I am really scared...

I am scheduled to have TAH on Jan 3rd. In the beginning I was quite fine with all of this, but now I am really starting to get scared! I am 33, and have had my child and am perfectly happy with him. I had a TL 3 years ago so my child bearing is definitely over. I have my lab work tomorrow already and I am just getting sick to my stomach about this. I am not normally like this, really. I do get a bit stressed (OK, alot stressed) over some things. I am babbling...I need reassurance. Can't talk to my husband as he just has NO idea about any of this. Help?

I think the waiting is the hardest. There is so much time for you to think and to get nervous. Try to keep busy. There's so much to prepare for, cleaning your house maybe making and freezing a few meals so your family won't have to cook for a few days when you get home, getting together your bag for the hospital, finding some movies or magazines to keep you from getting bored during your recuperation. Amazingly I wasn't nervous at all for my hyst but when I was scheduled for my second prolapse repair I was so nervous that I had an anxiety attack. I had chest pain, shortness of breath and cried most of the day before the surgery. I can understand you being nervous but just keep thinking of how much better you'll feel after. Good luck, try to stay calm and if I can help you in any way please let me know.
Michelle

As Candy said, staying busy is a must. Try to find comfort in the fact that this is one of the most common surgeries there is. Every last one of us goes through the same fears and worries that you are experiencing now, and we look back and wonder why we were so scared. Look forward to the fact that afterward there will be no more "Aunt Flo!"

Hi!

I can certainly understand how you are feeling! Waiting for your day to arrive can be very stressful and leaving you feeling very anxious and scared. I think my biggest fear was of the unknown. Since I had never had surgery before, I didn't quite know what to expect.

You might find these articles helpful:

Coping with Pre-Op Anxiety and Fear

My Husband Doesn't Understand There is a link to Mister Hyster Sisters there, too.

FAQ for Family & Friends

Freaking Out Pre-Op

Relaxation Suggestions

For more great articles and resources to help you prepare, you can click here. Don't forget to read through Checkpoints.

Best wishes for your upcoming surgery!

s and , Deb

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Originally Posted by KCat1234 I am scheduled to have TAH on Jan 3rd. In the beginning I was quite fine with all of this, but now I am really starting to get scared! I am 33, and have had my child and am perfectly happy with him. I had a TL 3 years ago so my child bearing is definitely over. I have my lab work tomorrow already and I am just getting sick to my stomach about this. I am not normally like this, really. I do get a bit stressed (OK, alot stressed) over some things. I am babbling...I need reassurance. Can't talk to my husband as he just has NO idea about any of this. Help?

If the surgery scares you, ask them to give you "something" to take the edge off while you wait. It makes a world of difference. It helped me, and trust me, nobody is as hyper as I am! I breezed right through it! Good luck!

Oh my, I started crying just reading this thread. Although I tend to err on the bright side of things, I am getting pretty freaked out already and I have a month to go. I'm not really comfortable talking to a lot of people about this (almost all of my close friends are men) I feel the need for someone to go through this with me. I really hate it when people say not to worry when they have no idea what I'm going through right now. I'm not upset about the no pregnancy thing since I had a TL about 14 years ago, but this carcinoma in situ thing is creepy. I feel like I want to rip my insides out. My Dr is so great, she talks very plainly and is comforting without talking down to me. I'll be thinking about you on the 3rd KCat.... and probably every day until then. Good luck!

I just had surgery last week and would highly recommend reading and listening to the CD of Preparing for Surgery, Heal Faster by Peggy Huddleston. It made all the difference in the world for me. I felt more in control and truly believe it helped. Best wishes!

I very, very much appreciate the thoughts and advice! I am going to look for the CD mentioned. I went to my labwork up appointment yesterday, and received the wonderful, wonderful "bowel prep kit". I hate to say this but I would rather go through the surgery than a "bowel cleansing". I had a colonoscopy done in March of this year and had to do it, and let me just say it was no picnic. Ah, well this too will pass. Thank you again for the support. My husband has no clue about any of this so it helps to have others to talk to.
Kellie

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Originally Posted by tangibleang Oh my, I started crying just reading this thread. Although I tend to err on the bright side of things, I am getting pretty freaked out already and I have a month to go. I'm not really comfortable talking to a lot of people about this (almost all of my close friends are men) I feel the need for someone to go through this with me. I really hate it when people say not to worry when they have no idea what I'm going through right now. I'm not upset about the no pregnancy thing since I had a TL about 14 years ago, but this carcinoma in situ thing is creepy. I feel like I want to rip my insides out. My Dr is so great, she talks very plainly and is comforting without talking down to me. I'll be thinking about you on the 3rd KCat.... and probably every day until then. Good luck!

I will be thinking of you as well on your "special day". I will let you know how things go for me. Kellie

Good luck with it. It will be over before you know it, it was for me anyway! Remember to take your painpills every 4-6 hours when you are out of the hospital. That will help you a lot.