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What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer?? What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

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Unread 08-27-2004, 01:10 PM
What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

I just thought I would ask that question. I have been listening to the song by Tim McGraw "Live like you were dying", and it brings tears to my eyes every time. I haven't done anything that I would really like to do, but there are many things that I would love to do. (1) Go around the the U.S. (2) Fly in a small plane and see the country side from Gods point of view. (3) Go to Hawaii, or just on a cruise.

I have gotten a little more caring, I have forgiven those that have hurt me in the past. I just wish that there could be more that I could do. One thing that I do since diagnosed with cancer that I wish I wouldn't is worry more. And if I am not mistaken I think we all do that from time to time. (upcoming tests, surgeries, and so on...)

God Bless
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Unread 08-27-2004, 02:40 PM
firstly i think

you need an enormous

secondly i dont know the song by Tim Mcgraw but i would like to hear it. I was diagnosed with cancer in Jan 2004 but i dont really think i qualify for this thread as i didnt have to have any chemo so i feel just on the edge really. The only thing that i can say is that i have got very resentful towards my family cos as they live 3 hrs drive away not one of them came to visit me in hospital. My dear partner was there for me every minute he could and for that i will be eternally grateful. So im afraid i have become rather bitter and resentful towards my mother especially.

Thats all i can say
Unread 08-27-2004, 03:00 PM
What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

I think my dx made me a more sensitive person to others needs. Before dx I was pretty wrapped up in my busy life.....doing well to keep everything running smoothly taking care of my elderly parents, my kids, hubby, home and working.....I really avoided close involvement with others problems..I had several friends, but looking back I never let it get to more than a surface level (except for two close friends)...I guess subconsiously I figured it would cost me too much time to get to involved.I have totally changed that about myself.....My friends, family, neighbors, kids friends families were so wonderful to me when I was dx.....gave an over abundance of support, prayers and caring....I was overwhelmed with the outpouring and realized that i needed to return the care in my everyday life....I try very hard to be intuned to the people around me, offer help whenever I see the need....The funny part is....I still have taken care of my mom, kids, hubby, home and work, but have been able to extend myself to others.....this has truly blessed me.....and made me a much happy and healthier person.
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Unread 08-27-2004, 04:19 PM
What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

Any one qualifies for this thread if you have/had cancer or had it touch your lives. If you have had to have surgery for cancer/pre-cancer, or even thought that you may have had cancer and turned out not to be.

Cancer does change a persons point of view on things. Feelings, thoughts, life in general. Some fight it valiantly, others try to hide and wish/hope that it was all a dream.

Two of our past sisters Tammy and Virgie come to mind when I think of the valiant fighters, as well as Ellen, Maria, and Tenacity. I wish that I could be as strong as they are amist their trials.

The reason I brought up this post is because, as I wonder what my doctor will find on my colposcopy on tuesday and what will happen if I do indeed have another recurrence, what have I done to show for my life?? What have I done to make an impact on others lives??? Am I a person to be remembered, or just some one who was here????

I have never done anything extroninary. I try to be a good mother and wife, but somedays it is just so hard. Somedays I just wish that this had never happened to me, and others I just wish it would end.
Unread 08-27-2004, 05:09 PM
I'm Just Your Ordinary Person

I have a lot of ups and downs and sometimes sound stronger than I am. With Gemzar, I go through about a day of crying and feeling awful.

Cancer took me from Type A materialist who was grouchy abuot what she couldn't afford to a more Type B person. I pay a lot more attention to other people and what I can do for them than what I want. I think I'm really defining "want" and "need." Giving to charity was a waste of money before; now it's going to the supermarket and getting several bags of stuff for the food pantry and caling Salvation Army around Christmas to see what the homeless shelter needs and trying to help stock that.

Cancer widened my spirituality, thanks to one small miracle that happened. I attend the church I was baptized in over 60 years ago, but now I incorporate ceremonies and beliefs of other religions in there.

Cancer woke me up to the fact that careful plans can blow up overnight and that being more in the "now" is important.
I'm much less the materialist looking to the future--I'm spending money and enjoying it! The old "penny saved is a penny earned" is now "penny saved is a penny earned and a penny that can buy fun things and help others."

Cancer got me a lot of new friends, IRL and on the Internet. I can't believe it sometimes when I hear from a person I barely know but who's there for support--or who needs support and I can give it. I've lost some of these friends to the disease. I'm cheering others on.

I would go back to 3/28/01 in a minute if I could wake up from the surgery and not find out I had cancer, but that it was looking like it. But...I couldn't take the person I'm growing into back with me and I wonder if I want to return to that person.
Unread 08-27-2004, 05:21 PM
Cancer does change you...

wow, Sheila from UK, I had the same with my mom! I also had my surgery in Jan 2004 and to date she still has not come to see me and she's 15-20 minutes away by car. I was more hurt than bitter. I talk to her on the phone but am pretty cold. I decided that life is way too short to keep the bitterness instead I told her how I felt. I let it be known that I believe in "Do unto others". But as far as cancer...yes there is one thing I'd like to do: go to Italy, although I'm italian/Canadian I've never been there. When I was diagnosed my husband said we'd go soon. I have changed too. I don't go too crazy insane over lttle things like if the housework is done all today,after all the fatigue and pain (that I still feel) I can't worry about that any more. I'm more tolerant of others, I enjoy the little things I would never notice before like the sunshine, flowers, my cat Max, my husband lips, rain falling while I'm laying in bed at night. I also think I've accepted death ,my death that is. It doesn't scare me as much ..I think I'm ready to go whenever mt time comes. I'm more at peace with me. I just wish the rest of the world would feel the same!
Unread 08-27-2004, 05:39 PM
Breast cancer

People ask me what I have learned from my breast cancer experience and I tell them that time has a different meaning to me now. I see people running around with so much to do and little time for each other. I hope I can change that in my world with family and friends. I desire to spend more time together but it is hard to get them to see this. I have also realized that breast cancer is very common. Lots of women (and some men) have gone through this. It would be good to fear less something so common. I want to be an encouragement to not fear cancer but rather be as active as we can against it. Prevenitive stuff like diet and mamogams. I have also realized that God has a time for all of us and be thankful each morning that I have another day.

TAH on Nov 18.
Unread 08-27-2004, 05:45 PM
What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

I received this quote from one of the sisters and just wanted to share it with you..

"I expect to pass through this life but once; any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness I can show to any fellow creture, let me do it now; let me not deter or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again." ~Ettiene DeGrellet

As to the question what have I done since the diagnosis....stopped to smell the roses...enjoy the sunset...cuddle with my grandchildren and let my family know how much they are loved. Doing all this while keeping as positive as possible...I know I have a lot to live for and I intend on being around a long, long time.

My love and prayers to you...take care of you!

Unread 08-27-2004, 05:59 PM
live like you were dying lyrics

For those of you who don't know the song...I found these lyrics online.....everytime I hear this song I cry my eyes out.

Artist: Tim McGraw
Album: Live Like You Were Dying
Song: Live Like You Were Dying


He said I was in my early forties
with a lot of life before me
when a moment came that stopped me on a dime
and I spent most of the next days
looking at the x-rays
Talking bout the options
and talking bout sweet time
I asked him when it sank in
that this might really be the real end
how's it hit you when you get that kinda news
man what'd you do

and he said
I went sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named BluManchu
and I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I gave forgiveness I'd been denying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.

He said I was finally the husband
that most the time I wasn't
and I became a friend a friend would like to have
and all the sudden going fishin
wasn't such an imposition
and I went three times that year I lost my dad
well I finally read the good book
and I took a good long hard look
at what I'd do if I could do it all again

and then
I went sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named BluManchu
and I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I gave forgiveness I'd been denying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.

Like tomorrow was a gift and you got eternity to think about
what'd you do with it what did you do with it
what did I do with it
what would I do with it'

Sky diving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named BluManchu
and then I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter
and I watched an eagle as it was flying
and he said someday I hope you get the chance
to live like you were dying.
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying

Unread 08-27-2004, 09:02 PM
What have you done since diagnosed with Cancer??

Now lets see....

Since diagnosed with cancer...

I have become a much stronger person.
I unfortunately have less patience for people who always feel
sorry for themselves.
I redecorated my entire house and had new kitchen put in.
I bought a two new cars.
I made a lot of new friends on the internet.
I am more aware of my body now.
I saw my son get married and hopefully will see lots of
We go on more vacations now.
Spend time more wisely.

There are probably lots of other things that I cannot think of right now. We just came back from Moheghan Sun Casino in Conn. What a great carefree day.


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