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Should I leave my doctor? Should I leave my doctor?

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Unread 11-12-2007, 01:38 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

My OB/GYN has been my doctor for years. A couple of years ago I had to get a D&C and everything was wondeful.I really felt like his staff and he were really there for me.

Every since I had my TAH/BSO I am soooooo disappointed in them! Last Monday I had to go in for lots of pain and pressure. They found that I had blood in my urine agian(had this before my TAH/BSO but it was gone @ my 2 wk checkup) Doctor asked if I wanted to get this test done and I told him I would let him know.I called his office maybe a hour after I left and to date have not heard from them! I have called and left messages.Everytime since Oct 1st if I need something from them (questions,meds,ect) I have to call them over & over or go to the office to finally get the help I need!

I'm SICK of it and want to change doctors! The thing is I dont know if know if he knows this is going on because I always have to deal with his nurse (she is also a friend of mine)

What should I do? This is my body and well being we are talking about! And I still have tons of questions,I mean my gosh I went (still doing it) through a life changing thing!And my bladder still hurts!
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Unread 11-12-2007, 01:45 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I am sorry you are having problems communicating with your doctor since your surgery. Have you tried making an appointment to go in and see him?

I recently read an article about how in some areas, mine included, the doctor to population ratio is not where it should be. We are experiencing a shortage in medical staff overall here where I live so sometimes it does take several phone calls for non emergency issues. This may be something that is occuring for your doctor as well.

I would suggest going in and sitting down with your doctor and letting him know that you are dissatisfied and ask how the issue can be resolved. If you still do not feel you are receiving the services you would like, talk to your GP. You may be able to see your GP for all your needs or you GP may be able to refer you to another GYN.

Unread 11-12-2007, 01:52 PM
Just my personal opinions here...

Find another dr. After what I have experienced in the healthcare field lately, go for a new perspective. If you are not getting the attention you deserve, go somewhere else. Trust me on this one. I tried sitting down so many times with my gyn's that it was useless. I was just talking in deaf ears. They just didn't seem to grasp the concept of bleeding, pain, or my quality of life issues. Maybe your dr is different. Maybe you can talk to him/her. If that doesn't work, ask for a reference to another gyn in the area.

I had my faith and security wiped out under my feet from the two gyn's I had since I was a teenager, and I am 44 yo now. The two gyn's were in practice together, so I saw both of them. When I asked them for a reference to another gyn, they acted very insulted and offended. All they did was tell me to call in and ask my insurance carrier for someone who is on my plan. I was shocked by this behavior. It was one that I never experienced by either of them before.

For over 7 years I was bleeding 3 weeks out of 4, clots the size of mini basketballs, and pain off the charts (literally), sitting on 4 beach towels, rearranging travel/vacation trips because of my was just one thing after another that these two gyn's told me to "ignore". I just couldn't. My quality of life was at zero.

Now, I have been through my TAH and BSO on Nov. 6th. It has been a very difficult journey for me personally, but so well worth it. Nobody should have to wait and wait for answers. That is not living.

I say find a new dr, and start out fresh. You never know what lies ahead of you. Don't suffer in silence. It is so very wrong to do so.

I wish you luck.

Blessings Galore,
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Unread 11-12-2007, 02:18 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I agree with the post to try and make an appointment with your doctor so you can let him know what is going on. If that does not help then change doctors. Maybe ask your GP doc who they refer. I hope you get the relief you need.
Unread 11-12-2007, 02:47 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

Of course, it's entirely up to you. If you'd feel more comfortable with a new doctor then my all means go for it.

I'd try to talk with your doctor first, though. I know my doc was perfectly understanding when I mentioned I might want to go to a bigger hospital to have my surgery. He said he wanted his patients comfortable even if it meant going to another doc. He was willing to recommend another GYN. I ended up staying with him because I trusted him.

But if you'd feel better, I say by all means find someone else.
Unread 11-12-2007, 03:56 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I would try to make an appointment to visit with him, if he blows you off at that time I would seek out another doctor.

Good luck.
TVH/BSO 10.22.07 age 35
Unread 11-12-2007, 04:34 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I would start asking other women in your area and find out what doctor they go to and if they are happy with them. I have found that personal references work out better. I loved my doctor but had to switch and through personal references found a great doctor that I am even more happy with. I would switch doctors, that is my opinion. Because, no matter how nice the doctor is, the staff makes a big difference in your care. Doctors really rely on their staff to help run things. You could voice your concerns but I would really look for another doctor. You might really find a GREAT doctor with a great staff and fantastic nurses, that returns your calls promptly. I am sure you love your friend who works there and don't want to offend her by leaving but you deserve the care you want and need!!! And, your friend would want to be happy too!
Unread 11-12-2007, 04:55 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I asked my personal doctor who his wife went to. In 30 years and probably 6 different OB/GYNs, she is the best ever! So I agree - ask around.
Unread 11-12-2007, 05:21 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I'd start with your friend, his nurse. How often to you see or speak to her away from the office setting? Call or visit her at home and ask what's up with the doctor. He's her boss, so she should know if he is like this with all his patients.

Tell her you need to speak to him about the test he suggested. At the very least, tell her you will call her at work and make an appointment to see him. I wouldn't be in a hurry to switch doctors until I found out what exactly is going on. It could be a case of miscommunication.
Unread 11-12-2007, 08:04 PM
Should I leave my doctor?

I would make an appointment to see the doctor to discuss the situation. In some cases, it is not the doctor's fault but the office help that screen patients. They think they are doing the right thing or are following office protocol at our expense.

When my daughter was young she needed to see a specialist. Our doctor told us that she needed to be seen within 2 weeks. We could not get an appointment because we could not get past the nurse. We ended up calling her cardiologist who made a few calls and got us the appointment the next day.

I would be careful talking to the friend. SHE may be the culprit and not the doctor.

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