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What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

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  #31  
Unread 01-07-2008, 05:56 PM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

I wish you so much luck. I go back to work next week. Week 6. I used vacation and sick time for my time out. I went 1 week with out pay just as a safety factor incase I need some extra time.

I have the HR person and CEO on my side. I gave 30 day notice for my surgery and aprox how long I would be out. A temp was budgeted. My sup waited till less than 2 days before my surgery to even ask what needed to be done. I had been covering her job for the last 30 days until that point.

The HR and CEO became very aware of her behavior. When I initially got my diagnois. My sup actually called me at home to ask about work, after she knew why I was out. When the CEO found out she had called me, to say she was angry is an understatement.

My sup's behavior has been noted and people are aware. My return and her behavior are going to be closely watched.
She has contacted me via my home email and human resources is aware.

I am sharing my story because I intially thought I was alone and dreaded my surgery and recovery. I realized just because you feel like no one sees. Others might be in your corner and you never even know it.
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  #32  
Unread 01-07-2008, 07:35 PM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

Well...I think it was your sup's job to get things in writing.

I am thinking a couple of things...calling your state Bar association to get free advice to see if you have a leg to stand on, and whether the IT fellow would back you up.

I'm not saying get into a legal hassle - but maybe a well-worded letter from a lawyer would straighten her out.

What a ..... never mind, she's not worth the typing!
  #33  
Unread 01-07-2008, 07:40 PM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

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Originally Posted by lieden
I wish you so much luck. I go back to work next week. Week 6. I used vacation and sick time for my time out. I went 1 week with out pay just as a safety factor incase I need some extra time.

I have the HR person and CEO on my side. I gave 30 day notice for my surgery and aprox how long I would be out. A temp was budgeted. My sup waited till less than 2 days before my surgery to even ask what needed to be done. I had been covering her job for the last 30 days until that point.

The HR and CEO became very aware of her behavior. When I initially got my diagnois. My sup actually called me at home to ask about work, after she knew why I was out. When the CEO found out she had called me, to say she was angry is an understatement.

My sup's behavior has been noted and people are aware. My return and her behavior are going to be closely watched.
She has contacted me via my home email and human resources is aware.

I am sharing my story because I intially thought I was alone and dreaded my surgery and recovery. I realized just because you feel like no one sees. Others might be in your corner and you never even know it.
I sure do wish you the best as you return next week and I'm sorry that you've had to go through frustration during your recovery, as well.

I'm very thankful that pretty much the entire rest of the staff is supportive and has my back. It doesn't really help with the stress, but it does help to know that everyone is sympathetic. I felt so frustrated today when I found out that, any additional time that I need (and I'm only 5 weeks tomorrow) is going to be unpaid considering that I tried to lay good plans to be able to work from home. There'd be no need for my work to pile up and for me to lose pay, if only management had listened.
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  #34  
Unread 01-07-2008, 07:51 PM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

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Originally Posted by Arly3
Well...I think it was your sup's job to get things in writing.

I am thinking a couple of things...calling your state Bar association to get free advice to see if you have a leg to stand on, and whether the IT fellow would back you up.

I'm not saying get into a legal hassle - but maybe a well-worded letter from a lawyer would straighten her out.

What a ..... never mind, she's not worth the typing!
Yep, and like I said, probably quite intentional that she didn't. I'll tell you one thing, once she's out west and I'm the one that will be reviewing these things... I intend to have a written plan.

You know, up until mid-last year, the DH and I had Pre-Paid Legal. They weren't really available for major legal assistance, but they could write a good letter if needed. Boy, am I wishing his employer hadn't dropped that benefit.
  #35  
Unread 01-09-2008, 09:21 PM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

If it were me, I would take the rest of my medical leave and put together my resume and move on...One of the most important things I ever learned in business was, "Behavior indicates behavior" and this women has shown her true colors. She sounds unstable and erratic...

As you know, if you were to injure yourselves in the office or suffer permanent injuries that can be tied back to your "non-work schedule", you will probably have a hard time collecting damages. All too often, your friends are work do not want to jeopardize their postions and will not stand up in court for you...Just food for thought.

I feel for you and I am wondering how you are doing mentally with all of this. I live in the state of CA (which happens to be a very liberal state) and based on what you have said I'd be entitled to a stress leave for 6 months...Okay, I am being a little dramatic - but I am worried that this will take a toll emotionally as well as physically.
  #36  
Unread 01-10-2008, 01:26 AM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

Wow this sounds a lot like what happened to me. I was approached by my boss about a month before my surgery and before I was offered the job I told her about my surgery coming up, she said no problem that she would work with me and even give me work to do from home.


As the surgery date came she decides to plan a vacation to Hawaii for 2 weeks which would start on the 24th. No one else knew the properties and I had little information myself by the time she left. She never brought me any work to do at home so no paycheck.

I don't understand why she would plan a vacation right in the middle of my recovery time it was really not smart and not very considerate.

I had my 3 1/2 week check up just a few days before she was to leave, I called her to let her know that I wasn't given the go ahead for returning to work. She later called me left a message and said that she couldn't show me all that I needed to know in 2 hrs. I was like what??? I was more than willing to come in but just couldn't the full days. I think the 2 hr was drama to get the other girls in the office to feel bad and pick up my work.

When I had tried to call her back she had shut her phone off so I left a message with my cell number in addition to my home phone that she left for people coming in for their vacation rental.

So who knows at this point where my job lies, I wish that I didn't have to work as it was only part time before, but just the way she handled it was insane.
  #37  
Unread 01-10-2008, 01:30 AM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

As I read your stories the thing that makes me so mad is this was not an elective surgery like a boob job or something. It's not a surgery we would wish for anyone.
  #38  
Unread 01-10-2008, 03:10 AM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

Tam -

Situations like this are hard aren't they? I think if I was you and the situation was like it was, I would have done the exact same thing. having been through this twice in just over 15 months (Hyst and then major adhesion removal), I so appreciate the impact on work when we are in positions of authority.

My 1st out was planned but also at fiscal YE so I felt bad. The wonderful thing was everyone said 'we're fine' even when they weren't. Honestly, other than meeting with my boss at 1 week PO to sign reviews (he implied their not being signed would hold up raises and to me that was worth a short sacrifice of comfort), I had no 'work' until I returned at 6 weeks. I want to point out, other than that 45 minute meeting at a Starbucks 3 miles from my house (was driven) I did everything 'right' and still developed and I quote 'the worst adhesions my Dr had seen in 25 years of practice'.

My 2nd out was to be 2 or 3 days and turned into 6 weeks. I had different issues with that recovery and while I wansn't tired, I was so swollen and achy for weeks after and the slightest activity caused me to balloon up. But, I did tell my staff to call if needed and they did when they didn't guidance almost from the start.

For me the issue was my Supervisors that report to me have HS writing skills, minimal finance skills and 20-30 years with the company. on the flip side my boss would ask them for things, give no direction and I think think they would resent me being out and 'dumping this' on them (they didn't but he was causing them a lot of stress and honestly, I felt a little guilt even though it was out of my control). So I would help with formulas, where to look, minor editting and that kind of thing.

I understand your concern about going against medical advise but again think I would have done what you did. I think your bosses commentary to your assistant was intentional to see if it would embarrass you and get you back faster. I also think you need to ask yourself if this is 'just her'. If so, I would certainly stay the course. You know what you are up to and what you feel 'has' to be done. You might though want to tell your Dr what you have been doing. She'll be 'long gone' shortly, and then her opinion of how you handled your recovery won't matter. It sounds like this is a great opportunity for you and as long as you aren't hurting yourself......

If this was week 2, I would be saying something quite different but at almost 5 weeks and slowly adding more, it sounds like this is ok.

With regards to pain at the end of a day, when I returned full time, I occasionally had days where my whole goal by 2 or 3 was to get to 5 and get home and off my feet with a Moltrin and a heating pad. My point being, there isn't a magical day where everything is 'over', its more of a evolution with ebbs and flows.

My thoughts might not be very popular but they're mine.

Julie
  #39  
Unread 01-10-2008, 10:06 AM
What to do when your employer is pressuring your return to work

Jcolorado,

I agree with your post. This is major surgery. Unfortunately because of healthcare insurance carriers being for profit corporations, most surgeries today are considered elective. Sad but true.

Personally, I really don't like how our healthcare system here in the US is being run. We definitely need changes. Wayyy too many people (the elderly, children, women, mentally ill & challenged, etc.) always seem to fall through the cracks. And too many are living without any coverage at all. It seems to me that the middle class is being wiped out. We are coming to a 2 party society - rich or poor.

The solution...get out and vote. It's the only way politics and those who can change the way our healthcare system can be changed.
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