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Unread 03-23-2008, 01:34 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

Hi All,
I think it really depends on you and the type of surgery you had. I was told 10-12 weeks with the possibility of up to 14-16 but then again my surgery was a bit more extensive and I was cut up my stomach and I now have a 9" incision running up my stomach just a bit left of the belly button. I had it all taken along with the appendix. I am so scared to have sex, I have read other post where the women did have sex and it was too soon or something happened and they started bleeding. eek.......... I am afraid, I still have pain, it is all incision related but I do still take pain meds at night. I don't want to end up back in the hospital now that I have gotten myself back to work and in an exercise routine. I am eating right and have dropped 24lbs since surgery. I feel pretty good other wise, the menopause issues have been very slight and managable. I will be 11 weeks, I guess it is time poor husband LOL!
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Unread 03-23-2008, 01:59 PM
Question about resuming intimacy

KKJranch2005& Nicoler76, I did the O again and found that it was more intense in the vagina area (not talking G spot here). LOL The part I do not feel is the deep contracting in my uterus. I am not complaining As I thought I might be the one that would lose all my sexually desire. I didn't......and am very excited about everything that is to come. I love that I do not have the pain I had before. I am still short on energy but that also is getting better everyday. My DH and I experimented today....He was very careful and went very slow as not to hurt me. It was nice to have the closeness. I do hurt a little bit. It was short lived and finished another way. No blood. My 3 wk post op check the Dr said that We could at 4 wks and it is almost 5 wks . We all have so much to look forward to. Thank you for your replies.
Unread 04-01-2008, 11:21 PM
Can"t Wait

This is a new site for me! A girlfriend told me about is great! I had a TVH on March 3rd and I am leaving for 10 nights in the Mayan Riviera on Wednesday April 9th...going for a Doc check up on the 7th of April...will keep you posted!!! I am married to my wonderful husband of 23 years and he is taking me to Mexico..what a sweetie!!

Originally Posted by daxlou
Menoherone, so sorry ... I don't know but your doc could work with you on hormonal balance.

well, I had my 2 week post op yesterday and I specifically asked my doctor about what is allowed and not allowed as far as sexual contact with hubby. he said everything is allowed EXCEPT penetration. he said the only concern, in my case since it's a TVH, is inside the vagina. so as long as we refrain from penetration of any kind, anything goes. (don't want to get descriptive but there are ways to have an orgasm). that to me was great news! in fact, he told me an orgasm wouldn't hurt anything inside and to enjoy them.

:-) YAY!

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Unread 04-02-2008, 09:01 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

I am so scared and nervous about this, I keep putting it off, I still have some pain around my incision, I was cut up the stomach about 9' to the left of my belly button and right around my belly button there is still some soreness and tenderness, I guess the main reason I am scared it because I don't want to bleed and end back at the doctors. Well good luck everyone.
Unread 04-03-2008, 01:28 AM
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Thank you all for your replies.
I Just got the ok from Doctor today and my thoughts took me to a place I have been longing for. I drove home to wait for hubby to come from work for lunch............. No stopping me now....Ha..Ha.. He was so willing. It was the best little snack. I am very glad I still have the desire, in fact I want it all the time. But had to wait..... Little sore But all is wonderful. So..... SEX IS BACK!!!!!!!!!
Unread 04-03-2008, 09:48 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

good for you...there is hope for us then! Thanks for that little bit of info!!

I can hardly wait!!
Unread 04-03-2008, 10:01 AM

Hi, I had my TVH on march 3rd and I am leaving on a spring vacation with hubby on this Tuesday for 10 days in the mayan (he said I would reccoperate better there! what a sweetie!) check up on Monday ...start of my 6th week... for me and him that she says "GO FOR IT!"

Originally Posted by 3toogetready
Hi Ladies, I went to my two week post op appt. two days ago I asked my dr. very specificaly what we could do for intimacy, he also told me as some of you have mentioned that orgasm is ok, but nothing in the vag. for six weeks. I have to say I was glad to hear this, it has eased the tention for the two of us (dh), and allowed me to think about other things in! I couldnt believe how strong the urge was so soon after surgery, but relieved. Good luck all. Happy spring day!
Unread 04-03-2008, 08:00 PM
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Rennyri, I got the biggest kick out of your post!!!! LOL Go Girlie!!!!!
Unread 04-04-2008, 01:54 AM
Question about resuming intimacy

Beejaya & Sleepyhude,
I love this site I have had so much fun.... I am glad to help with the sex is back and make you lol. The only thing is I wanted to have my snack tonight and was to sore to try....Maybe tomorrw... Like I said Sex is back with more desire then before my surgery. I love it!!!! Thanks for the replies.

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