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Unread 03-23-2008, 07:47 PM
how to tell DH "how to do the deed"

Originally Posted by lyndamic
If you are comfortable with it, total honesty between you is the way to go, in my opinion.

Tell him outright that you are now allowed and interested in resuming sex, but he may need to be slow and gentle, and you aren't sure at all how things will go the first couple of times. Make him your "co-conspirator", and work together on this.

For us, resuming sex was as awkward as high-school fumbling in the back of a van! My husband was so afraid to hurt me, he could hardly bring himself to touch me. We were able to laugh and make jokes about it, and it actually brought us closer together in the end.

I didn't really have pain, but felt a bit uncomfortable at first, as if my body had forgotten what was supposed to happen. It only took a few attempts, and we were right back to our comfortable and happy relationship.

Five years later, it's still all good. This will just be a little bump in the road for the two of you.

PM me if you would like more explicit advice. I'm a nurse, and am totally comfortable sharing what worked for us.
Hi, I Would Like So Much If You Could Please Go Futher Into Details, I Had My LAVH On 3/3/08 And Not Only My DH Is About To Explode I Am As Well, We Were Very, Very Sexual(TMI) Prior To The Surgery (5-6x's) A Week. And Boy Do I Miss It, I Mean The Kisses, The Touches, He Has Given Me Nearly Make Me Orgasm(Whoo(TMI). I Have Read About The OuterSex, What Is That? I Also Want To Know If It Is Also Safe To Have An Orgasm, Before My 6week Post-op Appt, I Will Be Visiting My DR, On 4/10/08. Thanks For Any Advise That You Can Give.
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Unread 03-23-2008, 07:54 PM
how to tell DH "how to do the deed"

we have had sex about 4 times since i was released . we just have to be sure to take it easy as far as penetration, but its been ok. i'm sure it will get better as time goes on....
Unread 03-23-2008, 08:25 PM
how to tell DH "how to do the deed"

ssndDee==Outercourse is stimulation on the outside to the big O . No pentration and no oral. Ask dr or dr asst. if that is ok. The first few times made the stomach muscles and incisions hurt because of the spasms. We also have a very busy sex life also 5-6 x week. It is nice to know that I am not the only one who can nearly orgasm with a touch or look. The other odd thing since this surgery is the dreams. Never had intimate dreams before, I guess a perk ! I just figured that I was becoming a dirty old lady, YEA!!!

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