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Unread 02-26-2008, 09:36 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Well here I am this morning feeling sorry for myself instead of celebrating. Guess I've got the posop blues. Has TAH on 2/21. I did get to keep my ovaries which I should be happy about.
VERY tired, no bm yet, lots of pain and just down right "blue". Can someone remind me that I will come out of this and be happier? I won't have to "not" wear white pants anymore or worry about swimming during the summer.
Thanks everyone.
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Unread 02-26-2008, 10:42 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

hey heidi
you will be fine. are you taking stool softeners? that really helped me. plus, the doctor didn't restrict my diet and of course, i ate chips and salsa on sunday! lol
i had my surgery one day after yours........i have pains that come and go, sometimes really really bad and sometimes just annoying. try to stay on your pain med schedule-that has helped me a lot!!!
let me pray for you:
Lord, I pray for Heidi, I pray that you will bring her calmness of heart and peace. Lord that you will take away some of this pain she is enduring and allow her to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Lord give her a spirit of joy and take the sadness away. thank you Lord for this site and the chance we have to come and encourage and help one another on it. thank you Lord because I know that once we get through this recovery period we will be so thankful for this surgery. amen

we are here for you heidi!!! keep in touch with us. find you some funny movies to watch. romantic comedies are the best.
Unread 02-26-2008, 11:04 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Hi Heidi. Mew had some great suggestions for you! I agree with all of them and I am in agreement with her in prayer for you! Just remember, you have been through a traumatic surgery and your body is in shock right now. Take time to rest, pamper the princess and make sure you have a pillow to hold tightly to your tummy when you are watching those funny movies...because its gonna hurt when you laugh. But oh will you feel better for laughing!

Sending many gentle hugs your way!
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Unread 02-26-2008, 11:26 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me


You don't need to be smacked. You just had major surgery and today you're a little down. We can't all be happy and cheery all the time. You already know that it is going to get better, but in the midst of the pain, it is sometimes difficult to see your way clear of this.

I join Mew68 and Noble1 in intercessory prayer for you. Keep in touch on the site and yes, find some funny movies. The writers strike is over, so maybe there will be some better options to

Blessings on you (and my new prayer partners) ....
Unread 02-26-2008, 11:28 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Heidi -

I know that the 1st couple of weeks are soooo hard, not only on the body but also the spirit. Its been almost a year and a half for me and even though I had a complication a few months out, I know I made the right decision and it was the right thing at the right time for me.

Honestly, I cried alot I mean a lot, the 1st few weeks post op and I think it was even worse last summer. That did pass. In the begining, I think its GA and hormones and really really really absorbing that this was 'major' (As women we do tend to try to minimize things for ourselves you know? But there's no minimizing this!). As the pain fades and some energy comes back, I cried because I was frustrated I couldn't do more. I had this picture in my head pre-op that the 1st 2-3 weeks would be recovery and the next 3 would be 'vacation'. I was wrong.

I returned to work at 6 weeks but did so 6 hour days the 1st week, I just wasn't ready and I was afraid about having to drive home in rush hour exhausted.

Some where around 12 weeks, I went running (maybe hopping) down stairs like I hadn't since pre-op. I chuckled to myself as I think that was something that felt familiar and 'normal' but it was a lot longer in coming than I had thought.

On the other hand, 2-3 months out of our lives is a blip on the radar if it means we get our quality of life/peace of mind back.

I wish you peace, patience and a smooth recovery,

Unread 02-26-2008, 11:37 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Hi Heidi,
Today is four weeks after surgery and I can't believe how good I feel! My husband keeps telling me that I only have one chance to heal properly, so I am still being babied, but I'm enjoying walks out, lunch out, even taking my little dog down the lane.
I know how you feel and in the beginning, everything is hard - getting in and out of the shower, putting on underwear, getting into bed. Just have in your head that all this post op time is for one thing - recovering! You don't have to make meals, learn to play the guitar, take in all those educational documentaries. Just do what it takes to distract yourself while you recover. And if you feel a little blue, that's ok. You won't feel that way forever, because every day you'll get a little better.
I live in Canada and the most distracting thing I did for myself was to lie in bed with my cat and listen to the CBC (radio). If something boring came on, then I'd switch to a book on tape that my husband found for me. Then when my kids came home from school (13 and 16), I'd ask them to play a game with me - Scrabble, Boggle, Backgammon. Later, when it was easier to sit in a chair for awhile, we did a puzzle together. Learn new ways to connect with family and friends and pets, too! My dogs both wondered why I wasn't walking them anymore, but after my family walked them, I let them into the bedroom to just be with me and they seemed happy about that.
Your body is very very busy inside, healing and repairing itself. You'll feel many emotions, all ok, all normal.
Breath deeply, take good care and before you know it, it will be Spring and you'll have all these down days behind you!
Unread 02-26-2008, 11:38 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Originally Posted by laughnowcrylatr
I had this picture in my head pre-op that the 1st 2-3 weeks would be recovery and the next 3 would be 'vacation'. I was wrong.

OK Julie, you are so in my head!!! My view was that this was going to be a couple weeks to recuperate and then let the party begin. I thought I was going to do all of these grand and wonderous things and ... well ... it just didn't happen.

I'm sorry that the vacation didn't happen, but I'm glad that I took it easy.
Unread 02-26-2008, 11:40 AM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Dear Heidi,

I hear you on this blues thing. It is hard for us women, physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. That is exactly why we are all here on this forum. We understand as only one who has experienced what we have can. So, as your hyster sister, I say, you are not alone with your feelings. I have had moments in the past 8 days that include tears. Our bodies have gone through a lot, and we must remember, we are not used to focusing on our self in life, I know I am usually last on my list...after I have taken out the garbage and all! Also, I find it humbling to need others. Getting food & drink brought to me is nice but sometimes I have felt so useless and needy. Those emotions are new to me, as I said I am mom to 3 and wife for 18 years...I am new to this experience too. I am a counselor too, so I am used to being Dr Daragh & mom....I am used to being the one to help. With this, I am reminded that I too need help in life. So, please dont feel there is something wrong with you, in are responding normally
I'm here for you always, my new friend and sister~
Unread 02-26-2008, 02:13 PM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

Hey Heidi, you're feelings are normal. I know I laid in bed last night and just bawled.. no reason! It's emotional release! When I got home from the hospital there were roses waiting from dh. I bawled! I read his card... I bawled! I read all of his card and laughed till I hurt... it said "more to come in 6 weeks... wink, wink" Take each emotion as it comes and look forward to the next day. We're all here for each others support! That's what so great about this! Take care... HUGS!... Man now I'm crying too! LOL
Unread 02-26-2008, 03:18 PM
Post-Op Blues...someone smack me

I have the blues too. I am 2 weeks post op today and had been doing pretty well until today. I haven't been sleeping well since the surgery and had my worst night last night. So, I have been crying today, and feel totally helpless and hopeless. My DH has been trying to do his best to take care of me, but he is chronically ill and not feeling well so the house is a mess. I am just so frustrated, I can't take it. I saw the surgeon today for my 2 week check up. She didn't have much to say - just ordered blood work, did a urine test and will be ordering a CT for severe back pain I've had ever since the surgery. She also did a full pelvic exam - OUCH! No mention of anything to help me sleep or anything. I am so frustrated I could spit nails. I know it will get better, but that doesn't seem to be helping me any today. For the first time, I am questioning whether I should have had the surgery or not, and I was so sure before.

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