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Unread 05-25-2001, 06:05 AM
My mother in law

Ok me and my mil have never really got on.she's always treated my hubby like a baby and I refuse to.He wants a cup of tea,he knows where the kettle is etc.Even when she came over from England the day after my youngest was born.She spent the next 3 weeks telling my hubby HE looked tired and should go have a nap.It's like "hello!! I could've sworn I was the one in labour for 11 hours giving birth".Well,this morning he called her and told her I was having a hysterectomy.She spent the next half hour going on about how unfair it was he had to take time off to look after me and couldn't my sisters drop everything and come look after me etc.So now she's going to try to come over to "help".I'm feeling I'd rather try to do everything myself than have to put up with her.Aaarrgghh!!!
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Unread 05-25-2001, 06:26 AM
Mother-In-Law woes

Hi Anna,
I'm sorry to hear that you don't really get on with your MIL. Is having to handle the tension of having her around AND recovering from surgery at the same time something that you REALLY want to do to yourself? Could you possibly have your husband drop the kids at a babysitter in the morning on his way to work? Then you could have peace and quiet at home, read a book, nap, rent some pay per view movies (these are the things I am looking forward to, and don't forget, there are our HYSTERSISTERS to keep in touch with). I say set yourself up with food for the day and get EVERONE out of the house! E-me if you want to and we can share tales.
Patti W.
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Unread 05-25-2001, 06:47 AM
My mother in law


I would tell my husband that under no circumstances do you want his mother there. You feel that hubby can handle it . At least your MIL lives thousands of miles away , so it is not like you see her all the time.
I wish you the best . It is not like you are not stressed already without all this other nonsence going on!
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Unread 05-25-2001, 10:23 AM
My mother in law

Hi Anna,

I know how your feel. I had a MIL who was so obvious it was funny. We were always dog people, but my husband brought home a kitten for me (supposedly, but we all knew he wanted it) and my MIL spent the next 8 yrs discriminating against the cat because she thought it was mine. My husband was always aware of the problems and always ran interference on important issues.

I agree that you should not have to put up with such a negative influence around you when you are trying to recuperate. Does your husband understand this? In a case like this, I would just put my foot down and let hubby deal with his mother.
Unread 05-25-2001, 10:32 AM
My mother in law

I agree, put your foot down and say thanks, but no thanks. You are the one that has to heal, and you have to do that they way that is most comfortable for you. I know that I will not want a lot of people around all the time. I would rather have help when I need it, and not have to worry about others. I was told yesterday that my mom wants to come over for the week after surgery. I love her to pieces, but really do not think that I want her around full time. I am going to see when they schedule surgery, and then might have to just tell her that the best help she could be is to stay at home.

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