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Anyone else scared to death?? Anyone else scared to death??

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Unread 03-19-2006, 09:36 PM
Anyone else scared to death??

OK, I am not gonna sugar coat guys are my friends and I am not gonna "put on any heirs" as we say dopwn here in the South.....
I have anxiety disorder..I am a worry wart and mostly i worry about my health..obsess over it, actually..and I have been beside myself (which isnt pretty)..LOL..since I found out I had to have this thing done...
Alot of you know I just had my second surgery in 2 weeks, and I am not feeling really any better...I go back in the morning to see if i have another hematoma or if I have a hernia in my incision...
Anyways, I am so scared..scared I will never get well..scared I will regret EVER having this done..scared of menopause that I have been so wonderfully thrown into...scared about what all that junk long will I have hot flashes, should I take hormones or not..will my heart give out in 20 years...will I have bone loss....will I stroke out because I cant quit smoking while i am wearing this pretty little Vivelle dot....
My calf it a post surgical DVT?? I am driving myself and everyone around me crazy..not to mention that I cry ALL OF THE TIME and acuse EVERYONE of not loving me....

Can anyone else relate to my craziness?? Is anyone else feeling like this is the end of their once normal life?? I am thinking that I wouldve rather kept my ugly adhesion -riddled uterus and both of my ugly ovaries until they fell outta my 'gina than to feel like this anymore.........
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Unread 03-19-2006, 10:01 PM
Anyone else scared to death??

Oh I wish I knew exactly what to say. I was having anxiety BEFORE the surgery because my hormones were a mess (pre-cancer tumors on them). My doctor didn't even give me a choice on HRT, just had the patch slapped on me. I'm taking Premarin now--never a hot flash. The best person to discuss HRT with is your doctor. The premarin worked better for me than the Patch. I was having a weekly anxiety attack about the time it would wear off.

Also talk to your doctor about bone loss, HRT side affects, etc. Knowledge IS empowerment. And be sure and discuss the anxiety attacks with him/her. If you are on medication for that, you know of course to be careful about to make sure what HRT you should take doesn't mess that up.

God bless you. Let us know how you are doing.

Unread 03-19-2006, 10:41 PM
Anyone else scared to death??

Hi nomoreflatbelly,

I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. I can relate, as I also have a lively imagination (to put a positive spin on it). Try taking a deep breath...literally. I know when I get nervous I don't breathe well. If you lie down, close your eyes, and witness yourself taking a breath in, and letting it out, over and over it can be very relaxing. Try comfortable deep breathing (vs the rapid breathing we all tend to do when nervous). When you notice you are having other thoughts, just come back to your breath. You can also buy guided relaxation CDs, and there are ones specifically for healing. I found them to be very helpful both pre-op and post-op, when I was very anxious, and was finding it really hard to relax.

Sending best wishes. I hope you are feeling better very soon!

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Unread 03-19-2006, 10:43 PM
Anyone else scared to death??

I can relate to your worry's or should I say panic attacks because I've been just like you before. Which is why I also feel I can say let go and let God. God is in complete control and once I turn it all over to Him I'm usually okay. It's a control issue for me. I can't stand the feeling that I have no control over what happens in my life. The more I think about having no control the more freaked out I can get. My mind starts racing and immediately goes to the worse case scenerios. I can honestly say that once I came to the reality that my date was written in the big book of life and was something I could not change, I realized that God would get me "through" anything that arose before that date. I hope this isn't offensive to you, I just want it to help. Worrying can be debilitating and is a horrible feeling. My friend once told me "don't start worrying until you see the animals line up for the space shuttle two by two" lol! I'll pray that you find peace and stay positive! It makes all the difference in the world! Oh and by the way this is a constant battle of the mind. You must keep trying on a daily basis to overcome these fears. Eventually they will become less and less.
Unread 03-20-2006, 01:33 AM
Anyone else scared to death??

I have struggled with anxiety/panic disorder for about 18 years. In fact I panicked off and on from the anethesia for 24 hours!.....that was fun!. Honestly though, I feel better mentally after the hyst!. BUT......I do get those thoughts, "OMG, strange leg pain....must be a blod clot!".....and such, but I learned a long time ago, that it is fact, the human brain can not think of two things at the same time, I use that trick when I start to think irrational thoughts.......think of something else, say the alphabet, try to name the presidents, whatever works for you!. Or I switch it to a positive thought, "O.K., fact....95% of what we worry about never comes to light, so what are the chances this cramp in my leg is really a blod clot?!". And when all else fails, I remember a higher power is watching over me, I ask to take these thoughts from me, and I usually feel a sence of calm. It has been very hard, it's all a matter of re-training your brain how to think, and what to think, remember,...... you are reponsible for choosing the thoughts you think!. Just relax, and know you aren't crazy.......nor are you alone. A book that helped me so very much....."Hope and Help For YOur Nerves" by Dr. CLaire Weeks. (may be spelled Weekes) Bet you can get a used copy cheap on was like a bible to me in those early years with the disorder!. Without it I doubt I would have been able to conquer a lot of the irrational fears I was having!
Unread 03-20-2006, 08:35 AM
Anyone else scared to death??

I can totally relate to you. I loved katkins response about the brain being unable to think of two things at once. I have suffered all my life from anxiety disorder. I work very hard trying to normalize my thoughts and feelings by staying as busy as I can. Here is a poem that I wanted to share with you. I found this years ago in an Ann Landers column. I tape it into my daily planner and refer to it often. I hope it helps you. I hope you can see the humor and how silly it is, and such a waste of time to worry. I try to tell myself that over and over.

Why Worry?
There are only two things to worry about
Either you are well or you are sick.
If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about.
But if you are sick, there are two things to worry about
Either you will get well or you will die.
If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about
But if you die, there are only two things to worry about.
Either you will go to heaven or to hell.
If you go to heaven, there is nothing to worry about.
If you go to hell, you'll be so darn busy shaking hands with old friends
You won't have time to worry.

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