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Unread 06-09-2001, 01:50 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

I just found this sight today and finally have found most of the answers I was looking for, for the last two weeks, since I found out.
Even if no one is there to hear my scream it feels good to let it out.
I have cervical cancer, a baseball size tumor was found on my cervix that has been growing for 5 yrs now (that we have narrowed it done to). I go the 18th of this month to have a Radical hysterectomy. I didn't know the proper questions to ask so thats all I know. I feel like I am pretty young to have this happen to me.
And I am mad. Its ok, I didn't want to have kids and my long term boyfriend didn't want them anyway.. I have always considered my dogs to be my kids for years now anyway.
I just wanted to vent. I know I will recover, I know I will be ok... it just.. plan and simple SUCKS!
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Unread 06-09-2001, 02:10 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

Hi there,

There are many of us here who hear and totally relate to your scream. Venting is not a bad thing at all!!

Very sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Its a hard one to hear, but there are many of us here on this site who have heard it, and are beating it!!!

You have every right to feel angry, its a normal reaction to have to a cancer diagnosis.

Feel free to come and ask questions anytime, or just to vent when you need too as well. You will find a lot of wonderfully supportive women here who have been where you are now.

Best of luck with your surgery, and please be sure to let us know how you are doing when you feel up to it.

Lots of hugs,
Unread 06-09-2001, 05:30 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

So sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. You must be feeling very overwhelmed too, in addition to being angry. I think it's a very reasonable response. Mine was just precancerous and I was pretty mad about that. But the important thing is your cancer has been found and now they can get it OUT of you. In the meantime, try to rest and eat well so that you recover well from your surgery. You need to be in tiptop shape so you can beat this thing and get back to your boyfriend and dogs. Please feel free to come anytime and vent or visit or catch us up. Best wishes for a successful surgery!
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Unread 06-09-2001, 05:37 PM
Venting just to see it in writing


I'm very sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Cancer is a scary word and when it happens to you, it feels overwhelming. I was 39 when I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and I also felt that I was too young for the diagnosis. In the cancer clinic where I go, they have a sign hanging up that says "Cancer sucks" and they are exactly right. I would advise that you use your anger in a positive way and let it give you some energy to fight this. Anger is a very natural emotion when you are faced with something like this, to say the least!!! We are always here for you -- feel free to vent at any time!!!


Unread 06-09-2001, 07:09 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

I am so glad that you are putting your emotions out in type. It is amazing how much better we feel when we let our feelings out. I cried, hollered, yelled, and even laughed. Once you clear your mind of all of these emotions that you are feeling, you can actually think clearer. Please know that we are all here for you!! I'm so glad that you found the will really help to be able to talk to other women who KNOW what you are going through!
Unread 06-09-2001, 08:26 PM
relief, thank you

I've been making many jokes about the situation just to keep a positive attitude like, "Dammit! I better lose some weight from all of the parts their taking out of me! is there anything else they can take out while in there?"
But it was wierd, it just hit me today on how angry I am. I cried a little bit the first day they told me and haven't really let it out anymore. Besides making jokes about it.
I don't want to wallow in self pity..but still

Did anyone else fight with these emotions?
Unread 06-09-2001, 08:53 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

Dear D,

I can understand how you're feeling. I pretty much handled my diagnosis the same way. I had to crack jokes to keep from falling apart. When the oncologist was discussing everything with me and my DH, I was kinda silly. Doctor said I didn't understand the seriousness of my condition. I just have to use humor. Crying is too much work and I always end up with a migraine when I do.

I also had a radical hysterectomy. I assume they're going to check some of your lymph nodes too. Did your doctor guess at what stage your cancer is? I know they won't know for sure until after surgery.

Just remember, cervical cancer has one of the highest cure rates of any cancer out there. You will make it through all of this.

Please keep us posted.
Unread 06-09-2001, 09:49 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

Hi D,

Yes, I can't imagine a one of us that hasn't felt exactly the same way. Hearing a diagnosis of cancer puts you through an complete range of emotions. Anger by far seems to be one of the most common, right along with fear. I know for a fact that it was the most common emotion I experienced when I first found out that I most probably then definately had cancer.

One of the things I've learned throughout all of this is to let yourself go through any and all emotions. Don't bottle anything up, let it out!

This site in particular has been a blessing in being able to do that. I vented, cried, screamed out my frustration, vented some more and still they let me come back.

I'm so glad you have found us! Please do feel free to come and vent, ask questions, whatever you might need. We're all here for you anytime you need.

{{hugs}} to you!

Unread 06-09-2001, 11:43 PM
Venting just to see it in writing

Welcome C, cancer sure does suck. When I first found out I cried and cried. I just couldnt believe that it was ME who had it, why me? Then after a few days I too started to make jokes about it , that was the way I coped. Then I got angry, and thought there is no way that this rotten disease is going to get the better of me. So ,here I am just finished the first part of my treatment.
It is ok to wallow in self pity, I did but there comes a time when this will pass and you will get on with life. All the feelings you are experiencing are perfectly normal.
I was told if you are going to get cancer , then, cervical is the best one to get because there is a high cure rate. Not that any of us want it.
But , you have come to the best place when you do have cancer. You can cry, yell, complain or just hang out with us for company

Remember that you are not alone in this, we are here to help you along the path. Please come back and let us know how you are going. All my love and support x x x x and a big
Unread 06-12-2001, 10:46 AM
Venting just to see it in writing

Vent all you like C, you're entitled to your feelings. Sorry you're going through this. I've had breast cancer and endometrial cancer. I've been through all the treatments and I have a good life. Working with doctors that gave me choices, and researching EVERYTHING helped me feel more in control and then I wasn't angry. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to someone else. We're all pulling for you. You're in my prayers.

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