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would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic? would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

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Unread 12-21-2004, 09:22 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

Hi Ladies--

I just had my H three months ago. I am not the smartest when it comes to going to the Dr. i was suffering with my fibroid related problems for two and a half years before I finally dragged myself into the DR's office--and yes, that means I wasn't getting my annual paps.

So now, I have devloped a comfortable professional/medical relationship with my DR--the one who did the surgery-- and I got a letter in the mail yesterday that my insurance company is terminating the contract with his medical group and I am going to have to find a new dr. This is REALLY bothering me. I really would like for all of my follow-up to be done with him. i know that i am not going to have a choice, but i am really upset.

Is this justifiable, or am i being dramatic? would it bother any of you if you HAD to change drs now?

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Unread 12-21-2004, 09:30 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

It would make me crazy if I had to change Drs. right now. I think you are justified in your anger. This surgery is so personal that once you find a Dr that you have a good relationship with, it's difficult to make a change.

I had to change Drs in the middle of my lupron treatments several years ago. I loved my Dr. She recommended my new Dr. who I also love. Because they are personal friends (they interned together), they have discussed my case on several occaisions. I feel like I have two great women on my side trying to make the best decisions they can.

My best advice is that you ask your current Dr. for a recommendation for the new Dr. In my experience, it is a small community and they know each other fairly well. You want the lines of communication between the two to be open so that if the new Dr. has questions they are comfortable in contacting your old Dr.

Good luck!
Unread 12-21-2004, 09:30 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

Well everything is bothering me now. But you are so right with your feelings. These insurance companys can all go out of business as far as I'm concerned. I grew up with doctor's who came to the house ...that's right, they made house calls! No insurance. Our freedom is in the toilet with these companys. Hang on...I have a feeling it will get worse.

You are justifiable!
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Unread 12-21-2004, 09:31 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

I am 42 years old. I have 4 kids, and I`ve been to the gyn 4 times!
My last one is almost 6, after I had her everything has been going down hill FAST! I found the most wonderful dr who is also the surgeon (uro-gyn) and I feel so fortunate. I would be devastated if my insurance company told me to simply choose someone else.
Unread 12-21-2004, 09:53 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

I'm in a similar situation. I'm VERY particular about my doctors. Since I moved to Illinois, I haven't even found a GP. Since most of my problems have been related to being a female (fibrocystic breast disease and obviously problems with reproductive organs), my first mission was to find a good ob/gyn. Well, after several "interviews", I found the one I like and feel comfortable with. She did my surgery--and now she's moving to another state!

She told me to see her colleague in the same medical group she's in for my final release at 6 weeks. I do have a friend who goes to her and likes her, so hopefully I'll feel the same, but it IS going to be difficult after establishing such a close relationship with my original "choice". Heck, we put our lives in that person's hands, and who else knows us so intimately, both physically and even emotionally (I hide more form my DH than I do from my GYN!)

Yes, it's hard, but we'll survive. You just take things as they come. I've had to switch doctors every time I've moved, but it's harder when it's not your choice. Hang in there, but be proactive in finding a replacement that you can be comfortable with.
Unread 12-21-2004, 10:11 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

Yes, that is a BIG deal...At 4 weeks post op I received a letter saying my Dr. was moving back east and as of Jan 1 I would need to find another dr. This REALLY bothered me. I felt abandoned. I felt like she had 'seen my insides' and knew me better than any other dr. ever could. Now at 8 weeks I've accepted it...I don't like it...but I know I'll find another dr....but I just wanted you to know that I TOTALLY understand your feelings. This is a difficult time for us and we are more vulnerable than usual...so of course this would be upsetting to you...just the fact of not having the same dr. and then of course the stress of the insurance. Just remember to continue to take care of yourself and maybe do some extra pampering to help you get through this.

Take care,

Unread 12-21-2004, 10:33 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

Definitely a big deal!! I would continue to see my doctor for my follow up visits and pay out of pocket. I think reg. office visits are somewhat reasonable, but if not I would see about a payment plan. Then switch doctors after I was finished with this ordeal. Not sure if that's something you could do or not.

I wish you the best of luck!! I hate the way insurance can dictate our lives like this.

Unread 12-21-2004, 11:42 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

You are definitely justified in how you feel. I've had a few doctors over the years that were very close in vicinity to me (prior to my situation). But, when it came time to need them (to figure out what was wrong with me).....a no go. I found a terrific doctor 45 minutes away from my home and have absolutely no problem driving that distance. She tested me, talked with me (without her hand on the doorknob while talking like the others!!) gave me options, told me what she was going to do, gave me her opinion with what her findings were and also scheduled and performed my surgery. I am hoping I never have to deal with her moving or retiring early. And yes, it is a very big deal that your insurance is cutting you off from your lifeline to good health! Shame on them. What ever happened to "choice". Maybe they would change their corporate tune if they had to go out for you and find a credible physician. Then again, we wouldn't want to overwork them, would we???
Unread 12-21-2004, 11:46 AM
would this irritate you--or am i being dramatic?

The same thing happened to me but when I called the HMO they told me that I was allowed to use the same OB/GYN for follow up appts. So I at least got to finish up with the same doctor. I suggest calling your HMO. . . it's worth a phone call anyway, right?
Unread 12-21-2004, 12:20 PM
docs vs. ins co

I have been very lucky to have two obgyn I trust who take the only two insurance policies offered by my employers. Either would have been fine, but in the end, I am most happiest with the one who did my surgery, cuz she left my ovaries where they belonged!!

But, we have had other med issues where specialists were no longer covered due to change in policy or what have you. We petitioned the ins company, and had our PCP write a letter as to the importance of continuation of care. Also, try calling the insurance co and ask under what circumstances they would make an exception, and WRITE DOWN WHAT THEY SAY then in your petition/response to the rejection, USE THEIR LANGUAGE. It's amazing how they are half computer/half human...

Seriously though, some of my dear friends work for insurance, and to a certain extent, they are just "following orders" give them a break (if you can) It's not the person on the phone who said "no."

Good luck and get the care you want, need deserve!!


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