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Unread 11-12-2004, 06:56 PM
Help! I'm so confused!

Originally, the thought of having a hysterectomy was a good thing. I'd be rid of the constant pain, the horrible bleeding, the bladder problems, bowel problems, back pain and reflux. But now with all of the research I'm doing I'm concerned and afraid of the recovery. I'm 36, I have 3 children (10, 9 and almost 7) and I don't know how I'm going to do what needs to get done if I don't have a good recovery. Actually, even if I do have a good recovery. Do I keep my cervix? Another question I've been contemplating. My doctor didn't mention one way or the other. If it wasn't for this site I wouldn't have even known to ask. I finally got myself physically where I am actually happy with myself and I'm afraid I'm going to gain weight or get the spare tire or permanent swelly belly that some people speak of. I'm worried about my sex life after. Will I be one of those that has no desire or suffers from dryness. I was diagnosed with Adenomyosis and was told for my age and condition this was really the best and really only option according to my doctor. On top of all that, I'm having trouble with my insurance company. The are trying to decide if they are going to cover it. It they don't decide soon it won't matter because as of January 1st we have new insurance. And of course that is insurance that won't cover the 100% of the surgery. The only problem with having it in December is Christmas. I'm sure I'll be spending it in bed. I really do think it will be best for me to have it. I just wish it was simpler and I could be sure of the outcome. Yeh, my symptons now will be gone but what new ones will I have that I have to live with the rest of my life. That's one reason I'd like to keep my cervix. You can't put it back once it's out but I can get it out if I have problems with it. Any advice, encouragement or a good slap in the face is appreciated. Thanks Hyster Sisters!!!!!! Greta
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Unread 11-12-2004, 07:15 PM
Help! I'm so confused! sound normal to me!

I kept my cervix and ovaries. They were reason to get rid of them.

The recovery has not been all that bad for me. I heal slowly, but I expected that. I feel ok, and don't use pain pills but maybe once a day now. Usually at night.

I suggest you just plan your holidays before you have your surgery. It may not be the most stupendous Christmas ever, but hey, get your kids involved to help. Make sure they know you will have limits and ask them to help. I bet they will.

As for how you will feel afterwards...hysterectomy is one of the safest surgeries you can have. I know lots of women who have had one, and they seem fine to me. I fully expect to be back to normal and feeling better than ever in a few more weeks.

Best wishes to you, I hope you can get your insurance to cover it, and it helps you feel better.
Unread 11-12-2004, 07:31 PM
Help! I'm so confused!

Hi Greta,

I kept my cervix and ovaries also. It was bye-bye to my uterus and pesky fibroids only.

I wanted to keep my cervix if I was a candidate. My Dr. said I had to have a sturdy cervix and normal pap smears for years. Also, cervical cancer does not run in my family.

My Dr. told me that the cervix helps with pelvic support and also helps with sex. I also read on H.S. that the cervix is the size of a large button and it secretes a mucus that helps prevent vaginal dryness. I had my cervix cauterized so that has prevented a mini-period.

Before my hyst, I had bladder incontinence and had to go the restroom for just a trickle. With a cervix and now "no" fibroids, I think my cervix has given me added support downstairs.

Best wishes. The cervix question is a very personal decision.

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Unread 11-12-2004, 07:37 PM
Christmas Surgery

Hi Greta,

I have also just been alerted that I will have a LAVH/RSO just before Christmas (December 21)... With all the problems that I have had over the last twelve years, I see this as an opportunity for a new life -- a less painful one!

My family did not like that I was going to miss Christmas, but I convinced them that a celebration on January 1 would be just as fun. Hopefully, I will be somewhat healed by then and be able to celebrate the new year and a new life.


P.S. I was also concerned about my insurance company paying for my surgery, because I am just 34. They have agreed without conflict.
Unread 11-12-2004, 09:39 PM
Help! I'm so confused!

Hi there, I feel for you with insurance thing, they can be such a pain. I had my surgery 2 years ago, and did a complete, I had endometreosis really bad. I had to have 3 surgeries to get my little girl. In my case doctor said if I left anything, that the endo would just attack it eventually anyway, so I thought, what the heck, just take it all. My life has been so so so so much better since, if I would have known, I would have had it done as soon as I could after my llittle girl was born. My recovery was wonderful, if all the sisters could have a recovery like mine, it would be great. I will pray for you to make the decision you feel best, and just remember, always take care of yourself.................................

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