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Unread 12-18-2004, 06:46 AM
i think i need a new Dr....

i went to see my Dr. finally after a week of playing phone tag with her nurse...anyways i have had lower right pain for almost 3 months it was sooo bad last weekend i almost went to the ER. anyways i went to see her Friday afternoon and she did a vaginal ultrasound she found 2 cysts. they were both about 3.5 cm i was telling her that's what all this pain is coming from huh? she says no not really i would think if i found large mass than that would explain your pain!...she then referred me to a pain managment for cronic pain...then she prescribed Zoloft" for depression!!!!!
I'M NOT DEPRESSED!!!maybe a little angry,but that is a whole world that i'm not going into...you start taking pillls for this then it turns into that! no thanks!! she was talking like i was making my pain up...i'm a mother of 2 boys and a part time job i drove an extra 30 miles to get in friday i don't have time to make up stuff....
i guess after awhile you fall into that catogery that after almost everything is removed you should be fine!!! i still have Endo and alot of pain all the time everyday.. and now i'm not even being heard!!!!!
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Unread 12-18-2004, 07:19 AM

I understand your frustration!!! Cysts are VERY painful, That is how I started on this road, with one very large cyst that would pull me to my knees with pain, then go away, only to come back two weeks later. My orginal GP put me on Xanax and told me to see a shrink, as I was too old for endo (46 at the time, and getting a period every 28 days) and that cysts don't hurt that much!! I have since found a new GP, and my GYN tells me that the pain I have now is an "abdominal wall thing" and to do sit ups and live with it!! I have found a new GYN-pelvic floor specialist but I have to wait until late January to see her. So yes, maybe you do need a new Dr. I KNOW how hard it is to go to someone new, but I got the same attitude from my Dr, I feel like he thinks I am insulting HIM, because everything is out, (TAH/BSO) yet I still have problems!!! I HATE that attitude, give women pills and send them on their way!!!! Good Luck to you, and DON"T let any Dr convince you that your pain is in your head! I think, if they would jusy admit that they "don't know" what is causing the pain, we would be better off!!
Unread 12-18-2004, 08:11 AM
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You are right, to try to find another doctor. It sound like this one is not listening, and you don't need that. Before I was diagnosed with endo, I was going to this doc who did an ultrasound and he said he only saw a few small cysts and it shouldn't be causing me that much pain, he also wanted me to take anti-anxiety meds, I told him no thank you and that was my last time seeing him. I went to a new doc, and she listened to all the symptoms I described and said it sound like you may have endo, she said only way to tell is by going in. She also said it doesn't matter how small cysts are where they are located can also cause pain. When she went in she did find endo and she was right. She said I didn't need anti-anxiety meds I just needed someone to do the proper tests. I don't just take what the doc tells me if I know my body, and I don't just take something they prescribe without doing my homework, so I think you should find a doc who will listen to you, and treat the symptoms you have not just prescribe a pill.

I am facing the dilema now of finding a new doc because my current one is no longer accepting my insurance, So I will have to pick a new doc, and I like the current one it was hard to find a good one. My heart goes out to you and I hope you find someone who will listen to you.
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Unread 12-18-2004, 08:19 AM
i think i need a new Dr....


I am so sorry she treated you that way. Your pain is real, don't let anyone second guess that. I do agree that you need to get another doc's opinion as well.
You mentioned that you still have endo, doesnt your doc know that? Couldn't that plus the cysts be causing your pain? Duh----she needs a clue and you need a new doc.
I am sorry that you went through that. Did you accept the Z oloft or tell her that you didn't need it?
Unread 12-18-2004, 08:43 AM
i think i need a new Dr....

I left my first gynae as I found him impatient

Im lucky to have only good Drs take care of me after that . Sometimes a move is in order

at one stage when my nausea was being investigated I was asked by a young tfainee : are you making yourself puke

I was dumbfouonded

Another team was hinting at a possible psych evaluation. Thankfully theyreferred me to a specialist who put a stop to all those tests and asked tht I be reffered back to my gynae.

After afew more trips in and out of the ER i opted for the bSO and tookit from there . Had I listened to all those people who told me it was m y diet or to stop thinking and maybe I wouldnt puke .. I said I would be a gonner by now

If you could care ot go to the journal;s section it tracks my recovery and thoughts on medical and off medical matters .. I wish you all the best . Sometimes you may have to take matters in yourown hands and go hunting for someone to hear you out


Unread 12-18-2004, 12:21 PM
i think i need a new Dr....

CoffeeLover, you need an endo specialist, or at least a doctor who understands the disease. This doctor sounds like she has no clue at all about what causes pain, not just endo pain. She really sounds like she does not give a flip. Move on. I have had this kind of thing happen to me as well.
Unread 12-18-2004, 06:27 PM
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thanks for all of your replies.. it's nice to know i can come here and get real answers.. i didn't accept the zoloft just becasue medicine leads to more meds...
i think it is the endo/cysts that is my problem... when would i find an endo specialist??thanks so much
Unread 12-19-2004, 10:11 AM
i think i need a new Dr....

Here are a couple of links may help:

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Unread 12-19-2004, 11:45 AM
i think i need a new Dr....


I am so sorry you were subjected to an uncaring gyn. For whatever reasons (perhaps she has problems, too) she is not serving you, her patient. I agree with the others.... moving on sounds like a option work investigating.

Just to present the other side of the zoloft argument...Zoloft has changed my life. I had no idea how depressed I was about the chronic pain until I started taking it and then felt like "me" again. I resisted every suggestion of an SSRI for a couple of years. And, it has not led to any other medications for me. This is my experience and is not necessarily applicable to you.

Also, my doctor sounds like the exact opposite of yours. Wish I could clone him and send the clone to you. He's simply the most caring and respectful doctor I've ever known. Treats me as if I am capable of making my own informed decisions. Never doubts my pain and seems truly upset for me that I am not better.

In spite of the great mutual respect and trust, I am seeking a 2nd opinion on the 29th about a BSO. I don't want to have just acted on one opinion, no matter how much I trust and respect that opinion.

You deserve a doctor who will walk this journey with you, provide leadership when you need it and let you be in charge when its appropriate.

Best wishes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Unread 12-19-2004, 02:58 PM
i think i need a new Dr....

I have to agree whole-heartedly with everything that (((Michelle))) said. I've been where you are, although it was my GP who was telling me all my problems where in my head. I am on state medical assistance and getting my GP changed has proved to be a challenge. However, I refuse to continue putting my health in the hands of someone like this.

I, too, take Zoloft and it has made a world of difference for me in dealing with the pain and stress. It took me a long time to decide that I needed the help of an anti-depressant and that just because I took one did not mean that all my complaints were depression caused.

Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.

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