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Unread 04-21-2005, 10:22 AM
when do you quit looking for a answer?

I continue to have shooting pains in my vaginal area that almost drops me to the ground. It doesn't happen everyday, but when it does it is bad. I can't even take long walks like I used to, because I end up in pain.Sometimes the pain hits at work when I am just walking into the nurses station or wherever.My coworkers are worried about me and don't know what to do when I hurt like that.
My gyn said he can't do anything more than he has for me. He referred me to a pelvic floor specialist. He deals with support issues.I don't know if he could help me either. I was tested by a rectal colon dr. with a EMG, Anal menometry,colon transit and defecogram. Those test came out normal. My anal splichters are ok. I have no idea what is causing the pain in the vaginal area. All I know is it is for real. Most of the time my DH and I can't even have intercourse because I am swollen closed. When we do, it hurts on the left side, which is where my pain comes from. I also have very little sensation inside.
I have pretty much decided I will have to live like this. It sure isn't what I had planned on. I thought after the hyst and then the posterior repairs my sex life would be good. I also thought I would be pain free. Boy, was I wrong!
When do you just quit looking for answers and live with it? I feel so discouraged.Should I make a appt. with the gyn specialist or just give up?

Thanks for all of the support
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Unread 04-21-2005, 11:08 AM
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{{{{{{{Peggy}}}}}}} Don't give up hun.......you shouldn't have to live like that!! I think you should make the appt. with the gyn specialist and tell him just what you have told us here. What do you have to lose and what is the worst that can happen? Think positive......he may have the answers you need. Please hang in there........

Unread 04-21-2005, 01:27 PM
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i have read your posts over many months and know you have searched and searched for answers. please don't give up there must be someone out ther that can help you. maybe this specialist will be the one

my heart goes out to you.

like emily says - hang in there

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Unread 04-21-2005, 01:53 PM
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God I hate hearing you talk like that...but I know exactly how you feel. You know something that just came to my mind and I can't remember if you had this checked out or not---could it be that you have an entrapped nerve somewhere causing the pain and numbness in your vagina...maybe adhesions or something to do with your posterior repairs? Didn't this vaginal pain come after you had the repairs done? Could be from that or way back from the hyst with adhesions in your pelvis entrapping a nerve that runs to your vagina. Every once in a while I will have a very sharp pain inside my vagina--I am thinking that has to do withthe pelvic muscle issues I have. But let me know about what I am guessing right now..lol
Much love hun
Unread 04-21-2005, 01:53 PM
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If it were me, I'd go. I encourage you to take one step at a time and cross the bridges when you get there. I know that sounds oversimplified. And, its so hard to keep going when you feel like you are hitting one obstacle after another.

I'd also give myself a complete rest from intercourse until after the next doctor visit. As Dr. Ruth would say, if it hurts, don't do it. I am saying this as someone who has been regularly unavailable for intercourse. I know what its like to mentally/emotionally want to be intimate and it be a physical impossibility. Lucky for me .. for DH, its a real turn off for him to think he is hurting me.

Do take care and try to have hope. We have to have hope.

Unread 04-21-2005, 06:17 PM
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Dear mtdewpeg,

Oh, please don't give up....you deserve a whole life..and that includes intimacy with the love of your life. There has to be a GYN in your area that can help you or at the very least, point you in the direction of a doctor that can. My prayer for you is that you will find a knowledgable, caring doctor who set you free from your pain.....
Unread 04-21-2005, 10:16 PM
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I do think that there is a time that you have to give up on doctors, for sanity's sake. You might want to try acupuncture. It can't hurt, and might get the energy flowing in you pelvic area in a positive way. There are some acupuncturists even who specialize in women's health issues.
Unread 04-22-2005, 05:06 PM
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Oh you poor thing, I know what you are going through and its not pretty..

I've had cramps, pelvic pain since 2-21-05, in the hopsital with IV's have seen everyone, ct scan, OK, Altersound OK, Pap, OK, it all stared after having intercourse (I've been with the same person for many years)...My white count is still up 13,000 so I've been on zitromax for over 30 days...Today saw the GYNO AGAIN, he said endo, NO-WAY it it that...I had a total hys 3 years ago and they found NO ENDO....He was not nice to deal with...

So, don't give up hope, I pray a lot, someone will find the answer for us, as bad as i feel at times (flush feeling, low grade temp, tired, etc) I still feel there is hope....

Unread 04-24-2005, 03:13 PM
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Peggy -

I'm so sorry for your pain. I just want to cry, I feel so bad about it. I wish I had some kind of answer to your problem, or at least an idea of how to give you relief from your pain and weariness.

I, too, suffer from chronic health problems that are very painful. It seems that every time I think I may have finally gotten rid of the source of my problem, something else comes up, and the pain just goes on and on. It becomes so wearisome, so frustrating that I just don't feel like I have the energy to go to one more doctor. I feel like I have no desire to go back to my doctors and have them look at me and shrug. I feel like I just want to give up trying to find the answer and just lay in bed, absorbing my fate as if it has defeated me. I do, in fact, feel defeated - like I have fought with all my strength, and have spent all my force, only to concede defeat in the end. The pain has won. It has consumed me.

Why did I try? I gave all I had to give, and gained nothing. Why should I continue to try? I have no reason to hope that the outcome of future efforts will end in anything but continued disappointment.

You see - I do understand. I know the pain of your heart.

But, in spite of what our experience has taught us, we have to keep trying. There is always a glimmer of hope, and where that tiny bit of hope shines into the darkness of our pain, we must follow. We have to keep fighting. We have to keep searching for the answers. We have to keep going, through despair and pain, and through the loneliness we feel deep inside, we have to continue on.

You see, hope is the very thing that keeps the pain at bay. Defeat may seem to beat at the very door, but hope stands by our side, an ever vigilant companion, ready and waiting for our call. Hope keeps us going. Hope is there to whisper in our ears that the sun will rise on another day, and it may well be the glorious day we have prayed for, the day we may find peace at last.

If hope is all we have, it will sustain us until there is more.

And so, despite our history and our misgivings, we will go to one more doctor, time and time again. We will continue to tell our stories. We will continue to pray, and we will continue to hope.

And that is not bad.

With love and hope,

Unread 04-24-2005, 03:28 PM
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Well said....You have given me HOPE and I thank you...I even printed out your email to read again and again...


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