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Unread 10-10-2007, 02:04 AM
Freaking Out (young children mentioned)

I'm new here and so glad I found y'all!

I am scheduled for a full hysterectomy on Oct. 18th and I am freaking out. I'm freaked about the surgery itself as I HATE needles and surgery and all that stuff. But I am most freaked out about the recovery. I have 2 young children (2 and 5) and a teenage nephew we're raising (14). My 2 y/o is still nursing and I know that the second she sees me after my surgery (when I get home), she is going to want to nurse. I've considered trying to wean before surgery but she's so attached to her nummies, and she has a cold/ear infection right now, that I'm afraid it would be TORTURE on both of us.

I am really afraid that my husband, Captain Obvious, won't jump to when she needs/wants something and I will end up over doing it. He's a wonderful man and an awesome father, but he's kinda clueless sometimes. He just started a new job in August and doesn't have much time off banked either so this is a HUGE issue.

I'm straight up scared. I've even considered canceling my surgery but I am in SO MUCH pain that I can't be a good wife and mother the way I am now.

Talk me down, ladies! PLEASE!
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Unread 10-10-2007, 03:20 AM
Freaking Out (young children mentioned)

Can you nurse a child with all the drugs they are going to give you? I am 5 weeks post op and can't imagine having a small child depend on me today for nurishment.

This surgery takes a lot out of you for a long time. I wouldn't go for it until you and your family were ready for it.

I had a TAH with both ovaries removed. My husband has been the most caring helpful person I could have wanted to help me out.

I was so scared about the whole thing too needles, post op vomit, cathathers ... the entire process. But as it turned out I didn't feel the needles going in, I didn't vomit, and wished I had the cathater once they removed it.

The instructions I got leaving the hospital were to only take care of myself. Dont do anything for anyone else until I saw the doctor at 2 weeks.

Take care I will keep you in my prayers
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Unread 10-10-2007, 07:04 AM
Freaking Out (young children mentioned)

Good morning. Of course you are scared, and you have a lot on you, don't you? The previous poster brings up a good point that might be worth exploring with your doctor and the patient scheduling nurse. You *will* have lots of drugs coursing through your system, and it might be too much for your daughter to handle in her system, if she is nursing. It might be useful for your surgery team to know your situation fully regarding childcare, nursing, and husband's relative difficulty in getting time off. You really are going to need lots of rest, and remember you have only one chance for the best possible recovery. Perhaps they will suggest that you do wean your daughter. Your breasts will be uncomfortable for you, post-surgery, if you continue to lactate, it would seem to me. I'd like to say something that would help with coping with the stress, too. If you have some fond childhood memories of those kinds of days or moments when time just sorta stood still for you because you were so happy, obliviously so -- call them into your memory now and try to think about those moments. Sometimes thinking of peaceful and happy moments helps us through some stressful ones.

Please consider talking over your home situation with your doctor and the nursing staff in that office. It could be they will have suggestions for you regarding childcare, getting some respite, and handling the nursing issue.

Warm good wishes to you this morning.
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Unread 10-11-2007, 11:07 AM
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Being scared is normal. I am sure your husband will do great with the kids and helping you. mine who works two jobs ( so didnt know the rutines or anything of the daily stuff) was amazing after my srugery and i am sure yours will too. i agree with the others talk to yoru dr about the nursing. my Sister in law had to quit nursing after hers and they said if she wanted pain pills she couldnt be nursing. d*****atley talk to your dr to be sure what you can do. you will be suprised at how well the kids will help out . needles scare me to but once them put you out you wont remeber a thing. Can you get your family or a friend to help out the first week?Things will be so much beer after surgery no more pain and bleeding just concentrate on the good! good luck and big hugs for you
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Lisa

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Unread 10-11-2007, 05:32 PM
Freaking Out (young children mentioned)

Just wanted to comment on the nursing aspect of it, I have a DD 3 who is still nursing. Even as a newborn I nursed her through being on fentanyl, demerol, percocets, and tylenol 3's. (my c-section incision tore WIDE open from end to end 2 days post op, and ended up seriously infected). Over the last 3 years my DD has been nursed while I have taken many other pain meds for various reasons. By 2 yrs old, the minute amount of medication she receives through the milk will not affect her much if at all. If you are truly concerned about it you can search out Dr. Hales book Medication and Mother's Milk, hes the expert when it comes to medication and nursing. Here is a link the kellymom.com about pain medications while nursing, taken from the AAP website and Dr.Hale. http://www.kellymom.com/health/meds/...eds.html#note3
I dont see any reason to wean if both you and the child are not ready for it. You can also contact the LLL and a lactation consultant. My family doctor anf GYN both told me I could continue to nurse after my hysterectomy no problem.
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Unread 10-11-2007, 05:50 PM
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Originally Posted by midnightangel
Just wanted to comment on the nursing aspect of it, I have a DD 3 who is still nursing. Even as a newborn I nursed her through being on fentanyl, demerol, percocets, and tylenol 3's. (my c-section incision tore WIDE open from end to end 2 days post op, and ended up seriously infected). Over the last 3 years my DD has been nursed while I have taken many other pain meds for various reasons. By 2 yrs old, the minute amount of medication she receives through the milk will not affect her much if at all. If you are truly concerned about it you can search out Dr. Hales book Medication and Mother's Milk, hes the expert when it comes to medication and nursing. Here is a link the kellymom.com about pain medications while nursing, taken from the AAP website and Dr.Hale. http://www.kellymom.com/health/meds/...eds.html#note3
I dont see any reason to wean if both you and the child are not ready for it. You can also contact the LLL and a lactation consultant. My family doctor anf GYN both told me I could continue to nurse after my hysterectomy no problem.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I think you're my new best friend. I am sitting here w/ big ol' happy tears after reading your post. My health is very important and why I'm having the surgery. But mine and my daughter's nursing relationship is also VERY important to me. Thank you for the reassurance.
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Unread 10-11-2007, 06:52 PM
Freaking Out (young children mentioned)

I also have small children and am dealing with the same issues as you except the nursing. My kids are 4,6,and 12. I have a good husband also but he works long hours and he too is somewhat clueless on what to do with the kids. I am concerned about recovery.I am worried I am going to get up and take care of the kids or do something I am not supposed to because im not used to being the one taken care of.Im trying to figure all this out too. So if anyone has any suggestions I would be very happy to hear them. I'm sure we will both monage to get through this. Imagine what it will be like to be not in pain and be able to get on with your life. That is what is holding me together.
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