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I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy? I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

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Unread 03-14-2008, 02:09 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

I know it's a strange thing to say but I really liked being the one that was taken care of for a while. I had my 6 week post-op visit today and DH was with me and doctor said everything looks great. Still shouldn't exercise for 6 more weeks and I should wait at least another 2 for sex. I am just afraid that now everything will go back to the way it used to be and I'm expected to everything all by myself. I like being the one in control but it was so nice to have DH insist he did everything for me and I don't want the attention to stop. It is so wierd that I have never felt like this before, I wonder if it is just those wonderful hormones. Someone please tell me I am not crazy. Thanks.
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Unread 03-14-2008, 02:21 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

I dont think your crazy, I d*****ately want to feel better but I am nervous about my 6 week check up. I am at 4 weeks and I feel better but there are still days where I cant get things done and am exausted. I'm hoping to be lots better in 2 weeks but I have explained to my husband that I wont be my old self for awhile and still will need extra help. It helped alot to talk to him and he has assured me that he will demand that I take things slowly and will continue to do whatever I need him too. I suggest you talk to him it cant hurt and in my case I feel better about not being rushed to be 100% until I am. And the hormones are visious! but we are women we will survive.
Unread 03-14-2008, 03:10 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

HI - you're not crazy - we were all being so careful for 6 weeks and hopefully getting a lot of help around the house - its funny to get to your 6 week checkup and be told - as I was - you're all healed do whatever you like and to go from being looked after to being the one doing the looking after.

I have read here that it takes a good year to be completely healed and I am going to start doing things I used to and will also get help with other stuff that my DH and 2 DSs have now been able to do for me - remember to look after yourself and take your time with resuming activities - we have all been through a lot and even though we are healed we can still get very fatigued. take care, Vee

(TAH - kept ovaries)
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Unread 03-14-2008, 05:12 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

If your crazy, then I am too! Ha! I came into the post-op forums just a few minutes ago and (no lie) actually said to myself, oh, I wish I was in one of those "NEWER" dated recovery progress reports! I have loved this! The pain at first was bad, couldn't wait to be past it, but I dread going back to work and doing everything again. I have my 6 week checkup next week, and, though I don't feel completely well yet, I'm sure he's going to tell me to go business as usual. Oh well, it was a much needed 6 week break.
Unread 03-14-2008, 06:31 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

I had my 6 wk check up today and yes it is painful to go back to "business as usual"... My doc did say that hubby should still vacuum for a while which is okay with me, but I have already been doing laundry (after he carries it down) and making meals, doing dishes etc. I jsut like the idea of being able to sleep in and watch a late show if I want... Enjoy your remaining time off.
Unread 03-14-2008, 06:37 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

I so totally agree with you all! I especially liked that my calendar has been totally clear for four weeks--how nice to just do things for me. Maybe I need to look at this as a lesson to try to have less commitments in the future??
Unread 03-14-2008, 06:41 PM
Sjmb_me Too

You are so not alone. I have been feeling this way all week and then some. Went for my checkup yesterday and all is well but I want more attention!!!!!!! My doc said everything is healed but it will take 3 to 6 months to feel real good and up to a year to not feel fatigued. Going back to work Tuesday but the real busy part of my day starts when I get home. I don't want to be back in the groove yet. SJMB I am sending you lots of TLC, and understanding. I had a TAH/BSO-Jan. 28th.
Unread 03-14-2008, 07:00 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

Definately not crazy ... I too have enjoyed being pampered & its a rude shock to get a clearance from your Dr & then suddenly realising that those at home are expecting me to be completely back to normal, ie to pick up & do everything again.
I have just this morning vacuumed through our house which was really bad ... but honestly have got so fed up asking for stuff to be put away & tidied - am feeling a bit tired now, so am having a quiet afternoon !!
Unfortunately life goes on, & yes I know recovery will have its good & not so good days .... but if you have a DH that is able to pamper you for another few days or weeks, just relax & enjoy it ... its over too soon!!
Unread 03-15-2008, 11:13 AM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

YOU ARE SO NOT ALONE. I feel the same way DH was so attentive and I felt like a fragile doll .I am 3 mos. post op and I am not treated with as much care. What do you ladies think? I think it even affects female libido
Unread 03-15-2008, 01:16 PM
I don't want to be better yet, am I crazy?

I guess I'm in your crazy club as well! I was fortunate enough to be off work for 8 weeks last summer and even with the pain in the beginning I still loved it. I loved that nobody had any expectations of me other than to heal and get stronger. My family took good care of me and I remember feeling like I never wanted to go back to work.....and then real life came back.....sigh.....take it easy getting back into your routine.

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