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Unread 03-09-2008, 09:38 AM
We did the deed

Although we were given the go ahead as of last Wednesday, my DH and I did not attempt to have sex until yesterday morning. I guess my face showed how scared I was because he asked me over and over if he was hurting me. He wasn't. It didn't hurt at all. I did not bleed but we also did not complete the act. I guess it was enough for the first try. I am still worried because I did not "feel" much at all. I can't wait until this aspect of recovery is back to "normal" or is this what "normal" is? Any comments?

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Unread 03-09-2008, 11:28 AM
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Kay -

Nerves probably got the best of you. I know they did me. I got to do it once before my latest disaster and for sure the only thing I felt was nerves. Maybe try things out on your own to give yourself confidence that all is *working*.


Unread 03-09-2008, 01:27 PM
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I agree nerves may have gotten the best of you, it is really hard to get into the moment when you are scared and are so unsure about what to expect. I was quite disappointed after the first few times, things were better when I finally was able to relax. I do think things feel different for me now with my cervix gone and that is a little disappointing for me but there is nothing I can do about that now, I have accept things will always be a little different.
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Unread 03-09-2008, 02:06 PM
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Thanks girls. I did have an unusual dream last night. It was very erotic which is not like me at all. I guess I'm a little more ready in my head and dream state than I am physically. I guess practice makes perfect.

Unread 03-09-2008, 02:31 PM
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Hi Kay,

You know what they say, "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!" I guess you will just have to resign yourself to the fact that a lot more practice is neccessary!! Practice makes perfect! Hee-hee!

Such trials we must go through, such a burden to bear...
Unread 03-09-2008, 04:07 PM
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That pretty much sums up my philosophy of life, Sharon.

Unread 03-09-2008, 06:16 PM
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Nerves got to me too. Next time will definitely be more fun now that I know I won't bleed, or hurt, or scare Hubby
Poor guy, I gave him about 2 seconds to bask in the afterglow and then said, "get up, I need to see if I'm bleeding." I had this image in my head that I'd be surrounded in a puddle of blood and it definitely put a damper on my mood, despite champagne (or maybe that was part of the problem.) It was a silly fear, I didn't even spot afterwards, but you know how our brains work, once the thought is there, it is pretty hard to shake.

I'm glad it wasn't too traumatic for you though. Dig up the brain cells from w-a-y back and remember what it was like the very first time. I bet you are much better at it now in this case, familiarity is a very good thing. Now go get reacquainted!
Unread 03-09-2008, 07:02 PM
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I am dreading doing it- I am only 5 days post-op and it does pop into my mind often. I know hubby is going to wait for me to initiate it - as he is terrified for me as well, but I have no clue when I will be physically or emotionally ready. Will play it by ear.
Snowy_owl I fear the puddle of blood too...LOL... you are so funny!

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