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Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better? Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

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Unread 08-30-2007, 08:05 AM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

Well I guess I am one of those women who did have uterine contractions during the big O. It used to get very hard afterwards which was much more noticable when I was pregnant. It made it more of a "whole body" experience, a deeper feeling...oh it's hard to describe. But it was more intense, that's for sure.

Maybe it will improve some when I can O from intercourse, but from what some of you say that may not be the case. Truthfully that is not what I was hoping to hear but at least I can be prepared for that possibility now. As I said before, it is good but not quite as good.

At least I won't get the pain from DH hitting my cervix any more. OUCH that hurt! Plus the constant bleeding and spotting from the adeno put a real damper on my sex life anyway, so it was sporatic at best. I guess it's just a trade off for me. Very infrequent but intense and sometimes painful sex or sex any time I want it but no pain and a lessor quality orgasm. Bummer...I want it all!!!
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Unread 08-30-2007, 11:52 AM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?


As the other (((sisters))) have said, you're nowhere near done healing yet. What you feel today probably is NOT what you'll feel months from now. Having said that, here is my experience:

I can't remember when I had my first post-op orgasm, but I know it was after 8 weeks post-op because dh and I waited that long to resume our intimate life. I was cleared at 5-1/2 weeks, but dh had no interest in doing anything until I was ready so we waited a bit.

At first, what surprised me most was that the orgasms came so FAST. They weren't as intense, but it was almost like I had turned from a crockpot to a microwave overnight... I also had some vaginal dryness which I treated with some personal lubricant.

From there, my sex life sort of went on a roller-coaster, and I'm not sure I'm off of it yet. I'd go through times where I really had trouble reaching an orgasm to times where I almost had one before I wanted it! For me, it just underlined the fact that my sexual response is tied up in all sorts of different parts of my being -- not just physiology.

I am just now coming up on 3 years post-op, so I feel like I'm *probably* where I'm going to be in terms of response. And sometimes it's different -- though not better or worse. Sometimes it's just as intense as it always was, or even MORE. So overall, I'm pleased.

The main downside is that my sex drive has changed. I don't feel that "tingle" anymore -- that tell-tale feeling that tells me that I want to have sex. I know my ovaries are still functioning because I can feel myself cycle and I'm not in menopause, so I can't quite figure that part out...but it's definitely an issue for me.

I hope things continue to improve for you.
Unread 08-30-2007, 06:53 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

Here's my experience. I had the LSH (still have one ovary & cervix) I initially tried it at my 4 wk post op (TMI) alone in the shower just out of curiosity. Just surface stuff, no real penetration. My dr. told me NO SEX for 6 wks. Most drs. tell you that 4 wks is fine after this particular surgery, so I figured I would try it. I got a little O and was rather disappointed. It was quick though. Should've waited. I tried again at 6 wks alone in bed and more intense, but still not quite the same. I tried again a couple of hrs ago with a movie this time (get my drift). I am now at 7 wks today and it was just like before. The way it used to be. My BF is ready, but I am not. It hurt for so long that I think it still will especially since I still have my cervix. He is 6'1, 230 and well endowed, so I am very concerned. It should be ok since the 2nd post op I had @ 5 wks the dr. did an internal and I cringe and he said watch and relax and it didn't hurt. I will try sex when I feel comfortable. I think that you will be fine. U might not have to trade anything. It is just 3 wks and I think it gets better as our nerves relax and the tissue keeps shrinking.
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Unread 08-31-2007, 05:40 AM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

I must say that I was disappointed at first with the O, but I think I was just nervous. Now it's been 3 months, and I'm not worried about damaging anything. I really can't tell the difference anymore, it's just as good as before.
Unread 08-31-2007, 09:33 AM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

An orgasm is as much mental as it is physical. I you are feeling any hesitation mentally it will naturally inhibit the intensity. I think once you are totally comfortable and assured there will be no pain with intercorse then it should get better mentally and the physical will naturally follow.
Unread 08-31-2007, 12:06 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

I feel the same way. I had a talk with my DH about things. I told him that I don't have the sex drive I use to. It does not feel the same like it use to and he said it might get better not to worry. He is great DH. I use to love sex but I just on't feel that way right now. I am so scared it won't get better.
Unread 08-31-2007, 05:46 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

Originally Posted by princess48
I feel the same way. I had a talk with my DH about things. I told him that I don't have the sex drive I use to. It does not feel the same like it use to and he said it might get better not to worry. He is great DH. I use to love sex but I just on't feel that way right now. I am so scared it won't get better.

Princess48, did you get to keep your ovaries? If not, are you on hormones? Talk to your doctor and if you aren't, maybe they would help. My hyst was only 3 1/2 weeks ago; but I am on hormones and my sex drive is there, even though I can't use it (yet)! It could be worth a try. Good luck and I hope it gets better for you.
Unread 08-31-2007, 06:31 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

I was cleared a week ago today. We tried on Sunday evening, but it was really pretty painful. I guess there's still alot of healing going on in there. We 'settled' for outercourse that night, and the O was awesome! I think I'm less nervous now, since I know things are still A-OK in that area and we'll try again this weekend for intercourse and see how it goes. Strange to be 44 years young and be nervous about such a thing!
Unread 08-31-2007, 08:47 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

It's been almost 3 mths for me post op.

I didn't have the O at all the first time, we were both concentrating on not hurting me.
The second time about the same, except I enjoyed it more.
Everytime since, I've had multiple O's, and even a couple of wet O's (sorry TMI) but I was really afraid i would never experience those again.
Sex is so enjoyable, I've always enjoyed it, but it's just better now.
I've been married for 22 years, and we've got the hots for each other, just like when we were young...
The "passion" is back and I'm loving it.
Hang in there sisters, hopefully it will be the same for you. I truly hope so.
Unread 09-01-2007, 01:08 PM
Orgasm not quite the same...does it get better?

I don't know if that is true about it being mental as well as physical. If you go into it, expecting an O, then that is the mental part and it should happen. Some women's bodies are just like that. It is hard for them with or without surgery. My BF and I did outercourse (oral and stuff) and it was just like before. We have only been together a year and our X life has been terrible because I was hurting the whole time. I am going to take my time and do it when I feel ready because my nerves are a wreck. I will have to be lubed real good and the condom too. Any suggestions on lube (like KY, astroglide)? I was pretty wet (TMI) last night, but want to lube, just in case.

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