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Unread 01-17-2001, 05:18 PM
family doesn't seem to get it!

First I would like to say thank you to all the ladies that take the time to answer questions and respond to posts...I don't know what I would do without this site...I guess only those who experience these problems can truly relate.
I started having heavy periods a year or so ago but just thought it was normal then when I went to the doc for migraines during my period she found out I was very anemic and started asking me a lot of questions. That is when we figured out the bleeding was not normal, etc. Anyways, I am the one in family that always seems to have the problems. I had c-sections with both kids and my sis had no problems having both her kids quick and easy! I have the migraines, my mom and sis do not (a gift from my dad's family-all the women have migraines!)

My problem, since my mom and my sister do not have any problems to speak of, they seem to not understand this whole hysterectomy thing...Whenever I talk about recovery, they seem to think I will be okay in a week!

I love my mom and my sister but like I said they have had no medical problems and I guess I always feel like a hypochondriac(spelling really bad on that) - They are not bad people just not as understanding/sympathetic as I would like. Just needing to get that off my chest and to see how others who I am sure have the same problem handles this...

Thanks for listening and God bless all of you!

scheduled for TAH 2/23/01
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Unread 01-17-2001, 05:28 PM
Family support??!!*#*#*#

Hi! I just wanted to let you know that you deserve to take as much time to recover as you need. Your mom and sis may simply not understand, have they seen this site? I assume that if your doctor says its gonna take 6 weeks, then they will get it? Maybe one or both could accompany you to next doc appt.? Regardless, if you can't count on them-don't. Use friends instead. Just be sure to have support in place before heading off to the Castle. Also-try not to take any of thier judgement on :evil: -you have enough to deal with!
Unread 01-17-2001, 05:41 PM
family doesn't seem to get it!

Hi Terry,

What's causing the abnormal bleeding?

I found that family and friends had anywhere from a zero to pretty good understanding of the hysterectomy issue (and problem uterine fibroids issue). Someone told me their neighbor had a total hyst and she was out mowing her lawn in a few days after the surgery (!) Someone didn't remember having to take an pain medication after her total hyst (!) And many commented that having a hyst wasn't so bad if I didn't want any children (!) A favorite: "Does that mean you won't be able to have children?" (Some people really need a biology review...) And some were just uncomfortable with the whole issue and didn't want to talk about it.

But, I did get support from others and I am grateful for that. And, I was so happy to find this site -- it's been the most help for me. For the ones who weren't "getting it", I tried my best to enlighten them (explain my condition, quote the statistics, etc.). You might try giving your mom and sister a book to read on the subject. Sounds like they are trying to "minimize" the issue.


[Edited by cliz on 01-17-2001]
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Unread 01-17-2001, 06:14 PM
family doesn't seem to get it!

Hi, Terry, you & I seem to be in the same boat!! I'm always the one with the medical problems, and no one else ever has experienced the things that I seem "to come up with"! I'm just gald that each time I sought medical help, I was rihgt about something "not being right". You see I'm a nurse, and everyone just figured that I came up with all my symptoms, because of all the things that I learned and the patients that I cared for... Luckily for me I have a DH that encourages me to seek help, when I don't feel just so. And my Drs, are really very supportive, too. The best advice I can offer to you, is that if you're feeling ill in any way, get help!! Most people who have not gone through this surgery have no idea, just what the recovery phase is like, and that each of us needs to heal at our very own pace. Many people are well meaning in their advice, but just don't seem to understand, the pressure that they put on a person, telling them "oh, you'll be fine in a week or two". Listen, to them politely, but do as you need too, to get yourself back to your regular routine. This web site is the very best place for support needed to women who have gone through the surgery you'll be having. We've "all been there and done that!". Please come to us for any problems, questions, or just to say "HI". We're always here!!! Love & Blessings to you!, Roz

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