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Some Questions, hopefully shared concerns... Some Questions, hopefully shared concerns...

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  #1  
Unread 02-16-2008, 12:08 PM
Some Questions, hopefully shared concerns...

Hello Sisters,

I am 4 weeks and 3 days post op (LAVH) and feeling pretty good. I am still getting tired easily, and my patience level is at an all time low, but I know it will get better. Here are my concerns & questions:

1. Stopped bleeding but the discharge is yellow now. Are you experiencing this?

2. I still have stitches protruding some tissue in anterior vagina. I also "found" a piece of suture string about 2+ inches long hanging from the center of my vagina. Of course I tried to remove it gently, but it is still connected to something.

3. The thought of having intercourse still scares me. I still have occasional spotting after a bm, so I can't imagine sex yet. How are you dealing with this?

4. I was prescribed vaginal Estrogen cream to apply to the surgical area. Turns out I was allergic to it. I felt I had the worst yeast infection ever. I ended up with what felt/looked like burnt skin everywhere the meds touched my skin down there. I had to take benedryl and use hydrocortisone cream to get relief. The best relief came from diaper rash medicine believe it or not. I found this odd because I had used estrogen patches during infertility treatments.

5. Lastly, (and most embarrassing) is this: I had an orgasm in my sleep, which woke me up of course, (not complaining ) but I kinda felt like I was ripped off. I had been so use to the uterine contractions that came with an orgasm, and that was missing, so I felt it wasn't as intense. Has anyone experienced this to find that it has gotten better (or worse)?

I am pretty much back up to speed. Hubby has been traveling and won't return for another week, so I am in charge of everything. They didn't do laundry during my bedrest, so I had to attack about 12 loads of laundry in stages, but I made it. Nothing got put away, but it is all clean... Now I have the rest of the house to content with. One little task at a time. I am not gonna push it.

Princess T
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  #2  
Unread 02-16-2008, 12:42 PM
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Hello BeGratefulToday!
I am 2 days ahead of you in recovery and it sounds to me like you are even more anxious than I am at "getting up to speed" again! Please don't pull your stitches! It's giving me the chills! I don't have yellow discharge (that I can tell) but I do have some "funky" aroma. I am assuming that will go away eventually. Have someone carry your laundry to and from the machine. I did it myself a couple times and it wiped me out for the remainder of the day! Next week I have my 5th/6th week internal exam. Wish me luck! By the way, this is my first day on this site. How do I get to those emoticons??
  #3  
Unread 02-16-2008, 12:46 PM
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Originally Posted by BeGratefulToday
Hello Sisters,

I am 4 weeks and 3 days post op (LAVH) and feeling pretty good. I am still getting tired easily, and my patience level is at an all time low, but I know it will get better. Here are my concerns & questions:

1. Stopped bleeding but the discharge is yellow now. Are you experiencing this?

2. I still have stitches protruding some tissue in anterior vagina. I also "found" a piece of suture string about 2+ inches long hanging from the center of my vagina. Of course I tried to remove it gently, but it is still connected to something.

3. The thought of having intercourse still scares me. I still have occasional spotting after a bm, so I can't imagine sex yet. How are you dealing with this?

4. I was prescribed vaginal Estrogen cream to apply to the surgical area. Turns out I was allergic to it. I felt I had the worst yeast infection ever. I ended up with what felt/looked like burnt skin everywhere the meds touched my skin down there. I had to take benedryl and use hydrocortisone cream to get relief. The best relief came from diaper rash medicine believe it or not. I found this odd because I had used estrogen patches during infertility treatments.

5. Lastly, (and most embarrassing) is this: I had an orgasm in my sleep, which woke me up of course, (not complaining ) but I kinda felt like I was ripped off. I had been so use to the uterine contractions that came with an orgasm, and that was missing, so I felt it wasn't as intense. Has anyone experienced this to find that it has gotten better (or worse)?

I am pretty much back up to speed. Hubby has been traveling and won't return for another week, so I am in charge of everything. They didn't do laundry during my bedrest, so I had to attack about 12 loads of laundry in stages, but I made it. Nothing got put away, but it is all clean... Now I have the rest of the house to content with. One little task at a time. I am not gonna push it.

Princess T
To answer your question number 1, yes, I am now using pantiliners for the first time since my TVH. I never had any bleeding after I came home from the hospital 15 hours after my surgery.

2. I have not been brave enough to look for any stitches since I have not been released for sex yet so there has not been anything put in the vagina yet.

3. I am a little anxious about the sex but since I am not released, nothing in that department. I am old and not as liberal and free as some so I will have to wait. No outercourse for me. Not passing judgement, it is just not something that I do with or without DH.

4. Not aplicable so I can't respond.

5. I too had an orgasm in my sleep and all I can say is "Thank goodness." I did not feel any different but I did appreciate the experience. I hate to admit this but I really do not have many orgasms and that is just how I have always been. I've only ever been with one man--- and I know that makes me a freak of sorts but that is okay. I've been with my DH since we were juniors and will be married 40 years this year after being together five years before that. I left my father's house and sleeping with my sister all of my life until the day of my wedding. I am content and happy with what I have and really don't feel that I've missed out on anything. Talk about being old fashioned.

Kay
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  #4  
Unread 02-16-2008, 01:01 PM
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I am very closely watching everyones posts on these things. I am barely 2 weeks out and really only have 2 complaints so far. I am counting my blessings and knocking on wood. I was lucky enough to not have a discharge of any kind after leaving the hospital. I keep reading about alot that have that issue and am really hoping that's not one I will experience. I had mine abdominally and my doc glued me up so no stitches on the outside to contend with. The sex thing really has me worried. I know my hubby will be chomping at the bit but I don't think I'll be able to say the same for me. I've always been really lucky in that I always orgasm easily and intensly. If that is going to change in a big way or be painful, I'm not sure how I will handle it. I've heard different things from that it is way better now for some and for others it just not there anymore. I sure am glad that everyone on here is so open about these things. I am sure it will make it easier to know what to maybe expect when my time comes.

Kay, there is alot to be said for being old fashioned. I often wished that the only man I could say I knew in that way was my current husband. Unfortunately, we met later in life. Or I should say fortunately since I know what it is like to wish I had only been with him. He is the best thing that ever happened for me.
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Unread 02-16-2008, 01:43 PM
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I sure hope that I did not sound like I was passing judgement. I am not. I just am a throw back to another era. My kids are always making fun of me for being old fashioned. Since many of the sisters on this list are as young or younger than my kids, I'm sure that I must seem weird and old fashioned to a lot of you too. That's okay, I am who I am and that's all that I am.


Kay
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Unread 02-16-2008, 03:35 PM
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Dear Kay,

There is nothing weird and old fashioned about being devoted to one man. You are lucky to have made your decision early in life and not have had to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince. Being happily married for 40 years is something to be proud of. Good for you.

As for the rest of the post, sex isn't on my mind yet....just came home from the Castle on 2/13. I did just have my first BM today and am pretty happy about that accomplishment. It seems a bit sad that a pooh could make one's day, but there you have it.

I hope your recovery goes well and you are feeling healthy.

Best regards,
  #7  
Unread 02-16-2008, 03:49 PM
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Hi Princess T,
1. I had a similar discharge until I was treated for a vaginal cuff infection, haven't had any since, (keep an eye out for chills, pain, or flu like feelings.)
2. I'm too far behind you for this one.
3. I'm scared of intercourse too, but I think if I wait until all tenderness is gone, and we take our time, it won't be a problem.
4. OUCH! Glad that one cleared up for you!
5. I had a big "O" in my sleep too and went on to share one with DH since I figured it wouldn't hurt and I agree, it was a bit of a let down, but those kind are never quite as good as when everything is in full swing. Intercourse was rather uncomfortable the last few years because of my prolapse so although I'll miss the uterine contractions, other sensations will be much more enjoyable so it won't be such a big loss. I have complete confidence in my brain's ability to adapt and have a good time.
I hope I'm doing as well as you in two weeks!!


Kay,
I think your story is wonderful and I dearly hope my daughters are like you and not like me. I was a wild teenager with Daddy issues, (that's what they blame it on these days,) but have been with DH only since I was 19. I wish with all my heart I could say he was the only one and I don't think for one minute I gained anything from my exploits. Maybe playing the field works for some people, but all it ever brought me was fear and heartache. I didn't think you post sounded judgmental at all
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Unread 02-16-2008, 03:59 PM
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Hey Kay, the more I read from you the more I realize we are a lot alike. I am a teacher, my husband of 27 years is my one and only (in everything) and I like being this way. You also live by the ocean in N.C., my second most favorite place in the world, after the mountains where I live in VA. But I am off topic. I had a TVH and I am just laying low, too afraid to even look, so I don't know if I have stitches sticking out! Right now the sex thing isn't important to me, so have no answers there. Tamra, woo hoo way to go! Having that first B.M. is cause for celebration, so are the next couple! Good luck there.
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Unread 02-16-2008, 04:41 PM
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Princess T - I am six days ahead of you with same repairs and TVH. Here are my responses to your questions:

1. Yes same discharge - almost gone except after a BM. It has changed to be more yellow and mucusy (like after and "O").

2. I too have seen stitches and believe we are seeing the undisolved ends of the stitches. My rectocle repair came open two weeks ago (very end on the outside between the rectum and vagina opening). That is where I first saw stitches. The repair seems to be healing OK even though I have an extra hole there. My DH inspects it every day or so and said that it is filling in with healing tissue. Honestly I think my doc sewed me up too tight. I felt a pop there 2 weeks post op and it opened up a week after that.

3. I too still spot after BM's sometimes from up in the vagina and sometimes just from where my repair opened up. I just recently switched from taking Phillips MOM daily to Miralax and it has made a HUGE difference in the BM department. I wished I would have asked my internal med doc sooner about this but I was following the OB/GYN's instructions. I too can't fathum intercourse - especially after the rectocele repair because of the extra scare tissue we will have. I wonder if the "car" will fit in the garage as I heard discribed in another post.

4. I too have experienced itching. I have been using a steriod cream 2X a day which I had been rx'd prior to surgery to help with vaginal dryness and itching from perimenopasal symptoms. It seems to be helping but I feel for you. The last thing you need is another irritation down there:-)

5. I haven't come to a full "O" in my sleep but very close. I too am pretty old fashioned much to my DH's disappointment but I have unfortunately been unable to achieve a vaginal "O" for almost 10 yrs due to the medical issues that led me to finally have this surgery. We have been having outerplay since week 3 when my moderate bleeding eased up. It has been nice because I don't have the pressure of having painful intercourse hanging over my head. I don't think I will be released for intercouse until at least 8 wks possibly as much as 12 because of my incision opening but I am fine with that. My DH said he was fine too, since we are still able to be together. So, I am forced to swallow my "old" values for the sake of our relationship. My DS picks on me because she says I am a prude - my DH agrees but knows I have some very personal reasons for that. I am young though to be a prude (almost 34) and have been with my DH since I was 15 yrs old. That makes it almost 20yrs this year and married for 14!!! It takes along time to change our ways and if they are meant to change it takes alot of trust and compassion:-)

I am glad I found your post because most of the sisters in my time frame that are posting haven't had the repairs we have had so it is hard to gauge if I am progressing normal. I think we are on the same page - so either we are both moving along as expected or are off the mark. I want to believe we are where we should be.

Hang in there - weeks 5 & 6 are a turning point:-)
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Unread 02-16-2008, 05:58 PM
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I only have a couple of issues I can respond to after almost 2 weeks out. I have hardly any discharge which is yellow-brownish. I had to have an internal exam (ouch) done yesterday because of a lot of pain I am still having. Doctor wanted to make sure there was no infection on vaginal cuff. He said the stitches looked great so far, but they are supposed to disolve. From what he told my about the A & P repair, I am afraid to have sex again. He said I went from 8cm to less about 3. My DH is also the only one I have ever been with, he never said he noticed a difference from when we were first married. Did have an orgasm the other day and it was wonderful. No uterine contractions, but great. I started crying afterwards because I was so glad everything worked.
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