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Unread 10-04-2005, 12:17 AM
Got a second opinion!

I just want to let everyone know that I got a second opinion today, but the gyno-oncologist turned out to be a regular gynocologist! I think when I asked for a gyno-onc over the phone the secretary must have heard "gynacologist" instead! I waiterd 2 hours for my turn & after giving the doctor my file to review he asked what the purpose of my visit was. I told him I had cancelled surgery in order to get a 2nd opinion from a gyno oncologist & that's when he told me he was a regular gyno!I felt so embarrassed & asked for his opinion anyway. I asked him if he thought it was okay to have my surgery by my gyno, or by a gyno-oncologist. He told me I was okay with my doctor, that she was an excellent surgeon & that it wasn't smart cancelling my surgery & wasting time.He also said she would have referred me to a gyno-onc if she thought it was necessary. He also told me they have no gyno-oncologists at the hospital I'm having my surgery & that it isn't common practice for two doctors to be present during surgery. I told him that I 'm seeing her on Wednesday to review my cat scan results & to rescheldule. I feel that I made a horrible mistake cancelling my surgery & now I'm scared that my doctor won't be able to book me for surgery immediately . I really want it over with now & I hope my cancellation & delaying surgery doesn't have any negative impacts on my final outcome.
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Unread 10-04-2005, 12:30 AM
Got a second opinion!

Don't be upset for any decision you make being causious. The Docs should understand your feelings and know that you are in it for YOU.
I have read on the boards that mostly everyone says go with a Gyn-Onc but that is your decision. You don't have to use who you don't want to use. If you HAVE to use that hospital because of insurance or your own preference...then so be it. But if you can go to another one and use the Doc of your choice over there...then so be it.
Just make sure that YOU are completely satisfied at the end of your day. If you still are nervous about your Doc then still keep looking. If you are okay then...great.
Don't let this turn to be about the Doc's feelings or their time or their waste in money...This is ALL ABOUT YOU, Princess!!
Hang in there!!! I will pray that you have wisdom in your decisions and have Peace in them all.
Unread 10-04-2005, 12:40 AM

Hi AmIdreaming.
Thanks for your kind words & encouragement. I don't want to waste time looking for new doctors & hospitals because I'm scared of the consequences. I have confidence in my doctor now, especially after getting a second opinion. Thanks.
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Unread 10-04-2005, 01:17 AM
Got a second opinion!


Sorry but you arent going to like what im going to say. If you have had cancer diagnosed, which i believe you have??? then you need a gyn/onc to perform your surgery. Why would you want a specialist who delivers babies and performs less aggressive surgeries? I thoroughly understand that you dont want to waste any time so i suggest that you call your gyn who is performing the surgery and insist on a gyn/onc being present. The trouble is most regular gyns think they are capable of performing operations involving cancer but they are not and should not be allowed to do this kind of surgery. I speak from experience but then at the time i was totally naive re my diagnosis and i wasnt a member of hystersisters!

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Unread 10-04-2005, 01:26 AM
Hi SheilaUK!

I was told that two doctors can't be present during surgery. Either the gyno performs the surger or the gyno-oncologist. I can't afford to waste any time looking for a gyno oncologist & risk my cancer becoming any worse because what good would he do me then?Thanks so much for your advice & I know you're right but I've gone crazy with making phone calls & the waiting time for appointmants is too long & I don't want to take any chances.
Unread 10-04-2005, 03:08 AM
Got a second opinion!

'& I don't want to take any chances'

You are taking a massive chance BUT its your choice. How about asking your gyn how many people she has operated on with cancer? I understand you dont want to delay so after your operation make sure that all your files and report go to a gyn/onc and get that appointment made now. Then at least you will know when you have seen the oncologist that everything has been done correctly.

Unread 10-04-2005, 03:59 AM

Hi Sheila,
You are really scaring me & I'm very confused now. Did you have a bad experience with a gyno? Please let me know. I went to another gyno for a second opinion(the one I thought was a gyno-onc) & he also didn't think it was necessary to refer me to a gyno oncologist so how could two doctors be wrong?
Unread 10-04-2005, 04:30 AM
Got a second opinion!

Hi Mori - I'm not going to give you advice about the gyno or gyn/onc because I'm not as certain one way or another as some of our more experienced sisters. I do know that my small town does not have a gyn/onc in it and many women have their surgeries here; others prefer to ask for a referral. The gyn I saw for the cone biopsy referred me to a gyn/onc for the hysterectomy when the cone couldn't take care of the problem; he said I needed to go to the experts in this field. I think it's easier in the states to get a referral - right? Perhaps shegeek will answer your questions since she's from Canada too.

What I really wanted to tell you is that I hated waiting even a few weeks for the surgery after the cancer was discovered. I asked my gyn how long it took cancer to change -- to get worse, and he replied, "Three months." I have no idea if he was just quelling my fears about having to wait or if the three months' time is accurate, but if it is, then your waiting to figure this out isn't hurting you. So I offer you this for what it's worth.

This is all so hard and scary, isn't it? Many S to you!
Unread 10-04-2005, 04:39 AM

Hi Anna Mann,
I was diagnosed on August 31, 2005, so it's already 2 if your doctors statement is true, I have no time to waste!!!
Unread 10-04-2005, 06:01 AM
Got a second opinion!

Hi Mori

It certainly is not my intention to scare you and im hoping that other sisters will reply to this and agree with my recommendation. As i said, as you have made your decision, then i see no harm in after your operation having all your files and reports being sent to a gyn/onc and an appointment made. That way you have wasted no time? Surely after your operation you are going to make sure you are followed up by a gyn/onc not an ordinary gyne?? Thats all im trying to say. Yes my cancer op was done by a gyn/ob because she was arrogant and thought she was superwoman but the bottom line is she should have referred me and i didnt know any better to insist and yes she made mistakes which didnt come to light until 6 months later wheni finally got the referral to a gyn/onc i eventually insisted on. Doesnt mean that this will ever happen to anyone else but gyn/oncs do 3 years extra studying for a reason. Go with your own decision and gut feeling but please do make sure you are followed up by a gyn/onc.

take care

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