illostomy bag maybe 3 months maybe 6 months maybe 12 months??????? Stilll don't know that yet.

Well while they were doing the surgary they found a heamatomia on my Hysterectomy wound which was healing really well. Down to the ultra sound again just to make sure it was nothing suspicious and then back up to the ward to cut it open and let it bleed and they left it open so that it would heal from the inside out. I have been at the hospital nearly day since.

Now my hysterectomy was on the 31st of May, so its been a long time. I couln't look at my stoma for a couple of days and took awhile to accept it and manage it but now I am managing it really well and sometimes I forget I have it. God Is Good.

Everything was going ok for a couple of weeks when I started feeling tired and short of breath coulndn't walk up 5 steps without sitting down to have a rest. Back to the hospital. You are probably just a bit anxious. Then I showed them a rash that was on my legs and tummy so they did some blood tests and it came back that I had a high potasism level and low salt.

Well I then went to my own doctor who got to the bottom of it and only just found out today that my potasism level is back to normal (after having bacon and eggs for breakfast everyday and lots of salt on my no potassism meals. The salt is still low but I am working on that to get it back up again.

So Yea my experience with the hysterectomy wasn't very good. But God has brought me through and Carried me lots of the time and never let me go. I do not know what I would have done without Him. He is my Strength.

My hubby has been so patient and have had lots of friends from church coming in with meals and doing housework etc. I had to be driven to the hospital every day so they all took turns in doing that as hubby had to work. Well thats my story so far.

I hope to have the stoma reversed some time within the next 4 mounths.
If you would like to put this on the message board please feel free to do so. You have my permission. I just don't feel up to rewritting this again as sometimes I find it hard to talk/think about it.
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Unread 08-03-2004, 09:09 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

I hope the worst is behind you Lavender43. It sounds like a nightmare for you and your family; you're in my thoughts.

Take care!
Unread 08-03-2004, 09:21 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

This post made me cry. I'm so sorry you have been going through this. It puts my complications into perspective. You will be in my prayers, most definately. I'm glad you are resting in the strength of the Lord.

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Unread 08-03-2004, 09:32 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

You have been though so much!! I pray this finds you getting stronger day by day. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. My best to you and your loving family, Lavender43.

Unread 08-03-2004, 09:36 AM
Good wishes Lavender43

Oh Lavender43, you really have had a rough time of it! I'm sending you lots of love and good wishes for speedy progress in your recovery. Thank God and all the good people around you for taking care of you, I'll be thinking of you. Smiffy x
Unread 08-03-2004, 09:39 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

What a trial! I hope you are feeling much better soon!!! ((hugs))
Unread 08-03-2004, 10:26 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula


Wow, your story brought tears to my eyes, as well. Your kids must have been so frightened. Households are always turned upside down when Mom is not 100%.

Sounds like you are on the right road to mending now and I am soooooo sorry for all of the problems you have had.

You have a wonderful support system, your family and friends from your church. After all you've been through, it must feel so amazing to know that there are such sympathetic souls in the world who are pouring their hearts and sould into helping your family. Your faith is strong and is an important cornerstone in your continued improvement. I see a rainbow on the horizon for you.

Heal well! We all look forward to corresponding, sharing, and laughing again with you soon!


Unread 08-03-2004, 10:42 AM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula

Oh my goodness!
I can't even IMAGINE going thru this!

Prayers, Lavendar...I hope everything heals well and you are soon back to normal.

Thanks for posting, esme.
Unread 08-03-2004, 03:41 PM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula


Take care, take it easy, I do hope that you will be able to post soon.

May God Bless and heal you
Unread 08-03-2004, 03:54 PM
Lavender43 needs support - rectovaginal fistula are a VERY VERY strong woman. I am sorry you had such a rough go of it. It can only get better from here!

Please try and keep your strength as well as your spirit up.

Rest, rest a certainly deserve to be!!

Al my positive energy coming your way.

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