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Unread 05-31-2006, 12:18 AM
How do you accept Hyst?

As for the DH, well...

He was being a pill, teasing me about having a big, hairy, tumor, and telling me how he had already planned to go to work the day of my surgery and didn't see any reason to "stick around" after...yes, I know he was teasing, but I prayed to GOd for guidance and to place HIS hands over my mouth so i didn't divorce my DH in a fit of anger..yep, peeved doesn't even beging to describe how I felt...then he says,..."you're stinky and I'm gonna take a shower" he can be such a snot. Of course i waved at him as he left the room with one finger...then the water turns on...he starts to sing off la la la...then ....BAM! "ouch! Dang It!" i ran in the bathroom asking "what is it, are you okay??" and he shows me his poor itty bitty baby toes that are all red and laying on the shower floor is a HUGE bottle of conditioner. I looked at him with a straight face..."Well, did that happen??" Then hurridly ran out of the room before I busted up laughing.!! YES!! GOD loves me!!! nHow horrible of a wife am I that i take pleasure in my husband's are all laughing too!!
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Unread 05-31-2006, 12:44 AM
You go, girl!

Casperkat: Too funny! Yeah, God loves you as he loves us all! Funny how the DHs somehow get theirs! I am so sleep deprived, if I thought long and hard, I'd be able to tell some stories...our sense of humor will surely do us well! Good luck!
Unread 05-31-2006, 05:50 AM
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Good post lifeiscarred. Thank you.
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Unread 05-31-2006, 05:52 AM
How do you accept Hyst?

Chenell53, I like that the fact that we are facing a hysterectomy, not a tragedy. I'm going to keep that thought for the next 19 days.
Unread 05-31-2006, 06:07 AM
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Originally Posted by donnakay31
At times it is hard to accept. I keep trying to think about the pathology but when I see a newborn it does really hurt. At least you were able to have a child, I never was able to have one of my own. What really bothered me was when folks would say "well you can always adopt." Hubby would always try to catch them before seeing me because the phrase really upset me, even still does.

Just hang in there. My prayers are with you.


People say the most insensitive things. One of my friends just had her Hyst, never had a child, and it is so-o-o hard on her. I just hug her, and say, "I know". She says that's the best thing.

Unread 05-31-2006, 06:13 AM
How do you accept Hyst?

Originally Posted by Spring506
Hi Chelle53! I'm 45 and have 2 DDs (almost 16 & 8-1/2). I treasured my uterus, etc., their first "home". But, in the realm of things, I was truly blessed, and it served two good purposes. Try to be positive about it. It has bugged me (not that I was ever going to "use" it again), the fact that there's "no way" I could ever carry another baby. I try to focus on how God has and will continue to bless.

Two weeks ago, I had a TAH/BSO with cervex also removed, so I'm one already "on the other side". You will do fine. I, also, HAD not even started, however, I "surgically" was put into menopause and am unable to take HRT. As a few other sisters have suggested, pray, pray and again, pray. It is amazing how God can and WILL carry you through this. As someone also said, remember, there is always someone out there that has it worse than I (we) do...Use this site. It is a blessing and so many kind, loving people that DO understand and care. Our DHs don't have a clue, and I think sometimes they may be a bit scared, too, and make light of the matter, trying not to add to our concerns. Good Luck!

Thank you for your post. Your words are very uplifting.

How are you managing surgical menpause without ERT? I don't think I will be able to use it due to SLE.

Unread 05-31-2006, 06:29 AM
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Chelle: I have been struggling with the same issue. My hysto will take place on 6/27/06. I fluctuate between cancelling it and going through with it. For me, I tried drugs to control the heavy menstrual bleeding--did not work. I had a failed endo ablation and a failed Nova Sure. I did the conservative treatments but they did not work. I must be rid of this problem so that I may enjoy life. I have had 3 episodes of "flooding". The last happened last week on the way to work! Think of your surgery as a way to improve the quality of life (or save your life if you have cancer). You are in good company here.
Unread 05-31-2006, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted by lifeiscarred
I accepted by acting fast. Once the decision was made, I took the earliest surgical date and went for it. I'm only 39 and not ready to face menopause so I decided firmly that I would take estrogen replacement and not allow anyone to frighten me about my decision. That was four weeks ago. I have gotten teary a few times because, although I want no more children, I no longer have a choice and because what makes me distincly female is gone (which is insanity). I had a dear friend who died at 30 with breast cancer leaving three little girls and a doting husband. That is a tragedy, this is a hysterectomy. You'll be fine. Keep your thoughts light. Research HRT and decide ahead of time. I had a patch on when I came out of anesthesia and one ever since, no hot flashes or mood swings, my skin and hair have improved. If you choose no ert or hrt, more power to you, but if you're going to do it, do it from the start - you don't need surgically induced menopause ontop of recovery. Most important, don't second guess your choices about surgery. I have to admit, this far out, this whole thing has been far less dramatic than I ever dreamed. Just don't let yourself fall into the woe is me mode. Too much of that and you'll sling yourself into a full blown depression. This site is great. Keep posting and talking - this place has helped me alot. It made me think for the first time about women who want children and faced this surgery before they had an opportunity to conceive. It also made me aware of the many cancer victims dealing with TAH. Not to be cliche, but count your blessings. I don't know what special hardships you face, but I know there's always someone who has it worse. That works for me, maybe it will help you. Don't forget, no more period! Godspeed.
I don't know if you intended your post to be supportive, but I found to to be patronizing and condescending to say that this is not a tragedy, it is a hysterectomy. No one said it was a tragedy. I'm 53, I haven't lived a "charmed" life, devoid of tragedy. I don't need to be told what a tradgedy is, or isn't!!!!

I am not coming back to this forum, I don't think it's a safe place to express my feelings, after all.

I am trying to keep my stress level down to avoid an SLE flare, the last thing I need to do is sign on here and be upset by your "holier than thou" attitude".

Unread 05-31-2006, 11:09 AM
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Unread 05-31-2006, 02:41 PM
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Wow is right! Lifeiscarred, thank you for making alot of good points.

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