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Unread 09-10-2004, 09:34 AM
really depressing check up....any words?

I had a check up this morning at 3 1/2 weeks post-op. I asked my doctor about my huge stomach and when the swelling would go down. I have a stomach that sticks out farther than it did prior to surgery and an awful roll of skin/fat over my incision. He told me that I wasnt swollen and that that was extra skin that came from my age, 43, and the fact that I'd had three children. It makes me so sad to think that I have to look like this forever and that this is the best that I can offer to my husband. Does any post op woman have any words of encouragement?
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Unread 09-10-2004, 09:57 AM
really depressing check up....any words?

What a bunch of baloney.

You have a swollen belly because:
1. You are healing inside and so the tissues are inflamed. This will go on for months and months since healing takes 6 months to a year to complete. It is NORMAL, not because you are OLD (43 is not old) but because your insides were cut apart and stitched back together.
2. If you had an abdomenal hyst like I did, they had to retract the skin and the tissue below it waaaayyyy farther than it normally was to be able to operate.
3. If you had your ovaries removed, the hormones they produced are gone and the tissues are trying to adjust.

And, to reiterate something your doctor SHOULD have said : Your body is trying to knit back together where it was cut apart and it WILL swell and it WILL be saggy for a good long time so be patient with it!!! It makes me so mad when I hear of misinformation spouted from medical professionals.

You are still early in your recovery. At six months, you may be 80% healed. It will take at least a year for your body to complete the healing process. It is so hard to believe, so hard to accept, but it's a fact. Be kind to yourself.
Unread 09-10-2004, 10:10 AM
really depressing check up....any words?


I'm sorry you are so sad! I think your doctor was insensitive in making that remark. My mom had a TAH/BSO when she was 39 and had the same swollen/saggy belly for a few months. It did go away. Her doctor told her it was just part of the healing process.

Keep your chin up! You still have some 'pamper-time' to go through! I hope you continue to have an uneventful recovery! Best to you!

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Unread 09-10-2004, 01:19 PM
really depressing check up....any words?

Thank you so much girls for the encouragment! I will try to keep my chin up and not be discouraged. I really appreciate it.
Unread 09-10-2004, 04:37 PM
really depressing check up....any words?

Your doc reminds me of the ob/gyn I had when I was pregnant with my second son. At my first appointment he told me not to gain more than 20 pounds since I was already fat!! Needless to say, it was the last time I saw that guy! At 5'9" I was at the higher end of the table, but not over!

It made my blood boil!! :burning:
Unread 09-10-2004, 04:53 PM
really depressing check up....any words?

You have a very rude doctor. My dr. said it will go back down. It will just take a while. I am 4 months out and it is slowly decreasing in size. I had 4 c sections and the TAH. I have lost approx. 50 pounds over this last year and I have extra skin and tissue, but it is going down.
I am about to have a adhesion surgery and possible hernia and possible bladder repairs. I guess the belly will roll back out. Just doesn't seem fair. I may also be facing a gallbladder surgery a few weeks after that. Oh well. I can live with it as long as I get feeling better.

Unread 09-10-2004, 07:39 PM
really depressing check up....any words?

Along with my hysterectomy, I have also had two C-sections. Each time I experienced the swollen, wavy belly. With both of my c-sections my stomach returned to normal. I also had a check up yesterday. My doctor explained to me that the antibodies are attacking the internal stitches and cause the swelling. He suggested I use a heating pad to help reduce the swelling and told me not to worry. I would be ravishing once again. Don't despair and keep the faith!

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