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Unread 12-10-2007, 06:35 PM
Anyone here have hyst w/out having children?

I had my hyst at 31yrs without having kids. I don't want kids either. I was actually afraid I was going to have to fight to get the hyst because there is such a stereotype that just because you are a woman you should want to have children. Luckily my doc wasn't like that at all.
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Unread 12-10-2007, 07:24 PM
Anyone here have hyst w/out having children?

Hi there. I didn't have any children either. I actually went through a Uterine Fibroid Embolization (UFE) a year prior to "preserve" my fertility - although its highly risky to get pregnant after that procedure.

I finally decided to have the hysterectomy this past September and I don't regret it. However, I didn't always feel that way. I watched the fibroid grow for about six years - I thankfully had docs that really urged me to wait and use surgery as a last option - to preserve my fertility. When I had the UFE, it was a last-ditch effort. But even prior to my hysterectomy, my primary care doc was concerned that I was giving up too soon even though the risk of a pregnancy was astronomical. Still, we knew each other well and he knew how badly I had wanted a family. Finally, given the size of my fibroid, the years of anemia, the constant complications, I was ready for it and requested it.

If I have just one piece of advice I can impart on this board, however, is that you have to really be ready for it. You will be sterile. It's irreversible and it's forever. For some women who are facing issues related to a cancer diagnosis, they don't have a lot of options. But for others of us, we do have options. This board gives a lot of information on those other options. Really search them. Also, force your doctor to talk to you about options. I feel like I say this over and over on this board, but make your doctor listen to you and come up with a treatment option that isn't just the simplest solution to your problems, but the best one for your problems.

Please believe me. I work with doctors all day long. They never suggest or promote surgery when they're not sure a woman needs it. But after my experience, we've spent a little time talking about it at my office and one of the things I've learned is that the doc is really responding to us when they recommend surgery. We walk in and say, "Doc, I've got this problem and that problem and I just can't take it anymore. Do whatever you have to do." We may not really mean it that way, but we're just so frustrated by the time we access care - how many of us really look forward to a pelvic exam - that that's how it comes out.

They interpret that as meaning that you are really desperate and you want a permanent solution. They don't interpret a statement like that as meaning, "Doc, what solutions can we come up with that would mitigate my issues so that I can still have a baby someday?" Still, it's up to us to push the conversation beyond the initial burst of frustration and deeper to the heart of the matter.

Please remember that your doctor is your healthcare provider - and your healthcare PARTNER. He or she wants to work with you. They want to give you options and they want to come up with a solution that works for you. In the end, you are also the ONLY person who gets to decide.

I probably got on my soapbox here, but if you're at all doubting your surgery, I wanted to give you a little something to think about. Good luck!
Unread 12-11-2007, 08:02 PM
Anyone here have hyst w/out having children?

I've never had children. Tried when I was married in my 20s, but nothing happened. After the marriage ended, I lost the desire. Had my hyster this June at age 42. I have many lovely children in my life and have decided that my role at "aunt" is what God meant for me.
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Unread 12-12-2007, 10:33 PM
Anyone here have hyst w/out having children?

Yes and no.

I have never had biological children, just never could get pregnant. But my husband and I became foster parents and have now adopted 6 children and he has two from a prior marriage for a total of 8. I highly recommend foster parenting and for those who worry "would I be able to give a child back" two things, one you can go foster adopt and make it known that you only want to take children who are or are almost legally free, and two believe me going into it knowing that you may have to give them back makes it easier to give them back also I keep in close contact with the parents of my kiddos who have gone home, to give them support so the kids do not end up back in the system ( so far none of my kids have come back into care and I have been doing this for 5 yrs) and also so I can keep a close eye on what is going on so if there is a danger I can report it and keep "my kids" safe.

Please if you are suffering from empty womb syndrome ( I sure did!) consider foster care, plus the other thing is if you do adopt the state pays for the adoption so no large bills there.

If anyone has any questions about foster care please e-mail me I will be happy to answer questions and point you in the right direction.
As a matter of fact after we became foster parents My sister did too even though she had 7 bio children and she just adopted one has two more who will be free in January and is being considered for a sibling group of 6. I feel truly blessed by God to have been chosen for this beautiful Family.

AKA Pamir
Unread 12-13-2007, 08:20 AM
Anyone here have hyst w/out having children?

I too wasn't able to have children - doctors said it was unexplained infertility! Then I found out I was pregnant which lasted 7 weeks and then no more. Finally we adopted in late 30's.

Then due to cancer scare in womb and cysts on ovaries it was decided to have the op at 48 Only after op in the biopsy found out I had endo - it had never been mentioned before!

I only had bad period pains when I was in my teens - otherwise no symptoms until the continuous bleeding, that started a year ago.

I was worried I wouldn't feel complete after the op, and was scared of the sudden menopause, but I don't feel any different. I don't regret having it done and I am thankful for modern medicine to be given the opportunity of a better quality of life.

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