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Unread 01-11-2006, 10:36 AM
OK...someone remind me why I'm doing this again?

Dearest Supportive Gal Pals,

It's official, I'm having a bit of a freak out right now. This is a wonderful site and I am so greatful to have found it...and if you would be so kind as to hold my hand a bit right now I would appreciate it.

I'm 38 and scheduled for a TVH on 20 Jan. I'm stationed in Germany with my DH who is military and am very far from DM, DS and my girlfriends.

I have a prolapsed uterus, heavy periods, and had dysplasia on the cervix that came back pre-cancerous, but heading that way.

I have had 3 ob/gyns over a 4 year period tell me that I had "enough wrong" to warrant a hyst. My very nice lady doc (who will do the surgery) summed it up when she told me that I'm not going to get better only worse.

So all that being said, coupled with the fact that my DD and DH will be able to take care of me and my boys (I have a 10 and 6 yr old)...justifies going ahead with the surgery right???

It's just that I am usually a very strong person (we military wives usually are ) and the idea of being vulnerable and having my life put on hold is very upsetting.

I've been concentrating on the postitive and am so thankful to those of you who have posted your stories... but when I actually visualize myself walking into the hospital...etc. I get very scared and think that even with all the problems that I have that ..."hey I've managed this long...stick with the bad that you know"

Asking for a kind word and a voice of reason...

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Unread 01-11-2006, 10:42 AM
OK...someone remind me why I'm doing this again?

Because you want to be healthy again

We're all afraid but reading the post-op posts inspires me to start my NEW life -- period free.

Hang in there
Unread 01-11-2006, 11:37 AM
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JElle, You did make me smile several times reading your reply to mine. Thanks so much. We are in this together. I am living in England with my Husband while we are staioned here in the Air Force and find it hard not having much of a support system. Dont even get me started in the cost of my phone bill right now to the states. Big hug and deep breaths. The more I read the better I am starting to feel. Its nice to have so many women who understand just how I feel. Thanks for taking the time and I look forward to sharing our stories. Jilly
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Unread 01-11-2006, 12:42 PM
OK...someone remind me why I'm doing this again?

Walk into the hospital with your head held high and show everyone how strong you are by embracing this surgery as a way to a new life. Being vulnerable is nice, its like a mini vacation. I was able to be a watcher for once, able to have time to think, and it was nice to have people take care of me for once. I was able to see how much my family and children care about me. My son (14) was getting moody and distancing himself a bit before my surgery. But my surgery showed him that mom is vulnerable and I need him. He seems to of changed a bit (he wasn't too far gone into teenagehood....just a few steps into it). He keeps me company, gets me what I need and is nicer to his sister. I love this experience. And the best "I feel Great" ...its only been 1 week and I feel like the old me. Heck, I am only 34 and I am a very fit person, but all of that did not matter because of my constant discomfort. Life after constant pain is SOOOOOO much better than just "dealing with it" out of fear of the unknown. GOOD LUCK!
Unread 01-11-2006, 12:56 PM
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I am also 38, I have 4 children and my youngest is 6.

I never thought I'd have this done ever, let alone this young.

My kids are handling it great. I had doctor's that didn't think it was any big deal that my periods suddenly changed. I was told things like its to be expected when you're in mid-30s (basically just deal with it)& to take motrin during your period (that was also just a temporary fix).

When things got a little worse and my GP told me not to wait until my next pap to have things checked out, my gyn found more than he expected.

I had this done to improve my quality of life. It was very scary, but I am so relieved now that it is over.
Unread 01-11-2006, 01:43 PM
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Jelle And Jilli Thanks for serving your country in these troubled times . I wanted to suggest military wives for support they usually band together for one of there own. We are doing this operation for quality of life No more pain You can just keep a stiff upper lip for so long I wish you well and will be praying for you.
I wanted to thank all the service men and women for their service at this time. I lost 35 people I knew when the towers were knocked down. Keep your head up and good luck
Unread 01-11-2006, 01:47 PM
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Hi, Holding your hand as I write Best wishes to you! Take care! Melanie
Unread 01-11-2006, 02:01 PM
OK...someone remind me why I'm doing this again?

Best wishes to you, and you came to the right place!!!!!
The Ladies here are wonderful!!!! I have people close to me, and I am still greatfull to theses ladies!!!!!!

So, don't ever feel alone, and I am sure your dh and dc's will help you out, and you will do fine!!!!!!

I will be thinking of you!!!!!!!!
Unread 01-11-2006, 02:49 PM
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Holding your hand! You're doing this because of what you said in your third line, but most of all you are doing this for yourself, your DH, DD and sons. Just think about all of the things you will be able to do with your loving family after the surgery that you couldn't because of pain and heavy periods. Visualize yourself walking into the hospital and then out to do all of the things you want to do with your family.
Unread 01-11-2006, 03:18 PM
OK...someone remind me why I'm doing this again?

I asked myself that same thing before surgery! "Why am I doing this?" I was taking Lupron injections so I wasn't having periods so I wasn't as anemic as before and I felt pretty good. I was thinking "Can't I just go on like this for the next 6or 8 years until I go through natural menopause?" Then my Dr. reminded me that the anemia was very stressful to my vital organs and that my other organs were all being squished by my huge uterus and my left leg was not getting the blood it needed due to blood flow restriction again from my uterus squishing my arteries. Not to mention looking like I was 4 months pregnant and feeling that way too! Now that I am post-op 4 weeks I am really glad I did it. There were some days after that I was still questioning myself but now when I look at my 11 inch scar I tell myself I did what had to be done to be healthy instead of asking myself "What was I thinking?!!"

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