Surgery soon -- am I making the right choice?

I'm new to the site, but desperately need some advice. I am 34 years old and have 2 kids (5 and 8)-don't want any more children. I have been bleeding for over 3 months and have had heavy periods my entire life. I had an thermachoice(uterine ablation) twice , the last one being 5 weeks ago. I almost stopped bleeding, but started back last week. I had two c sections with my children. My friends say I'm crazy for even considering Hysterectmoy, but they aren't having to deal with the bleeding. My hsuband and I are totally frustarated, and my MD says this is the only thing left. Am I crazy? Also, I'm going to have it in 2 weeks because I've met my deductible for the year.

You aren't crazy. If your friends had to deal with the heavy bleeding you are going through you know they would search high and low for a solution. If you have second thoughts though, getting a second opinion would be a good idea. I realize you only have a little over one week before your surgery but you may be able to get in with another Gyn if you explain your situation. When I had exhausted other alternatives I did not need a second opinion to make up my mind, I couldn't wait for relief and have had no regrets having the hyst. Good luck and keep us posted.
michelle

Sounds like you are making the right decision to me!!!!! You, hubby and Doc have tried everything already (bless your heart!) so this is what is left. You will find that people that don't know what you are going through have bad advice.
You just go for it and get better!! Trust your judgement and the Doc is with you on this too. I am glad it seems that hubby is with you on this. You came to the right place for support!! The Hyster Sisters are wonderful!!!
HUGS TO YOU FOR ALL YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH!!

Hi and welcome!
First off let's start with a BIG !!
No, I don't think you're crazy for considering a hysterecomy for your situation. It looks like you've done a lot of things to try and fix it and this is no way to live your life with chronic bleeding. Your doctor knows what to do and if you're comfortable with him/her then stick with the plan.
I'm 31 with 2 kids, 6 and 10 and it was the right decision for me since I wasn't a candidate for the ablation. Tomorrow I'll be 3 weeks post-op and I'm so very happy to have had it done.
Make sure you're comfortable with your decision and don't let your friends get under your skin too much, no matter how much you may talk about it to them they still have no idea what it's like living this way.
Tons of prayers,
Leah

Arn,
It sounds like you've made your decision, so all I suggest is that you research it very carefully. Ovaries, no ovaries? HRT? (that was a big one for me. Also check with your DR about the cervix, because I didn't know they would take that too. Granted with my family history it was probably not a bad idea, but I was just suprised. Would I do it again? I think so, but I'm only 4 1/2 weeks out and still reading all kinds of horror stories. Still on pain meds, still can't run the vaccum, or push a grocery cart. It has slowed me down (35 by the way) However I just celebrated the fact that my sister had a period and I didn't!! No more bleeding, cramps, cysts, endo so I think I have made a fair trade, haven't had sex yet, but I don't think that will be a problem seeing as my libido is still there. This site is a great source of info and support. Take care and good luck

Thanks for the advice. I am getting my second opinion tomorrow. Maybe then I'll know for sure. Thanks for understanding- I feel like no one does!

Thanks for understanding and for the advice!! I feel better already.

Hey Arn,

I am 36 with 2 kids ages 2 and 4. I suffer too with heavy bleeding and severe pain. I am ready!!! You will be too. I think this is a good decision if you have already tried everything else and it didn't work. No more pain!!!No more bleeding!!! Yippeee. I am scheduled 2 days b4 you. Good luck and HUGS!!!!!!!!!Kathy

I am thrilled to have found this site. I will look forward to no more pain and bleeding! Good luck to you too!

Hello there. Big hugs and support to you. I just reached my 1 year anniv, and am sooooo grateful for my doc and the decision we made to have the surgery. NO MORE PAIN!!! I too didn't have a ton of support, but most of my friends just didn't understand what I had to go through each month. I really don't understand how others can be so opinionated or judgmental when it comes to hysterectomies. If someone had a broken arm, people wouldn't say "why are you getting that fixed?". Hystersisters will give you the support you need.