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Unread 01-08-2005, 01:48 PM
Attention to your DH

Wow, I was reading the first couple of posts this morning, while my DH was in the adjoining TV room calling me to, "come look at these boat races on speed vision!" Right then and there I logged off and went and snuggled up to him on the sofa and acted interested and asked numerous questions. He was so happy, he took me to breakfast and Walmart - what a guy!
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Unread 01-08-2005, 06:32 PM
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Before my surgery, I was always busy on weekends "doing things" that I thought made my our life easier. DH would usually retreat to watch football (or some other sport) during the time I would be taking care of the business of "getting things done". After my surgery, I could do nothing else so started watching football with him. I was surprised at how much he seemed to enjoy having me there beside him.

He's gotten into a routine of getting up early on saturday and running to the store and cleaning the house so everything is done before the first game starts. I put a meal he loves in the crockpot or oven, timed so it will be ready late afternoon. We then sit down together and spend the afternoon relaxing and watching whatever game is on.

He seems thrilled to have me there beside him. He talks my leg off!!! Rarely do either of us even know the score of the game because we are so emersed in our conversation. Today he said he was worried that now I'm feeling better that I might not want to "hang" with him on saturday and sunday afternoons.

Why did it take my surgery for me to realize how important this time together is to him and how wonderful it could be? I thought we had a lot of time together before, but now I have a whole new appreciation for what quality time with DH is really like. Now I think of the things we used to do together and thought of as our "quality" time..a quick dinner out, yard work, shopping, a movie etc. and realize that it really wasn't quality time at all.

We promised each other today that we will always reserve one afternoon each weekend to spend alone together "doing nothing". An unexpected benefit of having my surgery!
Unread 01-08-2005, 08:06 PM
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I envy all you guys. Since my surgery, my husband has been so distant it has seemed like I have gone through this alone. I would love to have him want to "snuggle" or just watch TV together, and a walk would be wonderful. All I am getting is the silent treatment and left alone. Please, remember each day to thank God for guys like you have got. It makes your heart hurt, along with all the other healing; and this doesn't feel good. I cry alot.
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Unread 01-08-2005, 10:29 PM
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I am SOOO glad I started this thread. This makes me feel sooo??? not sure what but something. I told my DF (fiance) how wonderful he has been and I wrote a thank you card and left it by his keys. I expressed my feelings towards how he has cared for me and treated me and he didn't go play golf or go bowling. I guess I just needed to invite him into my healing so he could do something other than worry! Now we are counting down- 4 more weeks until we can have sex.
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