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Unread 01-02-2008, 06:38 AM
last minute second thoughts

I have been dealing with fibroids for many years (my Dr. actually showed a large one to my husband during a C-section 15 years ago). For the past 5 years I have had heavy bleeding anemia and immense pressure on my bladder. I tried having a fibroid removed from inside the uterus, but the bleeding was still a problem. I started to have hot flashes and skip two periods and was beginning to celebrate but then had another period and felt horrible.

I scheduled a LSH...and then saw a new Dr. for second opinon who told me that we could probably make it to menopause without surgery BUT the fact that I had breast cancer at 39 suggested that I should consider having my ovaries removed...that is when I scheduled surgery.
I am 54 so menopause should be right around the corner...but I think I might have reached the end. Am I crazy for doing this surgery...or crazy for not? or just crazy?
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Unread 01-02-2008, 08:07 AM
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I don't think you're crazy any of the ways!

I think you should ask yourself what you would be avoiding by NOT having the surgery. would be avoiding initial pain etc....but you would also be avoiding long term hormone replacement and all the side effects there.

Then ask yourself what you are avoiding if you DO have the surgery....a few more years of menstruation, and many different forms of CANCER.

I had a TVH and kept my ovaries, but I have not regretted my surgery once. Just talk yourself through your options, and make the best decision for you.

Hope this helps :-)
Unread 01-02-2008, 08:45 AM
last minute second thoughts does help. I will probably bite the bullet and go through with it. I have a feeling that if I don't do it now it will never happen and I know my oncologist whom I haven't seen in many years thank goodness would wonder what the heck I was waiting for. My biggest fear was surgical menopause, but I seem so much closer to the real thing that doing it now should not be such a tough decision...I do value my mental health as much as my physical though
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Unread 01-02-2008, 11:29 AM
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I had second thoughts a few days before my surgery as well. I tried to convince myself that all the pain and discomfort I've experienced over the years really isn't so bad.

And then I REALLY thought about why I had decided to go ahead and make my appt for my hyst in the first place! Pain, heavy bleeding, painful sex, having to leave social events early or not attend at all, embarassing "leaks", more pain, more bleeding, stained clothing, etc, etc, etc.

It was beginning to effect my quality of life. No, actually it had been effecting my quality of life for years and I couldn't take it another day!

I am so thrilled I went ahead with my surgery - best decision I ever made! I feel wonderful. And post-op pain/discomfort was nothing compared to the pain pre-op!

That being said, you need to be sure for yourself. If you sincerely are not ready, postpone. It needs to be the right decision for YOU!

Good Luck and Take Care, no matter what you decide!

Unread 01-02-2008, 11:49 AM
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Hi Metzesu,

Crazy?? Not at all in my book!!!!!

I had my LSH at 46 for two large fibroids and my LSH is still one of the best things I ever did for my overall health. In pre-op, I had fibroid pressure 24/7, bladder incontinence and I was having scary heavy gushing periods. Not to mention I was tired all the time. I was border line anemic.

Today...I have my energy and quality of life back. No fibroids and no periods and I can hold a full bladder. I walk past the feminine products section at the market and I realize I was very fortunate to be a candidate for the LSH surgery.

Sending best wishes~

Unread 01-02-2008, 08:51 PM
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You would be crazy to NOT think about it.

I had the same problems with fibroids and would have had the hyster sooner had I known menopause was not in the near future. 55 and ovaries still going strong. 'Fibroids will shrink after menopause.'--yeah right--they can produce their own estrogen when they get big. Like a horror movie! My DR said 10% shrinkage with menopause, that wouldn't have done me much good.

But that's me, you need to decide what's right for you. You don't want to be saying I should have done.....after the surgery.

The surgical menopause is no fun. Once my HRT got balanced it's better than before for me. I can't help but think that my hormones have been messed up for the past 10 years. Huge fibroids are proof. It is so nice not having PMS and mood swings not to mention the bleeding and anemia. And no worry about ovarian cancer.

The LSH is a fantastic way to go. Read all you can and have confidence in yourself. Good luck.
Unread 01-03-2008, 12:03 AM
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Don't have second thoughts. I am 6 weeks post op and I feel like a new woman. Like you, I had breast cancer two years ago. I am 60, past menopause and when it was discovered I had a 4 inch mass on my ovary, needless to say "ovarian cancer" was a major concern. I was in surgery a week later....(the longest week of my life.) Fortunately, the softball size cyst was benign. I had a complete hysterectomy and had everything removed (TAH/BSO).
Although it is major surgery, it was definitely worth it. If your breast cancer was estrogen positive you may want to discuss with your doctor about HRT. I am not taking anything and had night sweats the first week after surgery, but that's all.

Good luck on your surgery. I think you will be happy you did it.
Unread 01-03-2008, 12:48 AM
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My (female) doctor also pointed out that a fibroid is very heavy (heavier than muscle). So, if you choose to leave it inside you, your internal ligaments (not sure I have the right term here, but you get the idea) are working much harder to fight against gravity. And, that's for your whole life...not just until menopause.
Unread 01-03-2008, 07:31 AM
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Thanks to all of you...I do so feel that these large fibroids must be contributing to increased estrogen! and yes they are heavy and I am looking forward to a feeling of being empty! My breast cancer was estrogen positive but not off the charts...I will probably try it w/o hormones at first and see how it goes...I feel more ready...thanks
Unread 01-03-2008, 10:58 PM
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I too was worried about early menopause. But waking up with a flat tummy!!!!! after surgery is super. I felt lighter the moment it was done. Two weeks after surgery people remarked that I look like I lost weight. Actual weight loss was like 5 lbs. but my tummy is GONE.

Also, I don't know if yours is causing heavy bleeding, but after messing around for a year prior, you are setting yourself up for more health issues. My blood pressure went from 168/98 to 132/88 4 weeks after surgury. I was headed for a stroke due to excessive blood loss. They actually postponed my surgery thinking it was a heart issue, when it was the strain from the excessive blood loss.

Good Luck.

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