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New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned) New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

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Unread 01-14-2008, 11:45 PM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

Im going to try and give you all a 'readers digest condensed version' of my story.

Hi My name is Victoria and Im 35 years old.

Last December, my husband and I after almost 10 years of marriage, 4 children between us (2 his from his first marriage, 1 from my first marriage and 1 from our marriage together) had a discussion about children. I was 34, he was 48 and we had never made a definite decision about having any more children. After a long emotional battle we decided he was going to get a vascectomy and i was going to go in for a checkup to help me with my heavy periods.
I went in, and after the ultrasound etc we found the culprit to my horrendous menstrual flow was a HUGE fibroid at the fundus of the uterus. Grapefruit size. There were several others as well but not quite as large. It was a week before Xmas 2006 so we decided to take the holidays to figure out what were were going to do. We were given the options of leaving it alone for awhile, endometrial ablasion, embolization(?) or hysterectomy.
Well to make a long story short...during the holidays I became pregnant... TO MY SURPRISE! It was a difficult pregancy but not too bad. I was on bed rest a lot and I bled, had some minor complications but all in all it was tolerable.
Her birth however was another story. I had a sceheduled C Section which went well BUT
I developed an infection from the surgery. My incision was beautiful, but deep inside I was infected. I had a 105 fever. I was so so sick. I had to go back to the hospital 8 days after giving birth ( after only 4 days home). I had 2 surgeries. One was a D and C and one was supposed to be a simple debredment that was going to take 45 minutes
Once my doctor opened me up, my uterus and surrounding area was so infected, there were pieces she couldnt even identify.
5 and a 1/2 hours later I was wheeled out of surgery missing my uterus and part of my fallopian tubes.
That was Septemeber of 2007. I dont remember much of that month or the month after that. The wound (which is still open by the way, superficial but open still) needed a wound vac to heal from the inside out and prevent further infection. I was attached to that thing for quite some time.
It is now about 4 months later and since I am more coherent than ever...I am starting the grieving process. Its overwhelming. I dont know what Im feeling why I am feeling it or even how.
I feel like I am still having PMS without the period
I feel like I am losing my mind
I feel like I am still in a post partum nightmare that will never end.
I dont know what feelings are related to post partum, post hysterectomy, post childbirth ANYTHING
I am a mess.
Has anyone been through an emergency hysterectomy? I had no idea it was coming, nor did I have any time to prepare mentally. I am so confused, I ahve so many questions I dont know where to start.
Thank you in advance
Victoria
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Unread 01-15-2008, 05:36 AM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

My mil had an emergency one on her honeymoon of all times. She says it was the best thing that happened to her now. Be patient with yourself. Everything you are feeling is normal.
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Unread 01-15-2008, 06:53 AM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

Hi Victoria
what a traumatic story. Many of us are coping with one issue, a hysterectomy, and have had time to prepare and consider options.

all the things you mention will have had an effect on you emotionally, and I'm not sure whether you can separate the symptoms from each.

your baby must be the positive result of all this. Is it too simplistic to encourage you to think about the positives?

I hope you're getting the support you need from family and your doctor..this is a fantastic site to get information, support and understanding.

All your feelings are valid, and you're not going mad..and if you were you'd be entitiled!!

Are you saying you think you're getting pms - if you still have your ovaries, I've been told that you will still be getting pms, as they are still producing the hormones which cause it..

Try putting some key words into the search here - you will get links to threads with lots of specific information and find people who have shared at least some of your experiences..

Hope things improve for you quickly
..and keep posting
x
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Unread 01-15-2008, 03:21 PM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

I just wanted to thank you for the reassuring posts. Is there anyone out there who had an emergency Hysterectomy and was therefore unprepared for it all?
I'd love to hear your thoughts
Thanks again!
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Unread 01-15-2008, 03:30 PM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

Wow, that is a tramatic story! I did not have an emergency Hyter, but I have been through emergency surgery with my daughter and I know the trauma that comes from things changing and not going as they are planned. It takes time to process it all and deal with it. Anger, Grief, Happiness even. The good news for you is that you will not have to deal with those fibroids or bleeding anymore! This will end, I know it seems like every day is long and it never will end..I remember days like that but I promise you it will end. My daughter had a wound in the abdomen that had to close that way and I had to pack it, it was awful, I know what that is like as well. As far as PMS goes, you will still have PMS< most of my family had hysters and they all still have theres...Track you feelings, it will help you know what is normal or PMS. Hope this all makes sense!
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Unread 01-15-2008, 04:16 PM
New here, Emergency Hysterectomy 9/18/07 ( children/husband mentioned)

So sorry that you are going through all of this without being prepared both mentally and physically. Here is another lady looking for similar help.


https://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/sho...d.php?t=323387
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