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Unread 12-22-2004, 10:36 AM
Rude comments about recovery!

booboo88, I am so sorry your cousin sent her brain on vacation. That was a horrible thing to say.

Is there anyway you can confront her on that? It might make you feel better, and her feel worse, and that might make you feel even better.

Not that making someone feel bad is a good thing, but look at it as education, she might not say something so thoughtless and hurtful to someone else.

Again, I am so sorry, and I hope your healing otherwise goes smoothly.

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Unread 12-22-2004, 02:16 PM
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Some of the ones I've heard have already been mentioned, but by people who should know better. My mom (who had her ovary removed a couple of months ago and didn't do a thing for three weeks) said "Well, I know a lady who had that done and was back to work after a week. You're young you'll bounce back in no time. Don't be a baby about it."

I made the mistake of going shopping with my sister yesterday what should have been a short (about half an hour to an hour) trip turned into four hours of pure misery. I bled like crazy when I got home, and my stomach hurt so bad I was eating percocet like crazy just trying to get a little bit of relief. The point to that is, my dad told me today "Well, you should be just fine now. There's no reason you can't cook and clean like normal." This was after he saw me laying on the couch crying yesterday trying to get the pain to go away.

Another one is "Well, I don't know why you can't take care of your kids. You seem to be doing fine, I mean you're not walking all humped over or anything."

I still have to sit down in a chair to take a shower!!!!! What are these people thinking???????
Unread 12-22-2004, 02:36 PM
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I'm so sorry you are not getting much support at home. If they have not been through it, then they just don't understand! Four hours shopping? No wonder you're eating percoset!

and a to my2.....I'm sorry you've had to go through so much this year...I hope 2005 is a better year.

and booboo...marla's right, your cousin sent her brain on vacation! here's a for you, too.

have you all seen the site w/the graphic pictures of our surgery? I believe this is the link from the resources section (if it does not work, maybe another sister knows better):

Anyway, maybe if others saw the "major-ness" (for lack of a better term) of this surgery.....

well, anyway, you ladies take only have one chance to recover
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Unread 12-23-2004, 10:25 PM
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It's sad that I haven't stepped foot into my place of work...Wally World aka Wal~Mart in nearly a month. And it's x-mas season. I have been going out of my way to visit neighboring stores. I just don't want to hear the lame comments that flow from their mouths.

I half don't want to go back in January either!! I don't think my husband can handle the finanacial burden if I decide to take an addtional few weeks more. I have vacation time but don't want to waste it. If I had a nice sit down job with more of the mental anguish than standing up all day and moving around and lifting items maybe I would be eager to go back to work. I have mental anguish and managerial abuse to boot. The lady incharge of my scheduling is constantly down by back about something.

Take care.
Unread 12-25-2004, 10:45 AM
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I have been immensely lucky. I expected only basic sick pay during my time off and worried how we would financially cope especially with christmas looming. My amazing employer has put me on a special rate sick pay, for as long as I needed and from day 1 (no waiting till you have been off 7 days before qualifying).
So I have recieved my standard pay as if I had been working the whole time, and still accrueing my holidays as if I was there.

His comments were "special situations need special treatment, it's not as if you are home with a cold"
Unread 12-26-2004, 10:02 AM
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my "favorite" stupid comment was" Oh, you're on the GOOD stuff (vicodin). Do you get a buzz? " No.... I get a little relief from having been cut open etc.!!!!!! Gee....give us a break.
Unread 12-26-2004, 12:25 PM
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Wow, Kia! You are very blessed to have a sympathetic employer. He must be a special person.

Happy Holidays and may you fully recover soon!

Unread 12-31-2004, 04:48 PM
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I'm three weeks out and my neighbor called last night to ask "Are you recuperating?" I said,"yes" He said "Are you all recuperated?"
I said "Hell, NO!" He said "OH, we were just wondering if you had any more of that wine?" You see, my DH makes wonderful homemade wine, but we live in a very old house with a cellar that has a very heavy door on the floor of the porch. I had to tell my rude neighbor that I really couldn't lift the fifty pound door quite yet!!

Before my surgery, I was helping an older friend by driving her around to various appointments and one day as I was reminding her that I would be going into the hospital, she said to quit talking about it so much and that I would be fine and able to help her again in two weeks!!!! The day I got home from the hospital, she called to see if my daughter (the one who was going to be staying with me to help me) could come out and help her!!!
Unread 12-31-2004, 05:08 PM
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My own sister told me a friend of hers had "the very same surgey" I did and returned to work in three weeks. That was when I was three weeks post op and still feeling rather ragged. I could have cried! This TAH/BSO, lysis of adhesions was my third abdominal surgery in 14 years not to mention d&c's and laporoscopies! I'm taking my time recovering, hoping to not cause any further adhesions and don't care what anyone elae thinks about how long I take to myself!
Unread 12-31-2004, 07:22 PM
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I cannot believe the audacity of some people! These are usually the same people that really don't care about anyone else but themselves. . . and always have something that is much worse!

I guess I am extraordinarily blessed. . . my support has been overwhelming. My gyn told my husband that I was not to lift anything heavier than the remote and my cup of tea; my husband is making sure that I don't. I am a teacher and have had students and parents, as well as my co-workers, call to see if there was anything that I needed done! When I tell them that I feel great, they remind me that I need to rest and take care of myself.

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