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Unread 11-17-2007, 08:28 PM
Feeling guilty

I am starting to fell lazy and guilty. I feel pretty good aside from some mild pain, a little nausea and tired. I am starting to wonder if people think I am being lazy and spoiled always asking for help and things.

How long is reasonable to pamper yourself?

I still have my staples until Monday so that slows me down too.
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Unread 11-17-2007, 08:42 PM
Feeling guilty

Oh my gosh! You should not be feeling guilty, I don't think. You just had surgery last week! I'm almost at three weeks (Monday), and I have started to feel a little guilty too, but then I try to do things for myself and end up finding my limits every time! I had my family doing everything for me for the first two weeks, and they are still helping me out with a lot of stuff that I just can't do.

You had a big surgery, and no matter how guilty you feel for laying around or how bored you get (cuz you will), you need to rest and have down time and low/no stress. The hardest part of taking care of yourself is not doing things - believe me, I am not a sitter. I do not like to rest much, or sit around, or let others do things for me, and I have had to learn that I just have to give in and not do things for awhile.

Try not to feel bad - you're doing the right thing!
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Unread 11-17-2007, 08:49 PM
Feeling guilty

ComfortableLady,

It's what woman do, we feel guilty about taking care of ourselves. But this must stop! Take as long as you need. It may take several months to start feeling like your old self. It depends on the type of operation you had, among other things. Don't push yourself because you may find yourself starting the recovery process all over again! Just relax and let your body heal. Accept the help of others graciously.

Remember to
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Unread 11-17-2007, 09:33 PM
Feeling guilty

I have the same problem with guilt. But, you are so early on. And, it is great
that you feel good. If you do to much though you could relapse and take longer to heal. I was doing great in the hospital tossing and turning with ease, walking the halls, etc. I even asked to go home earlier. (what was I thinking?? )But, a few days at home and like was said before you find your limits. Inside you body is still really trying to repair yourself so even if you feel good your body is working overtime and needs extra rest and fluids to heal faster. So, if you are feeling good that means your doing something right. Keep up the good work so you continue to feel good! And, know that no one here thinks your lazy
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Unread 11-18-2007, 12:57 AM
Feeling guilty

I'm right with you. Not exactly feeling guilty, I guess, more just hate to have to ask the people I ususally serve to serve ME! My husband is going thru some very discouraging things in his work, and also his mother has just had a cancerous tumor removed from her head and the prognosis isn't very good- I hate not being able to support him at this time. A very wise friend said to me that maybe it was time my family stopped being SOOOO dependent on me....and maybe I was a bit scared for them not to "need me" so much. I have really been thinking about this....we women can begin to think we ARE what we DO, and that's not right.
You are important just because of who you are, ComfortableLady. You are created as a one-of-a-kind woman and have value just in being yourself. Rejoice in the fact that you have people who love you enough to help you during this time, and just rest.
Lori
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Unread 11-18-2007, 06:04 AM
Feeling guilty

Thanks for the support. Tomorrow will be one week post op for me I guess I should look at the progress I have made.

I am getting bored. I have never been a sit down a watch TV person. I can catch up on my reading though. I also need to keep moving because my body does let me know it I sit or lay to long.
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Unread 11-19-2007, 02:35 PM
guilty feelings about missing work

My family has been wonderful not making me feel guilty about only doing what I feel I am ready for. But my boss is another story. She, of course, is SuperWoman and cannot fathom that someone would actually need 6 whole weeks to recover from surgery. I go back to work next Monday and fully expect a "chilly" welcome back.
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Unread 11-19-2007, 02:54 PM
Feeling guilty

Wait a minute -- you mean the pampering is actually supposed to stop? I'm still working it...

Seriously -- you are still in the very early recovery stages. Your surgical area is like freshly-poured cement (if you'll permit an analogy). It may "look" OK and even "feel" OK, but if you mess with it, not only will it no longer "be" OK but you may have to start all over again. So remember your Hyster Sisters training and allow the pampering to continue. You have the rest of your life to do housework and run errands -- right now, your job is to heal.

to you. Hope this helps.
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Unread 11-19-2007, 02:55 PM
I understand about the boss

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Originally Posted by kix1959
My family has been wonderful not making me feel guilty about only doing what I feel I am ready for. But my boss is another story. She, of course, is SuperWoman and cannot fathom that someone would actually need 6 whole weeks to recover from surgery. I go back to work next Monday and fully expect a "chilly" welcome back.
My boss will be the same. And since she has her "favorites" she will tell me several times how hard they had to work covering my work while I was gone. But then I can say "yes my work is difficult I am glad they realize it" HA HA
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Unread 11-19-2007, 02:56 PM
Thank you

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Originally Posted by mjd2491
Wait a minute -- you mean the pampering is actually supposed to stop? I'm still working it...

Seriously -- you are still in the very early recovery stages. Your surgical area is like freshly-poured cement (if you'll permit an analogy). It may "look" OK and even "feel" OK, but if you mess with it, not only will it no longer "be" OK but you may have to start all over again. So remember your Hyster Sisters training and allow the pampering to continue. You have the rest of your life to do housework and run errands -- right now, your job is to heal.

to you. Hope this helps.
Thank you for the reminder! You ladies always understand I need to remember that, huh?
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