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Unread 02-04-2008, 11:37 AM
Positive return to intimacy

Hi Everyone:
I dont post often, but I read everything. The fact that no one is having good sex after a hysterectomey really had me worried because before it was really great. I had every thing removed so I have a vaginal cuff. I also had a bladder sling at the same time. My doc told me that my brain had to learn to use my bladder again since it is in a different position now. I had several accidents but now every thing is working fine. Taking that information of the need to retrain the brain after having bladder surgery, I applied it to sex. At 6 weeks when the doc said it was ok to have sex, I used a vibrator to have an orgazim, it took forever and was not even good. I also used it in my vagina, but was able to insert it only about 1 inch without a lot of pain. I repeated this every 3 or 4 days untill I was responding good and not having pain in my vagina . After 2 weeks every thing worked fine. I had sex with my husband last night for the first time and it was very good. AND MY HUSBAND LOVED IT. I think our altered bodies just need to learn to respond again.

I hope this information will help some of you out there.
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Unread 02-04-2008, 11:45 AM
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Hi Sundoll,

I am so glad to read your post, I am only entering my 3rd week and oh my god my desires for my DH are very strong. So I am counting down the days lol, but I am afraid, especially after reading some of the posts. Did you desire the DH before your release?
Unread 02-04-2008, 12:00 PM
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After about week 4 I started to have little twitches down there, so by 8 weeks I was ready to go. Just dont get in a hurry and do what you need to do to besure every thing is working right and it will be so much better for you and your partner. If I had sex at 6 weeks it would have been a disaster and very painful.

By they way I'm 63 years old.
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Unread 02-04-2008, 12:17 PM
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I am so glad to hear I am not the only happy flower LOL, the good thing is even If I wanted to be impatient the DH wouldn't participate. He keeps saying "your only going to get this one chance to recover right, or pay for a long time". I have not told him that when he holds me my thoughts are a racing, because it helps me sleep. But I thought it was odd to feel this way. Thank you for your imput. I am 43 and had the LAVH on 1/16/08, and DH has been great never lets me do anything that may hurt me.
Unread 02-04-2008, 12:25 PM
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Hi Sundoll,

I'm glad everything worked out well for you. My 6 week checkup is in two weeks and I am so afraid to be cleared for sex too. The stories that I've read has made not want to. Although, I told my husband that he has to get his "shot" off before we do anything because he may hurt me when it's time.
Unread 02-04-2008, 12:54 PM
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What a wonderful post, Sundoll. I love the fact that you are my age too.

There is hope for this old broad after all.

Kay---- 60 almost 61
Unread 02-04-2008, 04:44 PM
sex after op.

I wanted to join in and let others know that sex can be just as good and rewarding. My husband says it feels a lot better and now I can't keep him away!
Unread 02-04-2008, 05:11 PM
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Wanted to give my two cents as well...

My experience is also fantastic and it's now fantastic and more frequent
Just be patient and don't expect miracles straight away!
Unread 02-05-2008, 06:53 AM
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I was really nervous about the first time after reading some of the posts on here but I am happy to report everything was wonderful for me as well.
Unread 02-05-2008, 09:09 AM
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thank you sisters, we need the posative input so that we can feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I kept my ovaries also

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