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Unread 03-22-2008, 03:17 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

[quote]even though I slipped up once it sure made me want it even more.

Did you hurt yourself? When did you have you TH?
The wait is killing me....My Hubby is so freaking hot. Hard to control even my thoughts!!!!!! LOL.
I also so miss my work family and not so much the work. I do love my job, we make it fun.
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Unread 03-22-2008, 06:30 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

3toogetready, how did you manage the orgasm. My husband is dying to try and help satisfy me. I am so afraid to have anything near that area right now. But boy would I appreciate one. You are my new hero!!!! I will let you know if I decide to give it a try.
Unread 03-22-2008, 07:11 PM
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Well I Understand About The Desire Being There,but You Need To Wait Until The Dr. Says Ok. I Got The Ok At My 7 Week Checkup,but I Waited Until 8 Weeks. I Was So Scared When My Husband Gave Me The Look. Mentally I Was Not Ready, But My Dh Sure Was. We Took Things Slow & Easy,but Things Were Uncomfortable For Me. Things Had To Go Easy Due To Pain,but My Mind Felt So Scrambled With Every Thought Imaginable I Couldnt Enjoy It. Just Take Things As Slowly As You Need To & Dont Rush Things. Good Luck!!
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Unread 03-22-2008, 09:09 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

i had mine on january 31, last week the doctor gave me the go to resume my sex life, so i decided to pay a surprise visit to my husband who is in the army. my doctor told me that the first couple of times could hurt a little, but to take it easy and it would go away. well the first 2 times werent bad, there was a little spotting the first time but i thought that was normal. when the 3rd time came, that really did a number to me, after we finished, i was hurting bad, i had absolutely no control of my bladder, i was hurting bad. now i'm back at home, planning on going back to work monday and i dont know how i'm going to do that. i feel like there is something wrong, i called the doctor, hes not the one on call and the one that call me back told to call first thing in the morning on monday and have a sonogram done. anybody has any ideas on what it could be. my poor husband feels so bad, he thinks he "broke" and the last thing i want is for him to be afraid of having sex with me now!!! any advices or suggestions

Unread 03-22-2008, 09:17 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

Oh No I Hate To Hear That! My Dh Also Felt Bad When I Hurt After Our 1st Time Back In Action. I Dont Know What To Tell You, But Just Reassure Him That He Didnt Break Dh Hasnt Touched Me Since & I Think He's Afraid. To Be Honest Im Kinda Glad Because I Really Wasnt Ready To Start. We Dont Want Our Supportive Dh To Feel Bad, So If You Figure Out How To Make Him Feel Better Let Me Know. Also Please Be Sure You See Your Dr. Asap & You Might Want Your Dh To Go As Well So The Dr. Can Tell Him Your Not Broke! Good Luck!!
Unread 03-22-2008, 09:26 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

even though I slipped up once it sure made me want it even more.

Did you hurt yourself? When did you have you TH?
The wait is killing me....My Hubby is so freaking hot. Hard to control even my thoughts!!!!!! LOL.
I also so miss my work family and not so much the work. I do love my job, we make it fun.

Well no we didnt hurt me, we both laid on our sides so we couldnt be too rough. I just got tired of waiting and really wanted to be with my DH (Hubby). I agree with you that its so hard, my DH is really hot too and it was really tough. But just remember only do it if you feel safe enough too, and remember to take your time okay. I know my doctor said not too, but waiting so long is hard. Some people on here waiting till week 4 and some 6 and some longer, so its up to you. But please be careful as you would need to be aware of infections or spotting heavily after. Most women on here mention to be careful on tearing your vaginal cuff.

So again its up to you and your DH, but its your body and you listen to it okay!! If you decide to be with your DH, then good luck and enjoy!
Unread 03-23-2008, 01:48 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

I love this site, so much time and caring comes from all who get on it. We have more than we need right here with just one post we can reach or get an answer much faster than anything. I am a little scared to tear the vaginal cuff & the possibility of infections.I know that I want to but will wait. It has taken this long to heal to this point. We do find other ways to help us along the way for me much later than DH of course. I have had 3 orgasms the last week almost two weeks and they are much different than orgasms before TAH. Not at all as intense as the ones I would have before. Still really good. I hear that in time I will not notice the difference but I sure do now. Please all of you take good care of yourself and be safe we don't want setbacks. O boy but how hard it is!!!! I'm with you all on that one. Time heals. I'm counting days. Thanks for all your replies.
Unread 03-23-2008, 09:53 AM
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Rennyri---the big O may not be as intense as before because your body is still healing and you are apprehensive. It was the same for me in the begining. Now however, you are right the big O is not the same it is much better. Once the body became healed enough it was not a concern. I also think that because we are thinking about the hurt and if it will be the same that that alone will effect the outcome. Relax and let your body and mind heal. Have a Happy Easter if you do that.
Unread 03-23-2008, 10:27 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

Ladies - I had to find out if the "O" is still there and how different it would feel. I am 10 days post-op, last night the urge just over took me and I asked DH to assist (no intercourse of course).....well that didn't work out at all. I was way too nervous. Later by myself I was succesful and it was very different from before but MUCH more intense. I am so happy today and it is a great weight lifted from my shoulders. I was afraid at 6 weeks when we get the ok that nothing will happen. Now I have something to look forward to!!
Unread 03-23-2008, 10:34 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

Nicole---DH had tried also and that also did not work so your not alone on that front. I think that once the that weight is lifted that even more healing can take place. Now that you know that everything works it does become more difficult to wait. But in reality that is ok because it give one more time to experiment

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