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Unread 04-24-2005, 05:50 PM
when do you quit looking for a answer?

I don't think we should ever give up hope of trying to find answers. I know I have needed to take a break, but I will never give up hope. I've been on this Road for close to five long years and I just know that somewhere out there are some answers for me. As I continue to search I've found some clues here and there, just no long lasting answers yet. But if I had given up I wouldn't have found the clues. For every door that closes another opens Hang in there my friend and keep looking.
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Unread 04-25-2005, 10:49 AM
when do you quit looking for a answer?

Thank everyone for the nice and encouraging responses
I have decided to take a break from doctors and just try to get peace of mind for a while. I have cleared up the bm issue, which is great. As long as I take the fiber and miralax and the stool softener everything goes smoothly. I think I was actually not drinking enough fluids with the fiber and it was backing me up. My abdoman still thumps around and makes weird noises, but hey, I am moving daily and that is what counts. As far as the shooting pains I pretty much came to terms that it must be nerves rubbing the scar tissue like my gyn said. I may have to live with it, this may be what I have been left with for now on. I don't know, but I do know I am tired of going to dr's and worrying, so for now I am on a break from it all. The pelvic support dr. my gyn referred me to does not take my insurance. That pretty much told me to move on and try not to think about it anymore. As far as intimacy with my DH, I can still enjoy part of it and hope it will get better. I do not want anymore procedures or surgeries, so why keep going to dr's? I am so ready to end this chapter in my life. I just want to move on and reach for those dreams. If the pain gets alot worst, I may then persue answers, but for now I am through.I NEED A BREAK!!
Right now I have a totally unrelated issue that is causing me great pain. I have several teeth(molars) that are killing me. I had 3 impacted teeth removed a month before my hyst adventure began. I didn't follow up with the dental issues, because of the 3 surgeries I had within 9 months, Now my teeth are killing me. I called the dentist and can't get in until May 4th. I can't drink anything cold and if food hits those roots I hurt soooo much. 800 mg ibuprofens don't kill the pain. I have used the percocets my gyn gave me after my repair surgery, so I am now out. I am sure the dentist will put me on antibiotics and not be able to pull those teeth for days afterwards. I think the severe anemia cut off blood supply to the roots and made my teeth fall apart. I need to get them all pulled. Actually I need to be out of pain!!
Thanks again. I need to find my orajel and hot water bottle.
Unread 04-25-2005, 06:52 PM
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Peggy -

I'm just so sorry for your pain. Take the time you need and feel good about yourself. You'll know when its time to start looking for help again.

Until then, pamper yourself and don't push yourself too hard. You deserve a break.

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Unread 04-26-2005, 05:25 AM
when do you quit looking for a answer?

You know, my sister was one of those women who had a hysterectomy and suffered no ill effects from it. But, she has been one of my biggest advocates while I've been on this road. Early on, after I found out my adhesions were back after my adhesiolysis, I was in such a depressed state. No kidding, I couldn't even talk without crying. I couldn't imagine living through my life in pain. Fear gripped every fiber of my being. I worried that I'd have a bowel obstruction, I worred that I wouldn't ever be able to enjoy life again, and I worried that my pain would worsen to the point I couldn't live without being gorked out on pain meds for the rest of my life. So far, none of those things have happened and I am so grateful. But, in those dark days early on, I truly lost hope. I felt like I was in a room and someone just turned a light off. My sister reminded me of the scripture that says, "Hope deferreth maketh the heart sick". This is so true - - I believe when we lose hope, our conditions do actually seem worse. Please hang in there, sweetie. Never give up.
Unread 04-27-2005, 07:43 PM
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I was looking at info on open enrollment for health insurance at work today. I saw where Ohio Med has all of my dr's in it and also the dr.(pelvic floor specialist) who my gyn referred me to.I think I will take the insurance, which will not go into effect until July 1. I will also continue to be on my DH's insurance.
I looked up the pelvic floor specialist on the net tonight and found a really neat web site. http://pelvicmed.com/pat/sex_info.html He deals with pelvic floor support disorders and sexual dysfunction disorders. All of these female disorders treatment is in one place. I feel so lucky to find out this info.This fits me to the t. I don't know if it is nerve damage or entrapment which causes my lack of sensation and lubrication, but I think I will get answers here. I will get a appt. in July if I can.
It is weird how all of a sudden pieces fell into place for me. Now all I have to do is relax and continue on with everyday living and know I may find answers yet in a couple months. Even if nothing can be done to help me I know I tried and went to the best place possible.

Thanks for my sisters who always give me support and encouragement.

Unread 04-27-2005, 10:59 PM
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I'm so excited for you! Isn't it just so incredible when you've been really down and feeling like everything bad is happening to you, and then all of a sudden everything starts to work out???

I just love that!

Keep us posted. I'm just sure that good things are coming for you.

Unread 04-28-2005, 10:25 AM
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I am so sorry you are worrying so much. I have two things for you. One is huge cyber hugs from all the way up here, sadly they cant be real hugs.

The second is some advice I got from my counsellor the other day. Please try this and see if it helps. Take your worries, divide them into three categories. I can fix/change, it is feasible to fix/change in the near future, and the last is i cannot fix/change, it is out of my hands. Once you do that, take the third group, the things you cannot change, and put them away. The second make a list of things that you can change but not today, and put those away to worry about tomorrow! As we all know, tomorrow never comes. The first set, you can fix or change today, start working on those.

I found that writing them down, cutting out the part I cannot fix or change, and throwing them away. The second part, things to fix tomorrow, I put away in a safe place. Then I concentrate on todays list of worries, and again, do the listing and sure enough, there is always a worry or two I can procrastinate on, or get rid of. It is helping me, and I hope it helps you too. I worry about the immediate things, and forget the rest. When I go to bed, I find myself stressing tho, so need to again find ways to let go. I used to pray, and have a box, and in that box went everything that I did not need to think about at night, and I handed God the key. I asked him to take on those responsibilities, and it really did work. I started again handing over all those things I think about in bed last night, and within minutes of doing that, I was asleep.

I pray for you Sweet Peg, someday you will find the answers you deserve.

Hugs and much love
Unread 04-29-2005, 12:02 PM
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You never stop searching - NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!

I am only 3 weeks post-op myself -- but I learned that you never stop because of DH's medical problems - and they have been extensive and ongoing. There is an answer out there - or there will be in the futire. The answer may only be in the research stage for something totally different.

My sis has auto-immune probs because of being multiple idiopathic anaphalectic -- and AIDS research is helping her because of all the knowledge gained about the immune system.

DH had 'weird' things going on for years - until they acknowledged the probs from Agent Orange (Vietnam) and the Gulf War I... we spent years trying to figure out what was wrong.

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