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Unread 08-23-2004, 08:09 PM
very , very bad mother-in-law

my mother-in-law called to tell me that my sister-in-law is pregnet. and felt the need to say that this was her only chance for grandkids, that was why she is so excited that she is pregnet.

gee thanks, i am healing still ahev not back at work, and feeling yucky and i so need to be told that.
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Unread 08-23-2004, 08:35 PM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Oh, honey,

I am so sorry that your mother-in-law was so incredibly toughtless and unfeeling. Sometimes they just don't have any idea how comments can hurt.

Please know that we are here for you and there are lots of people who share your pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you and for you. Also, I will pray that God will help your m-i-l to learn to think before she speaks.

Blessings & s
Unread 08-23-2004, 10:11 PM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Please don't pay any attention to your MIL; you have soooo many sisters here who whole-heartedly support you and know exactly how you feel. Don't let her get you down. (insert HUG here; I can't seem to get the cute pictures to show up here.) =)

BTW, my husband and I drove through Sedona last May; that is a BEAUTIFUL part of the country. I'm in love with Arizona!


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Unread 08-24-2004, 12:20 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Gee what a <Admin. snip - please do not attempt to override the website censor.>! Some people have no class!

Sorry she seems to be one of them!
Unread 08-24-2004, 01:02 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

I'm sorry! That was a fairly cruel and heartless remark; at the very least, if she didn't *intend* for it to be mean spirited, than it was an ignorant and outright stupid thing to say.

My feeling when people say things that hurt is to look at *who* is saying it...if it's someone I care about and who I'd think cares about me, it does hurt. If not, I don't let it bother me. It's not easy, but sometimes you have to mentally gear yourself up to ignore ridiculous comments, don't let them get you down - and always know you have support here! *HUGS*
Unread 08-24-2004, 07:06 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

I have one of those MIL's as well. She knew I was having surgery on 7/28 for a TAH/BSO and told my husband, that's not so much of an operation.

I've never heard from her since before the surgery (and really don't need to); however, she did call after Hurricane Charley to see if we were having rain and never once asked how I was feeling.

You're better off just to ignore her and enjoy the rest of your family and, of course, your sisters here on line.

Cheer up, you have all of us!!!

Unread 08-24-2004, 08:17 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Ouch! I truly hope she was just being thoughtless and not mean. I've never understood why certain people think they're entitled to something like grandchildren. I understand them having the desire, but it seems like I've met a lot of people who consider it their right and they have no problem telling that to the people who are supposed to provide them with this right, regardless of their actual ability and/or desire to provide grandchildren.

Unread 08-24-2004, 08:20 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Oh I am so sorry that your MIL told you that...GRR...My sister told me 3 weeks post op that she was preggo, too. I guess God thought I was handling everything else too well that he thru that at me too!! 's to you girl!!

Do you plan on adopting? Sorry, not too familiar with your story...
Unread 08-24-2004, 10:15 AM
very , very bad mother-in-law

I just bet your M-I-L has said plenty of other stupid things too!

The first few years of marriage my M-I-L was still mourning the fact my DH didn't marry his first girlfriend! She had a fit when I had my tubes tied after 2nd baby. TRUST ME...these kinds of M-I-L's wouldn't be good to grandchildren even if you gave them to her! As IF children are to be GIVEN? My M-I-L has never paid any attention to my kids unless it's Christmas. With these's all about "them". I've learned to expect NOTHING from her, then I'm not disapointed or hurt by her!'s better to kill them with kindness! Someday, she'll need you and just maybe she'll realize she should have been good to you all along! Protect you attitude!

Hang in there! Success in life is the best revenge!!!

You've got a GREAT pain free life ahead!
Unread 08-24-2004, 12:38 PM
very , very bad mother-in-law

Oh my....I know that hurt. I had a similar scenario several years ago with my stepmom. I don't think she realized what she said (at least I hope not because I really like her), but she made the comment that she guessed my dad was just going to have to be happy with "granddogs" (all his children have lots of dogs) since it looked like he wasn't going to be having any grandchildren. Talk about a stab in my heart!!!!! Both my brother and sister have chosen not to have children, however, I tried for many years unsuccessfully. To say that it hurt me was an understatement. Sometimes I honestly think that people don't think before they say. Keep your chin up sweetie. There are lots of us in the same boat. And don't forget....we have each other here!!!


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