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Unread 01-22-2008, 06:22 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

Hi Ladies,

I had a LAVH/with ovaries and tubes removed on Dec. 31. I am going through so much and feel that I am not giving my body the relax and time it needs to heal. My husband left for Kuwait last Friday. Prior to that, a week after being home, I became sick with the flu along with my two year old son. It was very difficult taking care of him and myself. Even though I knew I wasn't suppose to lift him, I found myself doing so because he was so cranky and miserable.

As of now, I am taking care of 3 kids with little assistance from anyone. Sometimes, I start aching in my lower back and abdomen. I am worried that I am not healing properly. Please help if you can!!!

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Unread 01-22-2008, 06:26 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

You need to get some help! You cannot be lifting your son. I know how difficult that can be - I have a 7 month old! Please get a neighbor, friend, somebody to help you. You don't want to do any damage and end up having surgery again.

The pain you are having is a sign that you are doing too much. I have also felt that and told myself that I need to stop doing what I am doing and take it easy. I am 5 weeks along and I can do more now without the pain.
Unread 01-22-2008, 06:40 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

Thanks Dawn,
My mother-n-law will come and stay with me for a week tomorrow. I am going to do my best to take it easy. I have a question for ya, when I have my post-op will the doctor know if I have done some damage? At my two week, post -op all my stitches were highly visible.

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Unread 01-22-2008, 06:51 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

AKAbyrd, thank goodness you called in some help. My heart goes out to you with 3 kids. I know I would have found it so difficult not to over-do when my kids were that young.

I don't know the answer to your question. I would think not as to the internal stitches.

Hope you get lots of rest and healing in the upcoming week.

Unread 01-22-2008, 06:51 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

Glad to hear that your MIL is coming to stay with you. I would think the doctor would be able to tell if you aren't healing correctly. I went at 4 weeks and my doctor said everything looked really good. She asked if I was lifting my son and I told her that I had to occasionally but I did my very best not to. She told me to please not lift him - let someone else do it. If your son wants to be held and cuddled, see if he will just come to you and climb up into your arms. That would be the best thing. My son is only 7 lbs more than what I was supposed to be lifting (10 lbs), so I can only imagine how much your son weighs. Just please be careful!
Unread 01-22-2008, 07:23 PM
Thanks for advice

Thanks for your advice ladies. I am definitely going to take it easy. I am going to bed now!! Please keep my husband and family in your prayers. I guess the healing would be easier if he was here with me

God night and God Bless
Unread 01-22-2008, 07:27 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice


Bless your heart. Let me start by saying thanks to you and your husband for the sacrifice that you are enduring to ensure our freedoms.

My husband is in the Army and *knock on wood* has not been deployed during war time. But I know from smaller non-war deployments how trying it can be even when all is well at home.

I would encourage you to contact your Family Readiness Group for assistance. I am sure there are many young wives that would love to come stay with you and help. If you are going to the military hospital, I would mention this to your doctor to see if there is anything that they can do to help. Also, please try to contact your ACS office for possible childcare assistance.

Lastly, do you have any family that could come to help?

Do you mind me asking where you are stationed, what branch, how long?

Girl, I know that you are strong - you are a military wife! But right now, you MUST take this time to heal right...

Best wishes
Unread 01-22-2008, 09:59 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

I just wanted to say thank you for your sacrifice being without your husband and for his for all of us. I hope you will take hysterscared's advise to reachout and let people help you during your recovery, it may be 6months or 5 years before you could see the effects of not following dr's orders and take it easy-. I know its hard but please you and your husbands sacrifices are so much appreciated, i dont want to see you hurt yourself on top of everything else.
Unread 01-23-2008, 06:19 AM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

I posted before I read others. Glad to hear that you mother in law is coming but once she leaves, I hope you are able to find assistance through military resources.
Unread 01-23-2008, 12:11 PM
Doing to Much But don't have a Choice

My DH is military also. Luckily, he is not TDY or deployed but he still has been going into work everyday. I have 2 kids (Ones 9, but the other is 10 months) I know how it is trying not to hold her. My mom is here trying to help but she can;t lift her all the time so I find myself doing it. MY DH is getting mad because after going through it, he doesn't want me to hurt myself anymore. Hopefully when your MIL comes in, you can rest.

I just started seeing that when I am overdoing it, my stomach gets pretty swollen and feel like I have the prolapse again. But after rest it goes away, so I pray I have no damage. It's ftrustrating how long you really need to heal isn't it? Seems impossible with kids at home.

Good luck to you.

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