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Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :( Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

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Unread 12-13-2005, 12:33 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

Hi Sweet Sisters,

I was very nervous when I first got my date for SAH last month.
I begun to think about, “do I have to have an AH?” I had posted a thread about this and got some great advice from other ‘sisters’
I had a second opinion by another Dr. I heard does lots of LAVH . I am glad I had this 2nd opinion done. I am not able to have a VH for various reasons.

My uterus is not only full of fibroids and enlarged. I have fibroids growing outside of my uterus. One large one, as was explained to me is on the back of my uterus pressing against, I believe she (the gyn) said, “complicated by ‘ligaments,organs’ near by” She told me that even with the AH this would be more difficult to do. She said she herself would only remove it Abdominally do to the size and the shape of it. This Dr. also said, I can’t imagine any Dr. willing or able to do this surgery vag. I guess my uterus is all funky shaped with lumps from the fibroids. (I’m not a gifted writer these days! ) Stress! LOL I had a bad reaction to Lupron in the past, so that option is not there for me.

This other Dr. said, I am doing the right thing etc. I think the more I hear this, the better I feel about this surgery being something I really have to have. I made this appointment for a second opinion with my SAH already scheduled. This other Dr. was very very compassionate and said that she encourages her own patience's to get 2nd opinions.

I think I needed to do this so I wouldn’t look back and wonder, “Could I have avoided the AH” I have been told the recovery tends to be easier if done vaginally. Well, that’s a def. no for me.

Now I’m about to have my castle pre-op (12/15) and the 20th is arriving faster then ever! I think in some denial state I hoped that I could delay... maybe run away before the 20th gets here...:eyes:

I think I am doing the right thing, I look forward to feeling better. That big fibroid is most likely the one that is causing me the pain up my spine.

I have been calm for a few weeks. Now I’m feeling more scared a with pre-op fears creeping up on me again!
It’s clear, since I have had a D & C and an ablation <sp? only to have them come back. I really am out of options for theses fibroids. I just wish I wasn’t so frightened again. The surgery it’self scares me. I have never had major surgery.

By this time next week, I will be at the castle having my SAH. YIKES!

Thanks for letting me ramble and vent. I’m gonna clean my house more today, hope it helps release some of my nervous stress energy. I feel like I'm going

I don’t know what I would do without this site to come to.
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Unread 12-13-2005, 12:53 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

It is very normal to be a case a nerves b4 any surgery. I am heading to the castle bright and early tomorrow morning, and all day i have felt like i am ready to toss my cookies. We will be fine! You have done everything u can to help yourself, and just think how much better u r gonna feel!!!!!
Unread 12-13-2005, 12:58 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

Good luck to you! I do my preop tomorrow, then Thursday is the big day. I vary between, why am I doing this?? Hmm, that is the only thing I am varying on. ; )
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Unread 12-13-2005, 01:03 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

WOW you are going to feel soooo much better after recovery. I bet you don't even realize how bad you feel
Unread 12-13-2005, 01:12 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

I think I know how you feel! One minute I'm fine, the next I feel like I just can't wait to be sedated!!! I'm only two days behind you on my trip to the castle. My heart is tripping and flipping around so much, my doc is doing an EKG to make sure there are no problems with it.

It sounds like you have really done your homework and are well prepared, but I know that doesn't make the waiting game go any faster sometimes. I think I have that final "Jeopardy" tune going through my head all the time these days! I hope, no I KNOW all will go well for you. Hang in there!!!
Unread 12-13-2005, 08:14 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

I can really relate to this one. I also remember those pre-op days. I was not really nervous, but I was anxious -- I think there's a difference. I know I really wanted to get it behind me.

Like you, I wondered if I could have a vaginal hysterectomy, and the doctor said no. She said my uterus was too big and it was at too odd of an angle. I kept reading here at HS and I saw more ladies who still had the vaginal surgery even though they had tilted uteruses.... so I wondered more.

But then my doc said they wanted to do a panniculectomy to get rid of some of my tummy fat, which was definitely by me. To do that, it would mean a definite abdominal surgery. Good thing, too -- as it turned out, my uterus and bladder were so adhered to each other that it took an extra hour to separate the two organs. I don't think that could have been accomplished any other way.

Now that you have gotten a couple of opinions which indicate that the surgery is best accomplished abdominally, I hope that helps give you some peace of mind on this. If not, however, and if the anxiety really gets to be too much, you can always postpone your surgery and wait until you're better prepared. Unless you've got a life-threatening situation, you've got time to decide. Better to wait than to go in for surgery when you're in a poor frame of mind.

and best wishes to you.
Unread 12-13-2005, 08:32 PM
Just when I think I'm calm... Scared again :(

Surgery for the first time can really be scary since you don't really know what to expect. The waiting and the unknown are by far the worst part of the whole thing.

Assuming that you know surgery is the right decision for you, nothing says you have to wait until after the surgery to begin some pampering. Take some relaxing baths, have a massage, get a pedicure (just keep in mind you probably cannot wear nail polish while in the castle). Try to get a little extra rest before your surgery. If you are feeling really nervous, ask your doctor about a short-term course of anti-anxiety meds so you can relax.

Sending you hugs and best wishes for a perfect outcome and easy recovery.

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