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When did you stop thinking about it? When did you stop thinking about it?

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Unread 11-13-2005, 10:34 PM
When did you stop thinking about it?

Since my diagnosis in August, I've been preoccupied with thinking about my cancer. I realize I'm so fortunate to have this diagnosis because of the high cure rate, but I still think about it most of the time and worry about a recurrence. Is this normal? When does it stop?
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Unread 11-13-2005, 11:12 PM
When did you stop thinking about it?

It took me a long time, it began to get better when I was 9 months out. Better yet at a year and much better at two years. But it never completely goes away. In some ways, that helps me to enjoy life more.

It will get better.
Unread 11-13-2005, 11:53 PM
When did you stop thinking about it?

I was diagnosed in August as well. I think about cancer and worry constantly too- I'm sure it's normal. It's pretty scary stuff. It's weird though, sometimes I wake up in the morning, I don't think about it and all of a sudden remember that I had cancer. It's too bad it isn't just a bad dream.
I hope it will get better with time.
Good luck to you.
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Unread 11-14-2005, 01:01 AM
When did you stop thinking about it?

HeyPearl: I had the same stage/grade as you. Sometimes I think about it, others, I try not to think of it. In a way, I'd rather have had this particular cancer than be, say, an alcoholic or have artery disease or ALS. Guess you could look at it that way. But I know, that when we are alone and we think, we think about what-if's and recurrence. I try to imagine that mine is gone and will never return. ('Cause I couldn't deal with it if it did come back!)
Unread 11-14-2005, 06:32 AM
When did you stop thinking about it?

HeyPearl: I had the same stage and grade cancer that you had. I clearly remember thinking of it every day for the first 3 months after surgery. I would think back and say to myself -- it's been x days, weeks, etc. from diagnosis, surgery, etc. I would compare how I felt each day compared how I felt the day after surgery and at different stages after surgery. Then magically, I stopped doing that and the thoughts came up every so often (usually when I was about to go for my checkups).

I just celebrated my 2 year anniversary from diagnosis and surgery with no recurrences. Now, it's just a part of my life. It's an issue when certain things come up in life (seminar on long term care insurance -- probably not a candidate because of the diagnosis until 5 years out), but not an every day thing. I've gotten involved in a lot of other things and cancer has become just another part of my history, not the driving force in my everyday life.

You are still very close to your surgery date and are still feeling many of the side effects of that surgery. It took me at least 6 months to get over many of the twinges that made me think twice whether to call the Dr or not. By one year out, I felt truly back to normal. When the surgery effects fade, I'll bet the constant thinking about your diagnosis will too.

Unread 11-14-2005, 09:02 AM
When did you stop thinking about it?

Oh, this makes me feel so much better to read others are the same.

I am 5 1/2 months out and am still hyper about very little twinge I get. However, if I am occupied at work or having fun (watching a good movie, out with friends) I can now go an hour or two at a time without thinking about cancer, which doesn't sound great - but believe me, it's an improvement!

And yes, I wake up and think about it almost right away every morning. I hate that...

Last week I was frustrated/scared because I was feeling sore again - then I remembered that I did my first yoga class ever, raked leaves and even danced a bit over the course of the week. No doubt that's why I was sore. I think I expected my body to be back to normal by now, so it's good to hear (again) that it may take some more time.

I hope everyone is having a good day today!
Unread 11-14-2005, 09:23 AM
When did you stop thinking about it?

Thanks for asking this question because it's been on my mind.

I'm a little over a year out from the surgery. I think about the "c" word more now than I did before. I try not to but I do. I know it's because I've been sick within the last month and have some lingering pains and wonder and hope and pray it's not a recurrence. Then I did a stupid thing and read about recurrence on a cervical cancer website. I have to stop doing that because I have a vivid imagination. Anyway, I would imagine that when I reach the 18 month mark, the 2-year mark, etc. I'll get more and more confident that it's really, really gone forever.

Unread 11-14-2005, 11:05 AM
When did you stop thinking about it?

Bless you ladies. Who else could I talk to about this who could even imagine what I'm talking about? I guess cancer invades our minds as well as our bodies. It helps so much to know I'm not alone.
Big hugs,
Unread 11-14-2005, 02:14 PM
When did you stop thinking about it?

Hi HeyPearl,
I do not know if the thinking ever really stops. It does however begin to lessen as the months go on.
It will get better. Try and put your mind and energy into doing something else.
Unread 11-14-2005, 03:32 PM
When did you stop thinking about it?

That's very good advice, Rosalie!

I can just see myself as a grouchy 85 year old, realizing I wasted my life worrying about recurrence...

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