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Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery? Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

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Unread 01-05-2005, 01:56 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

I can't complain about my husband - he has been absolutely wonderful during my recovery period. I had a exploratory lap in May - the day before our 9th anniversary and he was so wonderful.

I then had my LAVN 2 days before Thanksgiving and he did everything. In fact, now a days he spends his time reprimanding me when I try do to something that I should not be doing yet -- God it is hard to be good when you feel good enough to do stuff like go to the mall shopping or cooking dinner etc.

I think the thing about my husband is that we were best friends for over a year before we even started dating and now it is almost our 10th anniversary and we are still together and blissfully happy.

We decided about 2 years ago to not have biological children (bi-peds) and we are raising a family of cats (quadro-peds). I truly believe that our decision has helped our marriage in that we are very committed to each other and communicating. So for those of you out there - there is hope for your husbands if you train them from the very beginning. Remember no man is perfect LOL
and your cats will always love you especially when you come bearing food !!!!

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Unread 01-05-2005, 02:10 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

my dh and i have been together since we were 16...our 16th wedding anniv is next month...when he was 18 he had severe kidney stone problems w/2 surgeries w/in 4 wks opening from belly button down to he has some idea of what i went/am going through...LOL...i was very lucky to have my parents come and they've been here 5 weeks so far, so dh hasn't had to do a lot on the homefront...he's helped w/our 4 kids and most of all he's been with me...he's back to traveling now, but it was nice having him here...and still when i try to do something he tells me to let it be, he wants me doing nothing...a girl could get used to that!
Unread 01-05-2005, 02:11 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

My DBF was wonderful. He took time off of work to take care of me the week after surgery. For the next few weeks he stopped in every day after work to cook me dinner, clean the house and run errands for me. He was sweet, good-natured, and kept me laughing throughout the whole recovery period.

He is normally a very shy person, but when I was in the hospital he thought something was terribly wrong when I fell asleep eating my broth (the spoon was halfway to my mouth!). He went out to the nurse's station to demand that someone come look at me. Of course it was only the morphine making me loopy, but that didn't matter to me, he was my hero!

Ladies, I know about a husband who isn't there for you. My ex let me down completely after my brother died (part of the reason he is now my ex). But I have a winner now.

Rita, I love your advice about letting our guys know how much they mean to us. I'm gonna think up something nice to do for him.


BTW, DBF and I got engaged on Christmas. I couldn't be happier!
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Unread 01-05-2005, 02:12 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

Thank you so much for the compliment! That's so kind of you to say. He is the only boy out of 5 and the baby to boot. So maybe that explains it! I have to agree with kris that its hard to stay down and I have gotten the dickens several times for doing what HE thinks is too much. I still don't vacuum or haul large loads of laundry but other than that I am back 100%. Good luck to all in your recovery and I hope all the wives that don't get the support they need and deserve at least get support somewhere. We all need it.
Unread 01-05-2005, 02:25 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

My DH did not 'help out' around the house very much, DS did that... Dh however has been emotionally wonderful to me. He has told me he loves me more in the past three months, than in the 16 years before my surgery. He tells me I am beautiful. He supports my moods, and makes me very happy.

My dh may not be Mr Mom of the year, but he sure is the best husband he can be to me...My kid on the other hand is a perfect Mr Mom!!

Unread 01-05-2005, 03:16 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

I describe my DH as a "jewel and a blessing". This man has literally put his whole life on hold for me for the last 4 months. He was by my side at the hospital and is still by my side today. He has put his business on hold as much as it is possible and he has done virtually all the shopping and has driven me to 8 gyn appts, 4 Uro appts, 5 tests in the hospital and is now facing who knows what with this new specialist that is in Pittsburgh. That is 1 hr drive each way and we don't know how many times we will have to go. When I told him I finally got the appt. he said all he had to do now is hold me on the ground until we can ge there with bells on. One day he told me that he was sure hoping that he would pass before me because he couldn't make it without me.

If I never told him enough how much he means to me you can bet your bippie I tell him every day now.
Unread 01-05-2005, 03:25 PM
Anyone observe new things about DH since surgery?

My DH has also been great to me. He's been doing the dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, picking up things I drop on the floor. He has really been wonderful and truly commited to my recovery. My DS and DD who come home for the weekends were also very helpful in getting the house cleaned and helping to treat me like a princess. It shouldn't take something this drastic for us to see their true colors, but it's SO WONDERFUL to know I can count on them.
Last Thursday I made up a whole long list of cleaning and chores for the three of them to do and the three of them rushed around obliging me all Friday in between doing their own stuff. Later that day we talked about how amazing it was that it took the three of them to do what I normally do - and I do it on top of a full time job plus other responsibilities.
So, not only did I appreciate them, but they had a new appreciation of me and what my week is usually like. Let's hope all these wonderful new feelings (or renewed feelings) can last long after the recovery!

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