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Unread 11-16-2007, 07:08 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

Okay, I need a little help on this one if you don't mind. My husband (who has been out of the house for over a year) keeps saying that by four weeks I should be "back to normal" because everyone he knows who had a hysterectomy is.

I, on the other hand, REALLY beg to differ. I feel blah, have pain around my abdominal incision, issues with horomes, never any sleep, and basically I'm not going to clean up my house in one day, cook dinner every nite, or run any marathons in the near future here.

So what I'm asking is - when did you start feeling like you could get back into the "normal" swing of things. The things I've been reading is to expect to not feel yourself for months - but he doesn't believe this. It's all that magical "four weeks and magically you are cured" fantasy he apparently knows so well about that should have happened for me by now.

Thanks again everyone! You've been wonderful...really.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 07:19 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

I'm over 2 months and not normal yet. I'm doing a lot less then I use too. I'm increasing with each week. If I have a bad day. I just take it easy. 4 weeks seems too early to get back to completely normal. I guess there are some who do but I'm not one. At 2 weeks I was feeling pretty good and over did it and had a lot of bleeding. After a week it stopped. I really watched after that. Everyone heals different. Someone suggested to me to print off the list of things you can do and can't do on the hyster list and give it to my husband. It's a good guide line. Go with what you know and don't over do it.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 07:19 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

The norm for initial recovery for abdominal surgery is 6 - 8 weeks. Some heal quicker some slower. Follow your dr's orders and listen to your own body. My dr released me to slowly resume normal activities at 6 weeks. I wasn't ready and waiteh an extra week. then I went very slowly. Please don't let anybody rush you and risk injury. My dr told me that complete recovery can take up to a year or so.

You might find it helpful to print the "FAQ's for Family & Friends " and give to your hubby. It really helped mine understand.
https://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/article_117127.htm

Best wishes.

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Unread 11-16-2007, 07:30 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

NPWriter

I agree with the other ((ladies)) whole-heartedly. Could it just be bravado on his part? I would have thought it unsual for men to go around discussing hysterectomies with ladies ...

The initial and vital healing takes approximately 6 weeks, with full recovery then anything from 3 months to a year. Internally, the body cannot be fully healed, from major surgery, inside 4 weeks.

So, please, keep up with the resting and taking it easy. Wishing you all the very best as you still continue to pamper the princess!

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Unread 11-16-2007, 07:43 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

He's been out of the house for over a year (altho we are not divorced) - and really doesn't do anything around the house anymore (yard work and we have a huge yard, upkeep of house, etc.) - told me he doesn't have to and that I could do it all with my son. But I'm sure when we get that divorce he will want half of its value. So a "DH" he is not.

Anyway...he wants to do as little as humanly possible because it cuts into his social life, and altho we've been married for 21 years and have two children, he complains about having to drive OUR daughter to/from school, etc. Anything I ask him to help with he gets extremely jerky (I asked if he could possibly cook something for the kids at least the other day - ugh), and always tosses out that "well, the doctor said you'd be fine by four weeks". He NEVER even spoke with the doctor...the attending nurse upon my admission told him it would take weeks and literally months before I felt back to normal...he conveniently missed that part...but all the while he was completely congenial and nodding. All for show. To say the least it's been a very stressful recovery so far.

Some people just aren't very nice...but I'll be darned if I'm going to hurt myself by overdoing anything - he CAN help.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 08:00 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

They told me I could go back to work after 8 weeks. It was still very difficult to do and I was in an office. I hurt all over but no one understood why I still hurt when my surgery was 2 months ago and I should be feeling better after sitting around doing nothing. I think it was about 4 months before I started not feeling sluggish. Now my hormones are still not adjusted after I had my other ovary out last year. It takes a long time before your hormones are adjusted back to normal too. Take care of yourself and when the doctor says to do only what you can, listen to him/her. I got over ambitious and did too much housework and paid the price in pain after. 6 months after the surgery I was moving a file cabinet at work and it fell over on me. Should not have been doing that. You had major surgery and your body needs lots of time to heal. You are not alone in how you feel.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 09:30 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

For me, it was 14 weeks after that I felt strong and "normal" again. It will be different for everyone, though. I had the LAVH AND two hernia repairs and a bladder sling done.

I own a business and I returned to work full time after 5 weeks and was always exhausted. It took a while for me to regain my full strength. It was slow and steady and I made sure I slept well and ate well.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 10:42 AM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

deebeejoyful - I have my own business too, and I'm freaking out a bit since Christmas/Holiday time is my busiest time of the year. I have started scheduling appointments for the week before Christmas since that is my 6 week mark, but I'm a bit worried about needing help with some of the things I need to do. I'm an esthetician (skin care) and after facials,etc. I have a lot of laundry that I carry back and forth from work to home. I'm wondering how soon I will be able to get back to normal. One good thing - my boss isn't giving me a hard time, haha.
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Unread 11-16-2007, 12:04 PM
Your "back-to-normal" Date

Excuse me, your husband sounds like a real piece of work. I hate it when men act like they know about this kind of stuff. How possibly could they. He's being selfish, plain and simple. Which is probably why he's out of the house in the first place.

Don't let him get to you, he doesn't know diddly squat about this and I doubt he's really talked to anyone about it. Tell him to come on here and we'll talk to him alright. He might prefer to have major surgery himself LOL

Chin up sweetie ... take care of yourself, don't worry about him. Least of all don't spend a second worrying about what he expects from you.

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Unread 11-16-2007, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by JoEllen49
Excuse me, your husband sounds like a real piece of work. I hate it when men act like they know about this kind of stuff. How possibly could they. He's being selfish, plain and simple. Which is probably why he's out of the house in the first place.

Don't let him get to you, he doesn't know diddly squat about this and I doubt he's really talked to anyone about it. Tell him to come on here and we'll talk to him alright. He might prefer to have major surgery himself LOL

Chin up sweetie ... take care of yourself, don't worry about him. Least of all don't spend a second worrying about what he expects from you.

You know - I did tell him he could come on this site and read what all you ladies are saying...he won't do it I'm sure - and I'm sure eventually he'd be able to figure out who I am. I did print out the set of questions/answers someone suggested earlier to show him, but I'm sure he will find the one that remotely says "four weeks" and say "SEE? It says FOUR weeks like I said."

I try not to get stressed out over it - but sheesh it's very hard especially when it's happening on a daily basis.
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