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Unread 01-10-2006, 12:01 PM
what to say to co-workers?

Hi Ladies, Best wishes to all of you. Silly question, but here goes. I will be having surgery on January 23rd and I have gotten some interesting comments from some folks. This is the best one of all I believe ....did you ask for the Hysterectomy? and my second favorite..... ..did you just decide to have the surgery so you won't have to have sex for 6 weeks? and last but certainly not least... are you excited about your 6 week vacation?
Has anyone had an experience like this and how did you respond? I am sure most of them mean well I just don't know how to respond. Thanks for your help! Melanie
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Unread 01-10-2006, 12:18 PM
what to say to co-workers?

I had the "aren't you glad you will be off for 5 weeks?!" I just respond by saying "Yes, too bad though that I can't do anything during that time!"
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Unread 01-10-2006, 12:51 PM
what to say to co-workers?

I think they "think It's all fun and games......NOT..I really hurt the first week couldn't hardly get out of bed..Vacation My foot..and i am a little over 4 weeks and still have to watch every thing i do..So, Inform who ever is asking these questions It's not a Vacation...or getting out of sex.....shesssss
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Unread 01-10-2006, 01:21 PM
what to say to co-workers?

Thanks Ladies for the advice! Wow... I would never think that someone who is having their parts removed would be on any sort of vacation, but that is just me. I'll be interested to see what they say when I return. he,he,he. Thanks again and best wishes to everyone! Melanie
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Unread 01-10-2006, 03:18 PM
what to say to co-workers?

I work with many people and didn't want the world to know what my surgery was for. I needed to prepare people that I would be gone because I had to bow out of some committees that I was on.
I told people, who I'm not close to, that I was having a breast enlargment and a tummy tuck. They were so shocked by the response that they didn't ask for any details.
I am always amazed in the insensitivity of people. It makes me want to be a much more compassionate woman.
As far as the white lie I told, I guess when I go backto work I'll tell them that it didn't work. My breasts are now smaller and my tummy is much bigger
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Unread 01-10-2006, 04:05 PM
what to say to co-workers?

Ok, here's one; One of the people I supervise when she found out I was having surgery, came up and said I am sorry to hear about your surgery; that explains a great deal. I asked her what did she mean, she said last fall when I conducted her employee review and had to reprimand her for some of her conduct/work ethic, these "female problems" were the cause of it. I was so shocked and told her thank you for your concern about my surgery, but her review had nothing to do with my "female problems", she was wrong and needed to correct her actions.

At least here everyone understands the enormity of it all.
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Unread 01-10-2006, 04:32 PM
what to say to co-workers?

I work in a law firm with about 80 people. I've been pretty open about the surgery and haven't had any of the insensitive comments so far. I did get the "6 week vacation" part, but I actually AM looking forward to not being there for 6 weeks and plan to enjoy as much of it as I possibly can.
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Unread 01-10-2006, 05:54 PM
what to say to co-workers?

The way I took some remarks directed at me depended upon who was saying them. From people I know well and who expessed concern for me, I laughed with them about my "vacation". From those I didn't know well and the only remarks they made to me were "dumb", I just smiled and thought "Ok, just keep wandering around in your ignorance." Why let their problem be my problem???
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Unread 01-10-2006, 05:56 PM
what to say to co-workers?

[quote=bright-eyes]Ok, here's one; One of the people I supervise when she found out I was having surgery, came up and said I am sorry to hear about your surgery; that explains a great deal. I asked her what did she mean, she said last fall when I conducted her employee review and had to reprimand her for some of her conduct/work ethic, these "female problems" were the cause of it. I was so shocked and told her thank you for your concern about my surgery, but her review had nothing to do with my "female problems", she was wrong and needed to correct her actions. [quote]

Wow! That takes the cake. What a dunce.
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Unread 01-10-2006, 07:04 PM
what to say to co-workers?

I was away from the office for 3 months but worked from home for the whole month of December. I was an awful co-worker and sent emails telling them that I was still in my jammies and things like that. On the days it was snowing, I teased about my terrible commute being all of 6 feet from bed to computer.

When I returned to work, I did not get any insensitive comments regarding the time I had been away.
A closer co-worker made the vacation comment so I directed him to www.pelvicfloor.com
There was no further comments about my "holiday"

Good luck to all the ladies waiting and here's to an UNEVENTFUL recovery to those who are "vacationing".

Autumn

PS. IF you pretend really hard...you might be able to convince yourself you really are on vacation somewhere you would rather be.
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