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Regret? Probably depression? Regret? Probably depression?

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Unread 01-08-2005, 05:01 PM
Regret? Probably depression?

My surgery was a fast decision too. I went to the doctor because of heavy bleeding during my periods - that was in September. I had my total hysterectomy in November 30th. I have cried and questioned it many times, even though I was told that I could not wait any longer than 3 months to have it. My body is taking "it's dear time" healing, but my emotions are taking longer. Since I have been home, my husband doesn't look or act the same way with me, even though we both know that we were not going to have any more children (we have 3 already - 20. 23 and 24 years old). My mother took alot of time to help me during my recovery time, and now she is not speaking to me because I disagreed with her about something. I seem to sit alone in my room alot and feel very lonely. I know it had to be done, but I never expected to have to go through it alone.
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Unread 01-08-2005, 06:40 PM
Regret? Probably depression?

Be kind to yourselves we just went through a very tramaitizing surgery and we lost a very important part of our bodies.

I just when and had a message yesterday and increassed my patch so today I feel better then I have in a long time.

I wish I could turn the clock back and do things differently. My doctor gave me the weekend to decide. I was sick and not in the right frame of mind to make a major life changing decision, and it was not a life and death problem. I'm 11 weeks.

We learn to let go of our regets/lost over time and move on.

Hang in there and keep letting us know how you are doing.
Unread 01-09-2005, 12:04 AM
Regret? Probably depression?

Well how does this grab you>>>>
I went to the dr on 11/19 and I had surgery on 12/21. I am engaged to be married on 7/9/05 and I am 33 with no kids.
I cried a lot. My DR set up an appointment w/ me & my fiance to discuss my issues and answer any questions.
We were also in pre-marital counseling and we had a session on the same day as the dr's appointment.

The minister asked about kids and I burst into tears and told her the whole story. My fiance was not ready to discuss it. Our homework was to hold each other and discuss it. We didn't really talk (we ALWAYS talk - for the last 7 years).
A week later we had another counseling session and she asked us if we discussed it. I said no. She asked why? WHO KNOWS!
I expressed my concern for him MISSING out on the 'fathering expereince" and My fiance said that the only thing he was concerned with was me "CHANGING" and not being the same person he feel in love with. One of his friend's wives had the surgery and turned into another person.

I wrote all of that to say talk it out, write it out. Tell your fears, your concerns, your worries to someone - even just a journal. Say it OUTLOUD to yourself. Be real with your feelings. Hiding it doesn't help you it only prolongs the healing. I was worried about him and how he felt and he was worried about me. My running joke is that he would rather have me here ALIVE and breathing than my insides. They were just BODY PARTS - they don't make you who you are or stop you from being who you can be!!!
Good luck RELEASING THE REGRETS sisters!

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