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Unread 03-09-2005, 09:28 PM
Am I doing the right thing?


I am a lady in waiting, by sx is on March 29th. I am 31 years old married, 3 great kids. Zach is 11, Madalyn is 7 and Jacob is 7. (yes twins) I have had 5 years of cysts on my ovaries, times where I just bleed for months, I have had a D&C a year ago and I am always in pain on the right lower side. My tubes are tied so we are not going to have any more children and the doctor but me on BC pills to control the bleeding and it doesn't work.
After all these years I have gotton accepted into Dental Hygeine school this fall and I am so excited except for all the female problems I have along with feeling tired 24/7. So I went to talk to my doctor and we decided for me to have a TAH. At first I was so excited No More Pain!!! But now that it is getting closer I am getting scard that I am making a mistake, in my heart I know it is the right thing. I don't want to start school and have to not attend classes because of this. I guess it is just my I have Chron's Disease I have heard that this sx can help with this too. Does any princess have any words of advice for me. I am worried that my husband can't handle the kids, I think I am having a nervous breakdown. I have read the book Through the Land of Hyster and I have the Journal too.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Unread 03-09-2005, 10:33 PM
Am I doing the right thing?

Hi Bre and welcome! I'm glad you found us. I've moved your post over here to the Pre Op forum, which is the board for posting questions when you're a lady in waiting. Post Op ladies visit Pre Op all the time to share their experiences.

What does your DR say is causing your pain that the hysterectomy will eliminate it? You mention ovarian cysts... are you having your ovaries removed, too? If so, do you plan to use HRT?

I have not heard of a hysterectomy helping with Crohn's disease... did your DR give you any references for that? We have a few links on Crohn's in our GI Resources directory; perhaps you'll find something helpful in one of them.

With a surgery date of 3/29, if your school starts in September, the likelihood is that you'll be OK to start classes on schedule... of course, there are no guarantees, as everyone's recovery is different.

Have you talked with your husband about what you'll need in the way of support from him during your recovery? Is there anyone else (mom, other family member, friend) who can come help take care of your children for a little while?

It's very normal to feel nervous before the surgery. It's a big step! Good luck with everything... I'll look forward to reading your story when you're on the other side.

Unread 03-09-2005, 11:07 PM
Hi Bre

Awwww I know how you're feeling. Many, if not all, of the sisters have felt these same things. It's very normal. I was so excited when my hyst. was scheduled. I had about a month to wait until the big day. All was fine up until about a week before surgery. Then I started to have some serious anxiety about it,questioning everything and basically making myself just plain cuckoo for cocopuffs Xanax was a very good friend of mine for a few days there. Then one day reality hit me again and I remembered all of the reasons that the hyst. was necessary. The morning of my surgery while I was in the pre-op holding area and they were doing all of the things to get me ready, the A guy said to me,"you are so amazing. I was going to ask you if you'd like some meds. to relax you ,but in all of my years doing this job I swear to you that I have NEVER seen a woman so very calm and relaxed before her hyst." To which I replied," I have suffered for 20 years with all of this stuff and I know that this is the right thing to do for me to get my life back. I am completely at peace with my decision and I trust the Dr. completely." I am now 16 days post-op and the difference in how I feel physically is huge.
I feel confident that no matter what your decision that it will be the right one for you. Only you know how these things are affecting your life and you will do just what you need to do.

My thoughts are with you. Be well.

39 yrs old....TAH w/BSO on 2-22-05 and feeling great
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Unread 03-10-2005, 05:09 AM
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I have also had some MAJOR anxiety and wondered if I was doing the right thing.Basically, I thought about all the WHY's I'm having the surgury and life after helped ease my mind about it.I know that I'm doing the right thing for me and my family.Only you can decide what is best for you.Look into your heart and you can't go wrong.Good luck!!!
Unread 03-10-2005, 06:41 AM
Am I doing the right thing?


Oh yes, your DH will do just fine with the kids. Now, just remember, he may not give them the same healthy food that you do, they might go to bed with dirty hands, they might drink more coke than milk and eat more chips than fresh fruit, but they will be just fine. They won't go hungry, they will get dressed every day, they'll get to school every day. If they get there late the first day DH will start earlier the next day. They will have a great time with their father. Don't worry, just concentrate on getting well.

Actually I think hysters are good for the men. They will finally see what all we do to keep the house running and have a whole new appreciation and LOVE for us.

Happy thoughts,
Jo Ann

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