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I swear if one more person..... I swear if one more person.....

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Unread 11-02-2007, 05:53 PM
I swear if one more person.....

oh I have had many moments like that.....more *** moments then "thanks for telling me that" moments
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Unread 11-02-2007, 06:23 PM
I swear if one more person.....

Wow - I wonder how many times I may have said the wrong thing at a wrong time! A whole new viewpoint! Thank you
Unread 11-03-2007, 08:28 AM
I swear if one more person.....

Hi, i sooo know what you mean. people have said 'oh well you wont have to be bothered with periods anymore' and it really hurts as the fact i wont have periods is just another reminder that i wont ever carry my own child, ever ever ever. its such a final operation that everything you lose with it, like periods- is always a reminder that its gone for good. i know that people say things in ignorance but it upsets me that after we have alreay gone through so much and lost so much that there is still more hurt to come....so extra extra special kind thoughts, friendship and love to you all and between ourselves and the love and support given here we can maybe patch up some of the damage done by these stupid comments xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Unread 11-03-2007, 09:45 AM
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Originally Posted by wigmaof3
OMG... Its only been 2 months since MY Hyst... and I had NOOOO idea what clods people can be! Sheesh! I work with mostly females in an office environmenrt. My ovaries are still shuddering themselves awake a bit so I have a few more spells of hot sweats than usual, but they're subsiding.

These WOMEN ( a few anyway) actually had the gall to ask me in the break room (while they were all cackling over coffee) :burning: if the Hyst "clinically" turned me into a ******... Can you believe it???

Gawd, I wanted to slap each and every one of them!!! :burning: :burning:
I've encountered that....I say, "I had a hysterectomy...not an adda****tome!

Unread 11-03-2007, 04:53 PM
I swear if one more person.....

Originally Posted by Trixi1972
Tells me how lucky I am not to have a period anymore because they have asked me (more then once) if I had a tampon, midol or a pad I will scream...my usual response is

"Yes look how lucky I am, I got to trade my uterus for a huge bowl of tolerance so I can deal with your stupidity"

If one more nurse or doctor asks me when my last period was even though they have my file in front of them that has it practically in lights that I have had a hysterectomy...grrrr

If one more person asks me how come I was so selfish and only had one child and do I want her to be alone, with no company" OMG

If one person asks me if I still pee properly! if anything is loose in there! Will it grow back! I mean where are these people living? under a rock I can only assume.

There that was my vent and I fell much better!

I'm glad the vent made you feel better.

I just have to say, though -- that I don't think people are being purposely mean to you.

The women who are telling you how lucky you are not to have a period probably are being serious. Quite honestly, I'm ecstatic that I don't have monthly bleeding and pain anymore! I'm watching my 19-year-old dd going through the same thing I used to, and I'm so afraid she's going to end up in the same boat I was in... but now, she's miserable.

I don't think the nurses and doctors are trying to enrage you by asking you when your last period was. Medical charts *can* be wrong and they do need to cover their bases. If I had a nickel for every time a nurse or doctor asked me a question that doesn't doesn't apply because of something on my chart, I'd be a very rich woman today.

The people who ask you if you can still go to the bathroom may think they're being funny, but what they really are doing is showing their ignorance.

I'm sorry that other posters have come along to offer "snappy comebacks" for you to use the next time someone hurts you. All I can do is offer the advice that someone offered to me a long time ago:

Don't do it. You are too good of a person to say something hurtful. Answer the question truthfully (for the doctor), deflect it with others. I used to say, "You know, I'm really uncomfortable talking about such private personal and medical stuff with anyone but my husband (or partner, or whoever) and my doctor. Say, how about this weather?" It worked wonders.

(((Sisters))) I guess if it makes you feel better to think of mean things to say, by all means continue to do it. But this public display of these mean comments (complete with giggles and obvious cursing as evidenced by multiple instances of "****" in posts) is, in my opinion, very sad.

to all. I hope your hearts feel better soon.
Unread 11-03-2007, 06:36 PM
I swear if one more person.....

Well thanks for pretty much ending the thread I started.

I needed a way to relate, I dont think that people are purposely mean..my only point was think before one talks, this was moved to the aching hearts for a reason. I dont understand why you chose this thread to say positive things I was moved over here so that I can relate to other women who are going through the same thing and need a place to maybe smile a minute.

I know your words wanted to help but honestly I felt like everything I said you justified....I get that every day I did not think I would ever get that here.
Unread 11-03-2007, 06:39 PM
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I am sorry I was just in a bad place for a minute....
Unread 11-03-2007, 09:42 PM
I swear if one more person.....

Hey Trixi:

Thanks for sharing. I have not had anyone speak to me in that manner (probably because I haven't been out yet since the hyster). But I know me and I will probably feel the same way . . . hurt.

Please excuse these morons who speak before they think. It really doesn't matter whether they meant to be mean or not. It still hurts. I'm sorry.

As in the past, when someone makes a rude comment to me, I just walk away. They get the message. I don't argue or fight anymore. (Probably because I'm too old now.) LOL
If I feel like explaining, then I'll explain. Teaching is my profession, but when it comes to personal intimate issues - it's no one's business.

And yes, you have every reason to believe you can vent and expect to be understood here. Isn't that what this site is for? To be able to speak our mind to other women who have possibly been through the same thing we have? To feel understood and appreciated for just being ourselves?

We are all from different backgrounds and are in different ages and stages of life. We all handle things differently.

Take care Trixi.
Unread 11-04-2007, 03:39 AM
I swear if one more person.....

I am so there with you on people's reactions to the surgery. I walked down the aisle in the supermarket yesterday where the pads and tampons are and was amazed at all the new brands on the market - it's been 5 years for me and yesterday was the first day I actually looked at the 'pad & tampon' aisle and to be honest I actually did feel happy that I don't have to choose anything from it at all.
Unread 11-04-2007, 03:41 AM
How Long Does It Take!!!!!!

How Long does it take to not feel so empty inside. I have had my hysterectomy for almost 7 years due to cancer and a removal of my uterus and my life. I at times wish I had just not had it done and took my chances. I have been on every antidepressant available, thought about shock treatment, got a job in a birthcenter to be around babies all the time to try and "get it out of my system", nothing works. Please tell me it goes away. Yes I have other children and I am so very very sick of people telling me "WELL YOU SHOULD APPRECIATE THE ONES YOU HAVE"

Duh don't you think I do they are the only ones that keep me from taking my own life day after day.

I just can't take it I feel so empty so worthless and what do you even bother having sex for anymore nothing will come of it.

Yes it did ruin my marriage of 10 years too. He wanted more children and guess what two years after my hysterectomy he got his wish and a beautiful little boy with another woman. So much for his old family.

Wow I doubt anyone will read all of this but I just needed to write it. I was hoping someone out there understands how I feel cause no one I know does.

actually I don't even try and share this with anyone because they are all just thrilled I don't have my period and how lucky am I. UGH!!! If only they could really see/ no/ understand how unlucky I feel.

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